Right, I brought this girl home a week ago, but before we left she made it very public that we were going home together that night, i.e. lots of kissing and holding hands in front of lots of ppl. Thing is, I don't relaly want things to go further, but I don't really know how to 'save face' for her when i see her out tonight. I.e. most ppl would know she went with me and that we're not together becoz everybody seems to know everyone here
2007-06-25 07:52:45 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
So what's the question???? Thanks for the free 2 points.
2007-06-25 07:56:21 · answer #1 · answered by FOAMY! 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What can I say? There is no easy way, unless she makes it easy for you. For a start, did you tell her from the outset you didn't really want to get serious? Neither is there ever a 'good time' to do so. Some one is always going to get hurt in break-ups if one or both parties are not mature enough to realise that these situations can and will occur. If I presume you don't really have emotional feelings for the person in question, the best thing to do is be tough with yourself and accept that you don't feel there can be a relationship, because that is not what you want. Cold logic must take over. And in future, always let the other person know from the start what you are looking for. Yes, you may end up with egg on your face. Or you may not, but at least, learn from the experience and move on. Honorably!!
2007-06-25 08:07:54 · answer #2 · answered by Room_101 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if you have not been with her for a long time, which makes it a whole lot easier to let her know that you are not all that interested in her at this time.If she had any sense, she would not have tried to force you into a quick,commited, relationship.Do NOT worry about what other peole think, you know what is right for you, even if it means that you have to tell your friend that you are not ready to be with one person, not just her, at this time.You are both young, so it will resolve itself in time, but you have to distance yourself, from her.Maybe you can tell her that you need to talk to her, and be gentle, if she doesn`t get it, watch out, you could be in for a rough ride, with this situation, and in that case you won`t think twice about telling her to cool it with you.
2007-06-25 08:09:22 · answer #3 · answered by deedeeco1738 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the first thing you did wrong is you brought her to your house. The next thing is you kissed her back and held her hand. Now you need to let her know you don't want anything more then just friends and if you don't want that then you need to let her know. Just let her know you are not the one for her and she could find better.
2007-06-25 07:57:20 · answer #4 · answered by Angel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, i'd say you give her a break-up line but then she would know that you really really don't like her enough to give her the truth so tell her what you think and feel. Basically tell her that you don't think thatt ya'lls relationship is going nowhere fast.
2007-06-25 07:58:03 · answer #5 · answered by YOu+Kn0)u(WaNt*MeEe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you go out talk to her person to person and tell her straight out you don't plan in getting serious right now with anyone and you do not appreciate her announcing she was going home with you. She was way out of line.
2007-06-25 08:16:29 · answer #6 · answered by beliz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her know in advance that you are not ready for a relationship. Tell her she is a great girl, but you just do not have feelings for her. When you are with her, do not allow her to do anything inappropriate if there is no relationship.
2007-06-25 07:58:37 · answer #7 · answered by UnderwaterTomato 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's actually better to not let her down easy. if you are straight-forward, she will get the picture right away. she might end up calling you a jerk and all, but at least things will be clear to her and you won't end up breaking her heart in the longrun by leading her on. :)
good luck
2007-06-25 07:56:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to help her save face would be to propose marriage
2007-06-25 07:57:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
*Silly boy! You should not have brought her home. For a gril that's a sign you have serious feelings. Old fashioned maybe, but it still is.
2007-06-25 08:21:04 · answer #10 · answered by Mariska 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best way is just to text her that she's dumped. Saves a lot of aggro, tears etc.
If your lucky she will then stay at home, so you and your mates don't get embarrassed.
2007-06-25 07:56:37 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋