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My 3 year old son is now (unofficially?) potty trained. He wears regular underwear at home. He stays dry when he's awake.

I'd like for him to be in regular underwear when we go out as well. But I'm so nervous about him having an accident (going peepee) when not at home.

I guess what's making me nervous is what if he pees on a friend's sofa or carpet, or pees in his chair at a restaurant, or in the middle of a store.

Are these kinds of accidents unavoidable? Anything I can do to help reduce the number of potential accidents? I make him use the potty before we leave the house. Any other ideas?

Thanks so much.

mari

2007-06-25 07:00:21 · 12 answers · asked by mari m 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting Toddler & Preschooler

12 answers

They are pretty much unavoidable, but there are a couple things you can do to lessen the frequency of accidents. First, make sure that he goes potty right before you leave the house (don't take him potty and then do a couple more things before you leave - take him potty and then walk out the door). Take him potty when you arrive where ever it is you are going. It doesn't matter if your car ride was 10 minutes or 30 minutes - kids can go minutes after already using the potty. Then ask him every 30 minutes from then on until he has had enough experience with the warning signs and can tell you he needs to go. Hope this helps!

2007-06-25 07:13:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

If he keeps dry at home chances are he'll know what to do once he's outside of the home. Try inviting him to peepee after he's had something to drink and about every 2 hrs. He'll probably let you know if or when he needs to go, so just drop what you're doing at that time and take him. You shouldn't worry too much about him not being able to make it to the bathroom because at that age they're able to hold it for a good minute or two.If he wants to go when driving just pull over, open the door and let him pee right there, he's a child and a boy so no problem. however always have tissue/wipes and a change of clothing on hand. And congratulate him on being a big boy, using the toilet even when he's not at home. I've been doing this with my daughter since she was about 30 months and haven't yet had any use for the extra set of clothing.

All the best.

2007-06-25 14:12:57 · answer #2 · answered by Aliyah 84 2 · 0 0

well i would try going out to see what happens. i have 4 children and with the 3 that are "potty trained" never had any accidents in public. i did carry an extra potty chair in the car so that if there was not a potty my child could fit on, then he/she had their own. my kids were also scared of other potties, so having the potty chair made it alot easier. but im pretty sure that once they get the idea of going potty on the potty, then they will want to go on the potty regardless of where they are. anyway hope this helps, and good luck with the little one.

2007-06-25 14:10:19 · answer #3 · answered by bonnie 3 · 0 0

I was the same way! With my three kids, what I did until I felt more secure, was before we headed out, I always had them go to the bathroom first. I tried to just do quick errands, or keep it to places that had a bathroom. If I went to a restaraunt, or a friends house, I made sure to keep track of the time and make sure I brought him to the potty every 45 minutes or so.

And lastly, I always carried around a spare set of undies/pants with me, in case of the unavoidable accident. It does happen, and its not the end of the world, people are very understanding! Good luck!

2007-06-25 17:12:27 · answer #4 · answered by Mom 6 · 0 0

Relax Mari.....Until your son is potty trained 24/7, use the Pull Ups on your son when you go out, so take plenty with you. Explain to him that they are his big boy underwear, but he still needs to tell you when he has to go potty. If he has an accident in public or at a friend's house, take him to the restroom with you & put a clean pull up on him. At least you won't have to worry about him soiling a chair, sofa, or carpeting. Remember never scold your son for soiling his pants. Just tell him he's a big boy & he needs to let you know right away when he has to go. :)

2007-06-25 14:26:48 · answer #5 · answered by Shortstuff13 7 · 0 0

I actually the past few months have been potty training my little girl and I was so afraid of that exact thing so I stopped running errands while she was with me. I found on Babies R Us they have a travel potty. Little leg snap down and it fits in my big purse. We go into the bathroom at the mall or in the parking lot at the car and pull out the travel potty and she is good. Doesn't even have to touch the nasty public toilets. So Far so good. Only used it once but that once was great at a restaurant.

2007-06-25 16:20:30 · answer #6 · answered by Tiffany 3 · 0 0

We always said that 'accidents happen', and I never put stress on my son about going potty. i think we had one accident at the mall, and that was it. If he senses that your freaked out about an accident, then he will be stressed. Just ask him often, and be ready to be in the middle of the checkout line and he will have to go NOW! Or my son's favorite was about 5 minutes after we walked out of the bathroom. There will be novelty in going into strange bathrooms, and then the comments of 'pee eeww!" lots of those on the way for you!! Always keep extra clothes on hand and wipes, but I wouldn't make a big deal out of it. If you have a dramatic reaction then it will become a dramatic event.

You should ask your friends how they would react if your son had a accident at thier house. Chances are you would be more put out about it than they would.

he will figure it out, and then it will be smooth sailing. You will get to see abosolutly every potti on the planet!!!

Good Luck

2007-06-25 14:23:57 · answer #7 · answered by frameliner 3 · 0 0

I think the most important thing you can do is chill out! If you are paranoid about accidents happening, your nerves will rub off on your son, and that kind of tension and stress are exactly what bring on accidents!

If your son feels ready to wear underpants in public, and you feel he is sufficiently potty-trained, then you are probably both right. However, accidents are a part of parenting, and they will occasionally happen even if everything is done right. Just clean up and get on with life. No big deal. ...But please do not worry so much about accidents, or you will bring them on!

Good luck!

2007-06-25 14:41:08 · answer #8 · answered by Rain Dear 5 · 0 0

When Maya was first training I would have her go as soon as we got to a store, friends house etc. Then I would have her go again every 45 min or so. She only ever had an accident at the park, and that was because she didn't want to stop playing. I had asked her every 10 min or so, but she kept saying no, and went on and peed in the sandbox. So I stopped asking, I just started taking her weather she needed to go or not. But after a couple of months I didn't even need to do that anymore.

2007-06-25 14:31:36 · answer #9 · answered by mayasmom1204 4 · 0 0

There isn't much you can do about this. Make sure you ask him every 10 mintues to go to the bathroom. If you are worried about being stuck on the road, you can go to any camping store and buy a travel potty which are collapsable and can hide under the seat of the car. Being at your friends, well, most parents just don't go anywhere until you are very sure he can go without wetting himself.
All parents go thru embarrassing wettings while away from the house. You just have to get thru it.

2007-06-25 14:06:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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