i have a four yr. old daughter... shes really smart and has been potty trained since she was about two... but for some reason she wont wipe when she goes to the bathroom... we have to constently go to the bathroom with her to make sure that she gets "clean"!... im starting to get frustrated!... iv done everything i can think of... (from giving prices, to just sitting down and explaining to her why she needs to wipe) but nothing is working!... she'll even take the toilet paper off the role and throw it in the toilet because she knows me and her daddy are goin to check!! i cant figure out for the life of me why she wont do it?! ANY ADVICE IS APPRECIATED!!!!
2007-06-25 04:52:45 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Have you tried not wiping for her or not checking. If she realizes it's uncomfortable she might start to do it herself. Maybe you could make a special trip to the shop and buy her some grown up pants that she has chosen and tell her that if she wants to wear special pants she must be clean and dry or try getting some wipes instead of toilet roll. I wouldn't advise putting her into pull ups, try to encourage her rather than tell her. If you ignore that she hasn't done it she probably won't think it's such a big deal. Good luck x x
2007-06-25 05:15:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe because she knows that is what you want she doesn't want to do it. It's a control thing. Either that or she just doesn't understand the importance of being clean, however, if she accidently were to get a bladder infection she'd realize the importance of it.
To be honest with you though if you are only concerned she is not wiping after she pees, then I'd actually just let it go for now. One of two things will happen, 1. You can try to re-explain it again when she's a little older, 2. She'll realize it doesn't bother you and do the right thing. I personally know someone who was never taught to wipe after going pee, and didn't know it was appropriate until she was 13, and nothing bad ever happened. If the problem is she isn't wiping after she poops, then also quit checking on her or wiping her. She'll start to smell bad, and realize that wiping will prevent the smell, and the sore sensation in her crack (because not wiping poop will cause a rash similar to diaper rash in the crack, which from what I understand hurts rather badly).
2007-06-25 14:03:26 · answer #2 · answered by ... 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My 3 1/2 yr old daughter is doing the same thing. I've tried to convince her, just like you have..but she won't listen. Last night, I tried to sit her on the edge of the bed, to change into jammies, and she jumped right back down, telling me her bum hurt. I got down to her level, and told her, that if she doesn't wipe her bum everytime she's gone to the bathroom, and wipe until the toilet paper is clean, it can give her a sore bum. for a minute, I could almost see the little hour-glass icon
It sounds awful...but I think the only way to get them to believe you, is to actually let them experience the alternative. Then offer a bath!!
2007-06-25 13:26:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey don't panic, children are all different, the more you and your husband go on at her to wipe herself the more she will challenge you. Try letting her take a baby born doll into the bathroom with her, encourage her to clean dolly as she would herself. It will take time; but try not to make to much of an issue of this, or it will develop into a bigger battle. You have said yourself that she is smart, she will get the hang of it before long enough, i know that at the moment it doesn't seem like it, but it will come eventually, maybe not until she starts school and sees her peers using bathroom in the correct way.
2007-06-25 12:17:20 · answer #4 · answered by marfy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the toilet paper is too rough for her? Have you tried those moisten toilet wipes for kids? I think it's called Kando? It's packaging is purple and green with a frog on it. Maybe something new will get her to wipe?
2007-06-25 13:46:47 · answer #5 · answered by DAR76 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would guess she would be embarrassed to be put back in a diaper so, get some pull ups and tell her that if she wipes she can go back to the panties. (i don't have children so I am totally guessing, but I hope you get it sorted out) good luck
2007-06-25 12:02:25 · answer #6 · answered by sisy j 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
quite simply shes too young to do it on her own, shes still little and needs your help in a year or so she should start doing it just fine on her own. i started doing it on my own when i started school
2007-06-25 12:20:02 · answer #7 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋