I'm the maid of honnor in a wedding and am planning a wedding shower. The grooms mother was invited. And today I got an email from the groom RSVPing for HIM and his mother. He was not invited the invitation had only his mothers name on it. The shower is women only. How do I handle this? Is it okay to tell him he's not allow that it's women only? I'm not sure how to go about this, I think it's extremely rude of him to invite himself along.
2007-06-25 07:56:35 · 21 answers · asked by miss_stacey1984 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
BTW it's a surprise shower the bride doesn't know about it. My aunt also already told him mom it was women only, because he's a big mommy's boy and goes where ever she goes...I know it's lame.
2007-06-25 08:16:35 · update #1
Just tell him that it's really just for the bride and it's for girls only. Maybe tell him that the groom usually only attends a wedding shower if it's a couple's wedding shower. Maybe you should talk to his Mom and see if she can talk to him, since he's a momma's boy! Good Luck with that one!
2007-06-29 07:49:55 · answer #1 · answered by Kellybug 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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Couple showers are becoming more and more the norm. HOWEVER, there are still woman only showers. Since your aunt has told his mother that it's a woman only there is nothing wrong with you taking him aside and explaining to him that this is for the girls only. And that your sorry he misunderstood the invitation but that it was for only his mother. Explain to him (why his mother didnt already tell him i dont know) that no other males will be there. Maybe you can also get the best-man to plan something for that day. The bet-man can plan a surprise get together and they can go golfing or whatever it is that they life to do. So that it would get him away from the bridal shower and doing his own thing.
Basically, he needs to be told that this is a woman's only. Since his mother was aware of that fact already there should be no problems in this. I would also let his mother know that you got an RSVP for the shower but that you think they both misunderstood and that it's for the girls only.
2007-06-25 15:39:42 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him it's women only. I don't think he would want to be at a bridal shower.
Don't jump to conclusions assuming he's rude. He may not know that this is a women-only thing, and assume you forgot to invite him. I'm sure once he finds out everything will be OK.
And if you don't want to call him yourself you could have the bride give him an FYI that this is a girls-only thing.... I guess unless you are doing a suprise shower.
2007-06-25 15:05:22 · answer #3 · answered by Laura 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Since you are the MOH, you should have the grooms' number on file. Call him - or see him - & let him know that this is a "hen party" - no boys allowed! Do it in a cheerful way so he won't take offense. If he shows a bit of resistance, ask him if the bride & her mother are invited to the bachelor party?! lol
That might make him stop in his tracks & think twice!!
Good luck dear - remember, tactful & sweet!!!!
2007-06-25 15:03:28 · answer #4 · answered by pumpkin 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry too much. Just call him up, let him know that he must be mistaken-wedding showers are for women only! Be nice of course, but you need to let him know immediately. I really think this is a phone call thing-NOT EMAIL. Things can be twisted and turned in email but your voice can be all sugary sweet and he wont have a mean thing to say. He really just may not have known better-I don't think it was a matter of rudeness.
2007-06-25 15:02:01 · answer #5 · answered by Des 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that traditionally it's women only. If he wanted to be apart of a shower he should talk to his fiance about doing a joint shower and have someone else plan it. Be honest, he would also feel out of place if he was the only guy there.
2007-06-25 15:02:53 · answer #6 · answered by IeNj 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He may think he's obligated to go since he is the groom. I would let him come. I'm sure once he sees that it is a room full of women, he will quickly grab a bite to eat and run for the door! lol
2007-06-25 15:06:54 · answer #7 · answered by terasa425 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would call and talk to the bride, sometimes I don't know why but the bride wants her fiance there. Maybe she told him to RSVP to her shower. If she says no then call him and say it's for women only and it's not a co-ed shower.
2007-06-25 15:08:42 · answer #8 · answered by Butterfly 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i would call the mom up and explain to her that it is a surprise girls only bridal shower and that her son will feel really out of place being there.
2007-06-25 15:33:28 · answer #9 · answered by Supermommy!!! 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would call and be joking about it at first...like...come on you really want to hang out with a bunch of women all day....don't worry you'll see the lingerie soon enough...hahaha....maybe he'll get the hint. Maybe the bride asked him to come....check with her too.
2007-06-25 15:08:13 · answer #10 · answered by Elizabeth L 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋