me and my guy have been together for over a year now and here lately weve had lots of little arguements and lots of disagreements. i dont know if its because we have alot of stress on us with jobs and trouble seeing each other over summer or wats causing it.we really love each other and i believe that we could spend our lives together, but i want these things to stop asap! they make it awkward and difficult between us. we only seem to argue until we each get good and pissed off then we tend to let it go, and within an hour or two were back to being completely happy with each other. thats mainly the reason i dont think they affect us so much. only after its over do we slow down and talk about it then it really seems pointless and unnessecary. when its over i apolojize but he thinks sorry is just a word and doesnt help the situation so i dont say it but he says he knows i like to hear it so hell say it to me. i dont know how to handlethat one either! HELP!! i dont wanna argue ANY MORE!!!
2007-06-25 05:51:31 · 3 answers · asked by rckstar88 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You and your beau need to communicate. Talk about it from the get-go so that these arguments don't happen! And it's all about compromise. If you don't want to do what he wants to do, compromise and do it to make him happy. It works both ways!
2007-06-25 05:55:11 · answer #1 · answered by theewokprincess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If "sorry" is just a word, then maybe "love" is just a word to him as well. If you think that getting married would solve the problem THINK AGAIN! I have said this time and again. ANY relationship whether it is romantic or otherwise leaves room on the outside for friends. If the two of you are friends with each other and nobody else, you're getting a twisted sense of the word "relationship". If arguing seems to be the worst thing that is happening, take a week of conversation and find out what is being argued about the most. Try to find a compromise. Not everything is going to go the way that you believe it should. This applies for him as well. If you really want the disagreements to stop, you will find a way. And remember, it takes two to argue but it also takes two stubborn people who will not back down or make a compromise.
Think of it this way: arguing or debates are a way for you to get to know that guy who you are romantically attracted to. If you can find a way to *start* an argument, you can also find a way to *stop* or delay an argument. I haven't found any happily married couple that doesn't have a few disagreements every week. But those that are happily married have discovered how to compromise and that is what both of you have to do.
Another example: When the Ohio River and the Mississippi River come together, you don't see one river pushing another one off the river course. They come together and form a bigger river that is enjoyed by more people combined than with their own rivers at their beginning.
2007-06-25 16:56:37 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to argue, then don't argue. It takes two people to argue and you can control yourself. So if you start feeling upset, end the conversation.
2007-06-25 12:55:40 · answer #3 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋