Why are most men so terrible in bed?

Question

Extremely lazy.

Extremely lazy.

I said most. I have met one that was ok.

Answer 1

Ha. I've been there in that kind of thinking. I think the only men that are like this, are really the selfish ones. I now have a partner where everything is extremely reciprocal, so we are both happy.

Don't settle. You can only work with a partner that compromises and cares about your needs. Find someone who respects you and wants to make you happy.

Good luck.

Answer 2

That's tough. I don't think you're right, but it's true that some men care only about their own pleasure and not the woman's. I'm not that way but I know plenty of guys. You aren't really defining what you mean by lazy so it's probably one of a few things. They won't eat you out, they don't want to have sex when you want to or maybe they don't have enough stamina for you. One thing that you may try since you are experiencing this so much is to give these guys some guidance as to what your sexual needs are. A lot of women don't so this but it could help. Don't give up on guys as a whole.

Answer 3

How would you know that "most" men are terrible in bed; unless, of course, you've sampled a great deal of the male population? If the sample you're using for your observation isn't fairly large, then it's highly possible that you've just had a few "flukes". If your sample is large, then, well....

Things that make you go hmmmm...

Answer 4

Men aren't terrible in bed...most just need a little instruction to learn what satisfies you in particular. Rare is the man that is truly awful.

Answer 5

You aren't gonna like what I say, so I suppose I'll end up getting some sort of crap for it..

If every man you have slept with has been bad...maybe it is not the men, and perhaps it is you. You are the common factor, lol.

Answer 6

How tall are these "Terrible Lover's?" The only reason I ask is because I've been married 3 times, right. Well 2 of my Ex's were only 5'9" & the other 5'10", and they weren't very good in bed, either.....In fact my 2nd husband I had to teach him everything!! Then he became a bit better in bed, when he wasn't wanting me to do everything, right!!! But, that was cuz he'd only had two girlfriends in his whole 33 years until he met me!! Then I married my son's father who I'd known 1/2 my life!! We had been together off & on for 1/2 our lives, right.. Well this man was 6'4" and was he ever the "Best" in bed I've ever been with!! I kid you not, this man made me feel so pampered in every way in the sack!!! And was he ever so good at pushing alll of my "Buttons" in just the right ways!! My oldest sister told me, many years ago, that she felt tall men were better in bed than any other men!! And I never beleived her until I'd met my 3rd husband, he's the one I'd known 1/2 my life, right...well its true, to the end!! I'd still be with him, if he wasn't so controlling!! He wanted to own me, and this is what ended-up drawing a serious line between us, and eventually the devorce!! I couldn't take being a prisoner in my own home!!! Anymore!! See, I got so tired of fighting with this man about his controlling ways so much that I gave up completely!! I quit doing the shopping, or going on family trips with the family all of it, because if I went anywhere with this man, or without him, if a man so much as talked to me, he would later tell me "You were eye F---ing him weren't you? Or when I went to the grocery store, and came home and mind you I hurried as fast as I could cuz I knew how he was, right... Well when I came home he would say to me, "How many phone numbers did you get?" And the argueing was ON!!! That's not healthy, so we both moved on!!! And it took me a few years to feel like I could go somewhere without feeling as though I was going to get chewed out when I came home, you know.. he really played with my head that bad!! But was he ever great in bed!!! In fact he still calls me, and the other day he asked me if I still loved him, and I told him "I'll never stop loving him!!" That I still think we're 'Soul-Mates' because we both know exactly what the other wants and thinks and how they like it in the bedroom, just everything about us, is as if we were meant for eachother!! And I still would love to spend the rest of my life with him after my kids are grown, you know.... Because I dont want them to see me getting picked on anymore, by him......And yet I would love for us to be together when my 2 teens are all grown and settled in their lives.. Then I can handle this man, without the kids around better, you know... So, go and find yourself a "Tall Man" honey you wont regret it!! But make sure he's not too skinny, just right in the weight department, and you are good to go!!! Smile!!!

Answer 7

Takes two to tango baby!

If there is a problem with what your receiving then work with it until you get what you like, if that which you have cannot be molded into what you like then perhaps you should move onto something "bigger and better".

That or start dating people who can read minds, chicks dig that!

Answer 8

because women exspect men to be mind readers and just know what they want.if women would tell the man exactly what they wanted most men would give it to them.however they are some men who don't care and just want to get off.but i think most men care if the woman is satisfied.i know i'm not satisfied until the woman is.

Answer 9

perhaps they are lazy because you aren't showing much effort either. at that point they ( I know I ) would just like to use you to get the job done.

and why is your english so terrible?

Answer 10

Its biology, you are supposed to have several lovers to satisfy you in the jungles. Most gorilla communities the practice of sex was more like group rape, your biological pleasure mechanism is based more on that evolution than modern day romance.