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I'm just so unhappy lately with the way my husband has been drinking. He's in such denial about his problem and i've just become a codependent to his addiction. I'm so sad and have been crying all the time. I've been taking a class 2 days a week and the evening class is when he feels like closing the bar down. I'm so stressed over his behavior and can't even focus lately. Any suggestions would be appreciated.

2007-06-25 07:48:21 · 15 answers · asked by Lyla 3 in Family & Relationships Family

15 answers

go to Al-Anon

2007-06-25 07:51:10 · answer #1 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 2 0

Alanon. Big help.

first of all, you didn't put the bottle in his hand. So you aren't responsible for his drinking.

Second, see a lawyer to make sure you're half of the estate is covered - so that he doesn't drink that away too. Or if he's in some kind of accident while DUI. You could lose the house and everything else. Maintain separate accounts -

No amount of love will stop his drinking.

Yeah. Alanon. Go. This very day!

2007-06-25 15:08:47 · answer #2 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0 0

Alcoholism is an addiction, and is also now termed as a disease. He won't stop because without it, he feels he couldn't live. He may also have other reasons; it may hide a depression for him, or cover up events he regrets, or something else.

Regardless, there are places to go for help. First, you should have him go to Alcoholics Anonymous..That is, once you get him to admit that he does have a problem. An intervention might even be necessary.

Secondly, you'll want to find out about your local chapter of Al-Anon, an organization dedicated to helping the families of those with alcoholism. They will help you find support and solace, as well as help you with getting assistance for your husband.

Good luck with everything.

2007-06-25 14:53:16 · answer #3 · answered by X 2 · 0 0

It sounds to me that your husband is an alcoholic.
Alcoholics must recognize that there is a problem before they can accept help for it. The problem is, one of the symptoms of alcoholism is denial that the problem exists.
He will probably have to hit a "bottom" to know he has messed up and needs help. That bottom could be you leaving him, or getting into an accident or worse in an automobile, or losing his jobs etc.
I wish you well. Think about going to an AlAnon meeting where other people like you discuss what its like to live with an active alcoholic.

2007-06-25 14:52:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I'm sorry to hear about this... I know what it's like. There are actually support groups for family members who live with addicts. You might want to do research on-line to see if there are any meetings in your area. It would be better for you to get an advise from the professionals on how to handle this situation. If your husband is in denial, it's going to be very hard to get him to face the issues, by talking to people in the same situation you might get the tools you need to help him and yourself.

2007-06-25 14:55:30 · answer #5 · answered by ? 1 · 0 0

He's become dependent on alcohol. You're going to have to discuss this matter with him yourself.
I know a man who is very popular but like his brothers has a fondness for alcohol.
One night, he was found lying down in the middle of the road drunk. He could have been killed. I got him to get help. He's now fully recovered.

2007-06-25 14:53:11 · answer #6 · answered by LuckyStar 3 · 0 0

How many drinks does he have in a day? Unless your husbands fully admits he's got a problem, otherwise, he'll be in denial that he has an alcoholic problem.

2007-06-25 15:00:05 · answer #7 · answered by PinkKitt'n 3 · 0 0

If you are truly miserable you may think about leaving him, or at least seperating until you can get him to recognize his problem and does something about it. You deserve more. I know you probably really love him but you are what is most important in the long run ..you and your well being and happiness.

-Some suggestions.......talk to his parents?
-Call AA on him...is a tough love tactic, but if he helps himself he will be grateful.
-Leave him. hard to do when your in love but you deserve more.
-Talk to his friends?

GL

2007-06-25 14:55:56 · answer #8 · answered by eric f 2 · 0 0

keep in mind that there is alot of other things to do than drinkin.
you should have sex, to keep occupied. Go out, and do something fun. Walk through this problem together. Spend some quality time with him.

2007-06-25 14:53:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Self-sacrificed isn't worth it at all. You have to talk him out about it when he's sober. You have to explain to him the factors why you're feeling down about his addiction.

2007-06-25 14:52:57 · answer #10 · answered by C A M S ™ 3 · 0 0

You need to go and see a therapist. I have the same problem but I'm not married to him.

2007-06-25 14:51:43 · answer #11 · answered by Jenny D 1 · 0 0

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