she is there just for day camp
called me yesterday crying and today she called and said she didn't feel good but I wouldn't pick her up-told her to hang in there. She doesn't know anyone and they all seem to be friends or on a team together and she said they do not talk to her. She has a 2 and 1/2 hr break where she is by herself.
it is for only 1 week and I will not get a refund..what should I do?
Keep her there knowing she is miserable or take her out?
2007-06-25 06:58:39 · 11 answers · asked by Willow 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
This was her idea....
she wanted to improve her play
2007-06-25 07:28:16 · update #1
I think this depends.
Whose idea was camp? Did SHE want it a lot, or was it just something fun to do that you both casually agreed on?
I was raised by a woman who always came to the rescue and bailed me out of distressful situations like this, and although I applaud her for always trying her best and keeping me in my "comfort zone," she really made a big quitter out of me. I now constantly quit when things get difficult or uncomfortable, and that's what happens too often.
To avoid that happening, I suggest the following:
If SHE suggested and/or pushed to attend the camp, I'd absolutely make her tough it out.
BUT, if you can't bare to see her suffer,or if the whole idea of soccer camp wasn't her idea, offer her this deal:
If she's willing to work for you (washing windows, painting, chores, etc.) at an hourly rate to work off the price you paid for the camp, then allow her to come home... but offer this ONLY if you are willing to make her keep up her end of the bargain.
This way, you can rescue her without making a quitter out of her.
If the above offer isn't fitting, offer her some other compromise. The important thing is that you help her learn that every choice she makes has a consequence, both for the good and for the bad.
In the end, you're her mother, and you only can decide whether or not she needs to come home. Don't let anyone judge you for whatever choice you end up making.
2007-06-25 07:20:08 · answer #1 · answered by undauntedspark 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
keep her there - its only a week. think of that book "if you give a mouse a cookie"...if you take her out of this without making her give it a try what's next? you signing her up for band, buying a $500 instrument, then letting her quit after 2 days of playing? use this as a lesson in life...you might not like it but finish the season (or whatever time period it lasts), tell her she doesn't have to go next year if she really doesn't like it but that she has to last out the week. on a practical note - remember this camp is to help her play better soccer and she won't learn these tips if she's not there.
2007-06-25 14:22:11 · answer #2 · answered by mender_bender2001 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's a valuable life lesson to keep her there... You can't alway get what you want, therefore you have to make the best of things. Tell her to practice hard and play well, and make the first move when it comes to meeting the new girls. She's on day 2, there are only 3 days left, she'll get through it.
2007-06-25 14:09:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe get a couple of the other girls phone numbers and invite one or two of them over after camp one day. That way she'll get to know them a little better and maybe will start to enjoy it.
2007-06-25 15:07:29 · answer #4 · answered by hotmomma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would speak to the management and let them know that for some reason that your daughter is unhappy. See if they can help with the situation because they need to know if kids are not having a good time. Even if you don't get a refund they need to know. After talking to them give it one more day with your daughter and if the situation doesn't improve let her quit since it isn't doing her any good to be miserable.
Go ahead and give me thumbs down people but you need to WAKE UP...Have you ever considered that something may be going on that she hasnt told her mother?, that is why I suggested talking to the management. I'd hate to be your kids.
2007-06-25 14:07:25 · answer #5 · answered by mom of twins 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I would bet that by weeks end she will have made freinds with half of the people attending the camp and will rule the day you hauled her out.
Leave her. I guarantee she'll change by the end of the week.
2007-06-25 14:03:45 · answer #6 · answered by mikeae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As someone who is ALWAYS in your daughter's situation, tell her to stick it out. Instead of them having to talk to her, suggest she talk to them (and I know from personal experience, this is hard). Sometimes it's just as easy as jumping in on a conversation. Talk to one of the directors of this camp. They may not be aware of her situation and can facilitate some ways to help her make friends.
But the biggest thing you can do is be there for her.
2007-06-25 14:03:32 · answer #7 · answered by Heidi W 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
let her try and make friends and surely there will be someone who wants to befriend her.you can let her call you when she is very lonely and talk to her.let her stay sometimes thats what life brings.we get some where and you dont seem to get through to any one.life is full of tough times and since she'll be facing it herself let her start now.you cant be there and prevent all miserable times.
2007-06-25 14:07:01 · answer #8 · answered by onel2k 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
telll her that you paid for the camp and you would feal bad to waste all that money tell to try and talk to the other kids to get to know them more and maby that willl make her feal bettter
2007-06-25 17:20:50 · answer #9 · answered by brown cat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep her there, she has to learn how to cope and learn how to make new friends. I doubt it'll tramatize her for life. It's one of those things where she'll thank you later for, or maybe not. But she'll learn from this experience. Part of life and growing up.
2007-06-25 14:07:48 · answer #10 · answered by droolie_da_dog 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋