Okay, I'm 16 and I was dating this guy for about a month but then he broke up with me because "he still had some feelings for his ex & he wanted to straighten them out before dating again." Well I was fine with that & we stayed best friends during that time.
Then about a month later he asked me out again saying that he thinks he got everything worked out. Now 2 weeks later, he broke up with me again for the same reason and we're still friends (with the promise that we may go out again someday).
He mentioned staying single for awhile to sort out his feelings, but then yesterday asked out one of his girl pals (i think joking-ly).
So I have no idea what to think of him anymore - he is such a nice, sweet guy & now I'm starting to see him as a jerk.
What do you think I should do & tell him? I mean he is my best guy friend and I thought he was the best guy ever & now I don't know what to do or how to feel.
Any advice would be helpful, thanks!
2007-06-25 03:27:53 · 9 answers · asked by Sasha 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've been in his situation.
Don't date him when he asks you out again, and tell him that you'd love to but you think it's better if you both stay single for a few months and let your relationship progress naturally.
Then slowly, his feelings for his ex can be replaced NATURALLY with feelings for you.
Hope this helps.
2007-06-25 03:33:16 · answer #1 · answered by wizfen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds very confused. I actually want to say manipulative but I don't know him so I'm probably jumping to conclusions.
What I do know is a person is not made to turn on and off their emotions like you have been asked to do. Being a best friend with someone you have feelings for has to be a torture. Especially when he is wishy washy about the situation.
Personally I think you need to distance yourself from this guy. Best friend or not, intentionally or not, he is playing havoc with your emotions. You're always going to be hanging around waiting to see what is going to happen and feeling like a yoyo.
To tell the truth I don't think you're being honest with us or yourself when you tell us he is your best friend. You are really close to this guy because you hope he'll come around, not because you want to be friends.
Get some distance and start looking elsewhere. For your own mental health if for no other reason. Don't continue to be jerked around like this. You deserve more respect from people than that.
2007-06-25 10:44:27 · answer #2 · answered by todd s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, he wants his ex back and asking her friend out is a part of that.
If you think he's a nice person, then let him know that you want to be friends with him and not do anything to make things compliment between you two.
Trust me, there are enuf guys out there and you should not get involved with the ones with the emotional issues.
2007-06-25 10:34:08 · answer #3 · answered by lool 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is using you as a rebound girl. Stay friends if you like but dont keep hooking up with him coz hes gonna do the same thing to you over and over.
2007-06-25 10:32:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me get this right.... he broke up with you once to sort out his feelings, you had him back and he did it again... and now hes wanting round 3? If you let him near you again you need your head examined. Men who care do not treat you like this.
2007-06-25 10:35:31 · answer #5 · answered by Lauren J 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore.
2007-06-25 10:30:16 · answer #6 · answered by Juliu C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Straight up, he's using you. Tell him to f off.
2007-06-25 11:38:18 · answer #7 · answered by crow3862000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a jerk leave him alone . dont say anything he is not worth it . good luck .
2007-06-25 10:33:11 · answer #8 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's stringing you along, move on.
2007-06-25 10:31:44 · answer #9 · answered by redhot_redhead 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋