obeying parents rules? christians only!?

Question

CHRISTIANS ONLY!!! I want God to bless my girlfriend and I's relationship and i don't think it will happen unless we obey His Word. The Bible says to respect your parents and authorities so I told my girlfriend that i wanted to ask her dad what we're allowed to do. but she says that it's our relationship, not her parents' and we should decide what we should do. i dont know what to do?

PS i'm 15 and she's 14

dont worry we both agree that sex is for marriage only. this is more about kissing, having arms around eachother, etc, etc

we are both christians

Answer 1

Although I agree with the first answer, I also think since you two are already "dating", that yes, you guys need to open up to your parents and yes, follow the rules. Remember, respect and trust, always!

Answer 2

You, my friend are SMART!, however your girl, i think she's a little on the immature side. As a christian, i have been taught honor thy mother and father and you live a lot longer (laymans terms). I respect any guy that will go to his girl's father to ask him what they are allowed to do in the relationship. Truthfully, and you may hate this answer, i think that your girl may be a bit too young and immature to be in a relationship at this time. i suggest that you tell her that maybe at a later time when you are both a little more mature and older, you can persue this relationship again, if both of you are willing, because i am getting this vibe that your girl isn't gonna do what her dad says just for not wanting to do what her dad says. God Bless and Good Luck!

Answer 3

first of all you are too young to date( i know you thinking ....whateverrrrr)... but if you are a christian you have to understand that there's unlikely chance that your girlfriend will be your wife....when you are that young you are just opening a door to the enemy to tempt u... and if she's not a christian and doesn't want to obey her parents why you even wasting your time? The Bible says 2 Corinthians 6:14 "Don’t team up with those who are unbelievers. How can righteousness be a partner with wickedness? How can light live with darkness?"

Answer 4

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le sigh... alright dude, let me explain something to you. I was a christian, a devote follower until around your age, you're going to start realizing a lot of things about love and life, and what that does and how that affects you is always different. I hate to break it to you that she is right though, yeah its great to have approval but when it boils down to it, some peoples opinions and ideals dont amount to much more then a bucket of ****, and yeah that might hurt to hear if you take it too personally but thats life. You do the best you can, and you do what you need to in order to be happy, sooner or later you'll find out you can't make everyone happy all the time, and generally people will do the same despite your feelings...(yeah its great to be considerate, but consider the fact that most people arnt)

in other words, do what you need to be happy, and hang the rest of that ****... you're going to start seeing and hearing a bunch of conflicting arguments, and in the end you know what it all amounts to? your decision... funny isnt it? your choice despite it all, so whether or not you decide to "honor" someone, is all up to you... make the choice that seems right to you.

I hope that helps, just think about it.

Answer 5

As christians you respect her for the young lady she is. Limit the showing of affections (necking, long kissing etc) so that your both not tempted to go further. Yes your both human and it can happen. This is not a question you ask the parents I must agree with her in this subject. There nothing wrong with holding hands or lite kissing. Both of you stick to your word of waiting until your married. God never said anything about not dating, he said for us to wait until were married to be intimate.

Answer 6

I think there should be more kids like you in the world! thats amazing! I would ask her dad if you had any doubts about him liking you or being worried about your relationship with his daughter. Just follow his word and go with the Bible. Your relationship will truly be blessed whether it be now or later!

Answer 7

you are completely right. if you want to be blessed by God, you NEED to go talk to her parents to see what the boundaries are. whatever rules they set, you should abide by them. If they don't believe you're ready to be dating, you need to respect that decision too. God will tell you when it is time to do certain things...never force them. And above all, obey your parents and stay in church. They will love you more (both your parents, and more importantly HER parents)

Answer 8

As I see, u really know Bible. So you will know Bible says to obey your parents and you will have success and a long life. What has more value God or your girl???

Answer 9

Tell your girlfriend that you want to show her dad that you respect his daughter and that you respect him. Then just ask him if there are any rules that he wants you to follow, such as curfew or where you guys are allowed to go on dates. Make sure you tell your girlfriend that you are just trying to make a good impression and help your relationship go smoothly. But don't talk to your girlfriend's dad about intimate issues... those are strictly between you and your girlfriend. Make sure that your girlfriend knows this.

Answer 10

Hi hon,

I really admire you for wanting to keep your relationship pure...but I think that it would be a bit awkward (to say the least!) for you to ask your girlfriend's dad what the two of you are "allowed to do." (My guess is that his immediate response would be, "NOTHING!" :))

A good rule of thumb for you, instead, might be to think about not doing anything with her that you wouldn't want her dad to see. Holding hands? Probably okay. Hugging? Probably okay. Kissing briefly on the cheek or the lips? Probably okay, too. (Full-on making out, having sex, or otherwise? Probably NOT good!)

Best of luck to you, dear!