My 4 yr old has been asking me why mommy and daddy have sex when i ask what that it she tells me that we get naked and daddy gets on mommy. we try being discrete about it like late at night when she is suppose to be sleeping. Could she have seen us and we not know or could she be picking it up from somewhere else. She said that two little boys told her about it but her answer just doesnt rub me the right way. Any advise as to get her to STOP asking or advise as to get her to tell me the Truth
2007-06-25 03:59:08 · 6 answers · asked by Becky 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
First I would ask about those 2 little boys and see what the answer is and if it does make sense. Next just answer her question. There's nothing wrong about explaining to a 4 year old where babies come from. You don't have to get into any details, just the basics.
Good luck
2007-06-25 04:40:39 · answer #1 · answered by johanne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, I think you guys been caught.ha. Anyway, kids this age is always curious and seeing you guys probably just added to her curiosity. My 3 yr. saw us one time(we didn't know either) and the next morning she said "daddy, don't lay on my mommy again". Pretty embarrassing. Unfortunately I had no idea what to say so I kept quiet and she hasn't mentioned it since and she's just 3 so I kinda hope she'll forget. But at 4 yrs. your daughter will be more persistent and ask questions. Go to the neighborhood library, they have books about explain sex to toddlers without being to detailed or graphic.
Good luck. And do like I did, but her behind out your bedroom.
2007-06-25 11:19:37 · answer #2 · answered by Aliyah 84 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do you think she is fibbing? You know your own child, but the explanation she is offering, seems quite logical to me. Ask her who the little boys are.
I woulldn't worry too much. If you feel her comments are inappropriate, tell her "That's enough now - we'll talk a bit later" and give yourself time to think it through.
I always answered my children the questions they asked. As they asked them. Talk to her honestly, but she can learn discretion, too. Other parents might not be so understanding.
2007-06-25 11:13:29 · answer #3 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously she's seen you.. it's just best to sit her down and have a talk. their are some great books out their for this kind of thing.
take a look at this link
http://www.bbc.co.uk/parenting/family_matters/you_talksextokids.shtml
it offers a lot of helpful information and even a few books you can use.
2007-06-25 11:04:42 · answer #4 · answered by Infamous Twit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously, she had seen you and yeah i think you and ur hubby needs to sit down and talk to her about this. If you kept hushing her off, she might go and ask others and probably embarrass you more. just tell her what's happening and yeah..don't get too graphic bout it. good luck!
2007-06-25 11:37:53 · answer #5 · answered by AyJay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she has seen you and daddy. its now time to explain to her that its something mommys and daddys do and learn to lock your door and make sure she is asleep my son is four and has never caught us to date
2007-06-25 11:47:20 · answer #6 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋