I am home for the summer from my beloved university and I have encountered some serious problems that are really hindering my stay at my house. first off, my stepmom is around 7 months pregnant and she has my two year old brother that she has to take care of. she has a fellow czechoslovakian friend staying with us to help out with the baby. her friend (katya) is really starting to annoy me.
she wakes up atthe crack of dawn when my brother and stepmom does. she screams when she speaks and bangs on thegrande piano at 7 in the morning while the rest of the house is trying to sleep. my grandparents hear her from their guest house and it wakes them up as well, but they're too afraid to tell my dad anything because they feel uncomfortable complaining to him. Should I ask confront my stepmom and tell her to keep her friend under control and respect the rest of the household, or should I just live in misery until mid august when I return to Michigan?
2007-06-25 03:41:23 · 13 answers · asked by Nico 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
i don't want to ask my father to say something to her because he's too nice to everyone... I just feel uncomfortable here all together, like its not my house, and I can't wait to get an apartment next summer semester in michigan.
2007-06-25 03:43:12 · update #1
you are not wrong... but i would suck it up, you are leaving in less than 2 mos.. get an apartment and start your own life.. suck it up to keep the peace now.. you don't want to alienate your family because of this friend of your step-mom's.. besides its hard to tell what is going on there.. step-mom's are tough to take.. i know. deal with it for now... you'll be happy you did in the long run. =) Best of Luck!!
2007-06-25 09:18:35 · answer #1 · answered by Amy E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I'd speak to the friend about the piano playing first thing in the morning. This is the one thing that she can change easily - pick some hour in the morning and ask that she not play the piano before that time. For the rest of the racket, I suggest some ear plugs or some other sound proofing in your bedroom. Some people are just loud and it drives those of us who are quiet crazy. My only other suggestion is for you to go to bed earlier so it's not so horrible waking up at 7.
2007-06-25 12:56:06 · answer #2 · answered by Susan G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe confronting your step mom is not exactly how to approach it. I would talk to her,even if you still want to move, for the sake of my grandparents. Be gentle, and approach it in a way that does not make your step mom defensive if possible. Just say something like " Your friend is a great piano player, but I would love hearing it better a little later in the day" If she seems receptive, talk to her about the loud voice tone, etc. I would talk to your dad about the fact that you are going to nicely say something though, so there are no problems there. Good luck, I hope it works out for your family.
2007-06-25 10:54:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't know how old you are, but if you are too young to speak with her friend directly about that piano thing, then speak to your stepmom about it when your father is around (as to avoid any confusion as to what is being said). Playing the piano that early in the morning when everyone is sound asleep is rude and will continue if someone in that house doesn't do anything about it.
2007-06-25 10:56:06 · answer #4 · answered by King H 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I'd speak politely with the friend. Just explain that not everyone else is up that early, and some of you really need your rest (emphasize the grandparents there) and ask her if she could keep it down until later in the morning, maybe until nine or ten. It's entirely possible that she's unaware that the noise bothers you and the grandfolks. If she doesn't tone it down after you speak with her, then go to your stepmother.
2007-06-25 11:16:30 · answer #5 · answered by spunk113 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, the friend is either Czeck or Slovakien - not both :-)
Yes I would definately say something. Try first and speak to your stepmum. If she does not do anything about it speak to you dad and the friend. The friend is very rude and inconsiderate to behave like that when she is a guest.
Why is the friend there 2 months before the birth? it seems like she is using your stepmum and your dad.Good luck.
2007-06-25 10:52:45 · answer #6 · answered by Laila 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just say something to your stepmoms friend politely, if that doesn't work, wear earplugs or run a fan in your room to block the noise. Just do your best to get along with everyone, help out as much as you can. You don't have to be there long,you will survive.
2007-06-25 11:41:46 · answer #7 · answered by Angela C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be thankful that you're only there between semesters. Soon enough, you'll go back to college life. I would try to mention this to your mother, as it's her friend. Bring it up casually, and try not to be overly negative. Try getting your grandparents backing on it first.
You might also try leaving a note on the keys of the piano. "Don't play the piano untill 9AM or I will strangle you...seriously" with a happy face next to it.
good luck.
2007-06-25 10:51:47 · answer #8 · answered by xooxcable 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Find a summer house to rent with a friend and ENJOY your young years as you are suppose to. Start being more independent! This way when it is time for you to commit to a place of your own, you have had some experience already. Let them deal with the stuff that you are not wanting to be around anyway.
2007-06-25 11:01:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell your dad. It is his house, and he should be the one to talk to your stepmother about the issue.
2007-06-25 11:43:11 · answer #10 · answered by eilishaa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋