One of my best friends is getting married. We've kept in touch over the years and she's back home and getting married. My ex best friend who I haven't talked to in a few years got married 2 years ago and will also be there. I'm the only one left out of our little group who is single with no prospects in sight. Everyone has become reconnected and they all seem "closer" than ever. It will be family and everyone else is coupled up. I am happy for them but don't want to be "singled" out because of my "singledom".
Is it even worth my time to go all alone? There's no chance of the situation changing before then. I was only invited because I ran into her at her job and she felt obligated to invite me, the wedding is less than 2 weeks away. I haven't RSVP'd the invited came over the weekend. Help!!!
2007-06-25 03:10:26 · 15 answers · asked by nkpowell 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
honestly if you dont feel comfortable, then dont go, its the worst feeling in the world to be somewhere when everyone has someone and you are alone, do you have a guy friend that you can take with you as friends? if not then use your discretion if you are not comfy then dont!
2007-06-25 03:16:43 · answer #1 · answered by jelly_bean_19_69 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Go! My parents met at a wedding where my dad was the drummer in the band playing and my mom hadn't even wanted to go. This was 1973 and they're still together! So you never know who you might meet!
And who cares if you're single? Your time will come and right now you're taken advantage of the single life! Travelling, working, meeting people, doing whatever you want, whenever you want! I am one of the very few unmarried girls out of all my friends and was the last one to be in a serious relationship. (That will lead to marriage, at least.) I was able to travel for many months overseas as well as take two job offers in Europe. I have lots to talk about and I certainly never felt "less" than my other married/coupled friends!
Have a great time and get to re-know your old friends!
2007-06-25 15:09:05 · answer #2 · answered by tink 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why wouldn't you go? This is one of your best friends, and she's getting married.
You'll only be singled out for your singledom if you make that the most important thing about you. You're unmarried, not dead. Go live. Your friend wouldn't have invited you if she didn't care more about you as a person than whether you've got a wedding ring, too.
Besides, a lot of women have met single men at weddings...and wound up having their own weddings.
2007-06-25 10:51:06 · answer #3 · answered by gileswench 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's silly to refuse an invitation just because you are single and everyone else in a group isn't. You never know what can happen at any given social event (in terms of meeting new eligible singles). Don't feel you have to go if you truly have no desire to socialize with people you no longer feel connected to. That's a valid reason to decline an invitation. But to refuse an invite simply because you are the only remaining single only reinforces in your mind that you feel this is a negative, and it isn't really a negative- it's perfectly okay.
2007-06-25 10:22:20 · answer #4 · answered by GEEGEE 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Um, it isn't clear whether this person is your best friend or not.
You say she is, then you suggest you're not at all close now.
The point of being at the wedding is to be there for that big event in her life (though it's also like a reunion, too).
If she's important to you, go. (Weddings are a great way to meet single guys, BTW.)
If you two no longer really care about each other, then decline the invitation.
Don't even think about bringing someone.
YOU were invited to this special event, not a total stranger to your friend.
If they make a big deal of your being single, laugh it off and change the topic.
2007-06-25 13:49:29 · answer #5 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to go. Good friends are so important. They were all single before. You can always bring a friend even if you are not romantic if you are concerned about being left out. From the little decription, I don't think you will be though. Also, weddings are good places to meet people so if you are looking, that may be the place.
2007-06-25 10:32:11 · answer #6 · answered by Barbie K 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
all of my girlfriends from high school are getting married but not me. I'll be the last one to walk the plank LoL. If you think you are going to have fun then I would go, why not? What do you have to lose? the worst thing that could happen is you don't have a good time and you leave early, but then you have to buy her a gift.
on the other hand if you think she is just inviting you to be nice then maybe you shouldn't go.
tough call. I think you should go you'll regret it if you don't go.
2007-06-25 10:40:47 · answer #7 · answered by JillardG 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you didn't want to go only because you would be alone there i would have told you to go anyway- it's good practice at being comfortable with yourself. Single people need to challenge their comfort zones and go to the movies alone or out to eat alone once in awhile just to push yourself a bit.
But in this case, i would say don't bother going because you said she felt obligated to invite you and i take it you don;t really care to see these old friends then? If you want to see them and catch up, go .
If you don't, don't bother but send a little token gift to let her know you appreciated the invitation but will be unable to attend.
2007-06-25 10:21:50 · answer #8 · answered by Gypsianna P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd go for the fun. Never know who you will meet at the wedding and you will be looking your best, soooooooooooooooooo go for it. Besides that your ole cronies are not there to celebrate you, remember. And go stag so you have better chances at looking around. Somebodys cousin might just be the right connection.
2007-06-25 10:24:54 · answer #9 · answered by SALSA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you should - NEVER turn down a chance to have fun. Also, there are often lots of single dudes at weddings, so don't feel shy about going alone.
2007-06-25 10:38:34 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, If being the only single woman there is the least of your problems. I'd say go. Who knows there maybe another single guy there.
2007-06-25 10:19:09 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋