So part of the reason I left my husband is b/c he had no job...so for a 1 1/2 year I paid for everything and went to work everyday while he sat on his ***. (there were other things too like drugs and him hitting me) So I leave him and getting a divorce and I meet this other guy and turns out he has no job and sits around at his parents house all day. I'm now his "Sugar Momma. Thats just silly! JUST SILLY! So um my question is what the hell is wrong with me? Why can't I go and find a "sugar daddy" instead of being a stupid stupid person and falling for stupid stupid people? Someone help me I'm not mentally well.
2007-06-25 04:16:52 · 13 answers · asked by Lovely Lady 27 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
All of the answers you have read so far are all wrong! The thing is you need to take a time out, basically to find out who you are and what you want in life once you have figure that out show the outside world what you want and if there is a guy with same ambitions he will come to you or you will go to him, it will take time but it will be worth it!
2007-06-25 04:23:32 · answer #1 · answered by T-unit 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So why do you choose these guys? It's very likely that you're looking for some trait in men that also comes with the word loser tattooed on their foreheads.
The fact is we almost always get exactly what we look for. The problem is most people lie to themselves about what that is. Figure out what trait it is that attracts you to these guys. Is it that you have a fantasy that you can fix them?
As far as finding a 'sugar daddy' that's probably just as bad. Why not find someone you can have an equal relationship with?
2007-06-25 04:19:42 · answer #2 · answered by elurle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you have an issue where taking care of people makes you feel good about yourself. break it off with this guy and just take care of you for awhile. before you date again, maybe the 1st question should be are you employed and taking care of your self. don't go looking for a sugar daddy, that is disrespectful to your own self. but an employed confident man would be a must.
2007-06-25 04:21:45 · answer #3 · answered by brandi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hope this does not sound to dr philish but he would say you have low self-esteem, that you feel you do not deserve better than that. You need to stand up for you and go after what you want and to hell with the guys don't care. You are better than that and you deserve better.
2007-06-25 04:22:11 · answer #4 · answered by Patricia S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try get a man that's different to the two yo've just been with. Apparently, you may be still stuck on your formr man because you chose another man who was just like him. Thnk outside the box, and get a next man.
2007-06-25 04:21:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to someone to get you back on track, and it will not happen over night. Do not pay for others bills no matter what, you need to wake up here and smell that coffee.
2007-06-25 04:22:14 · answer #6 · answered by kim t 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...apparently you are just attracted to the same guy because you know they won't turn you down. Sounds like you need to grow some nerve and try something new!
2007-06-25 04:21:54 · answer #7 · answered by gratto05 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have the same problem with men I meet, it's them not you. Women are doing much better nowadays than men. It used to not be this way and frankly, men can't handle it. :)
2007-06-25 04:20:13 · answer #8 · answered by Jax 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to stop thinking about money so much. help you man find a job that helps pay some things. you can help yourself by helping your man.
2007-06-25 04:22:37 · answer #9 · answered by Nylonclassics 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Self esteem, you deserve better.
2007-06-25 04:21:11 · answer #10 · answered by fran j 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋