me and my older brother are extremely close. we tell each other everything and spend a lot of time together, its almost like we're best friends. Recently, iv started to find him quite attractive and when hot guys come up to me and sound interested i start to think to myself "will they treat me as well as my brother does?" etc!!
i really want help on this situation because it's frustrating me and im getting quite upset over it, i should be enjoying my teenage years with boys and not mis judging them!! i know its a strange situation and i would really like some help on it!! What can i do??!?!?!?
2007-06-25 04:00:18 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
start spending more time with female friends... Maybe even going to a councilor. (you don't have to tell your parents why)
Get help because this is not healthy for you.
It's great to have high standards but not to be attracted to your brother. Do you think it's possible your just attracted to his personality type and not him??
2007-06-25 04:05:53 · answer #1 · answered by Heather 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with wanting to date a guy that has some of the same qualities as your brother. Everyone wants to find someone that is nice and caring, someone that can be their best friend. It's also ok to think that someone is attractive. I have cousins and other family members that I think are nice looking, but that doesn't mean that incest is in my future!
2007-06-25 04:09:10 · answer #2 · answered by Kat S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow
I haven't ever thought of my brother as being attractive , that's a new one ...... okay maybe you and your bro should spend less time together ... And maybe you should meet new friends that you can have weird feelings for ... I think that you need some better advise I would advise you see a therapist I believe that it would help you and, you don't want to be screwed up the rest of your life right , get help and don't let this ruin your life ...
2007-06-25 04:06:41 · answer #3 · answered by Emily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's natural to start finding those around us who we are comfortable with "attractive." There's nothing wrong with hoping that the guys you could potentially date will treat you as well as he does.
try to give yourself some distance from your brother. If you can't seem to stop thinking about him, then maybe you should get some type of counselling.
2007-06-25 04:03:59 · answer #4 · answered by Rock Goddess 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you need to stop spending so much time with your brother and find other friends. It is not okay for you to allow yourself to being feeling anything romantic or compare your brother to other guys whom you could date. You are putting an impossible goal for future suttors to reach. No one is going to be prefect if you compare them to your brother. It is a good thing you are so close, but you need to pull away enough to stop thinking of your brother as the prefect man. This wont only interfer with your relationships, but any women your brother ever wants to be with wont be good enough for you. That isn't fair to your brother. I think you need to let your brother go his way with different friends and you go yours with new and different friends. If this doesn't help, you need to talk to a counselor. Good Luck
2007-06-25 04:08:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
u dont fancy ur brother his just ur best mate. you are worrying to much. a guy wont treat u the same as ur brother does because he is ur brother. if a guy isnt nice ditch him its not the end of the world
2007-06-25 04:04:49 · answer #6 · answered by lucylu152 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
maybe u need therapy. its natural to compare ur brothers good will to other future mates. but i think u should give them a chance and stop looking at ur brother in that way!
2007-06-25 04:17:19 · answer #7 · answered by spadezgurl22 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to push your feelings for your brother out of the way. if you can't do that, you should really talk to a therapist about it. it might be a disorder. try to go out with other guys and shut your brother out of your mind. maybe it'll just go away.
good luck.
2007-06-25 04:04:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
why shouldn't they treat you as well as your brother does? high standards give the best results! now all you have to do is take the risk of seeing if they will treat you as well.
2007-06-25 04:04:01 · answer #9 · answered by Wallflower 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
first of all ewwwwwwwwww for sayin u think ur brother is attractive lol and second of all well get to know the guys first other than gettin into a relationship with them
2007-06-25 04:03:57 · answer #10 · answered by *S!LL!3G00B3R*TTC 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋