My bf and I had sex together for the first time (although we both aren't virgins) a few days ago. He lasted about 11 seconds and apologised.
Today we went to go again, but hes the romantic type and spent about an hour making out before actually getting my hint that we should just do it already.
But after he got the condom he couldnt get it up, even after I tried for ages.
Is this normal? Do you think this will change or are some guys just crap in bed?
2007-06-25 03:02:28 · 16 answers · asked by jeska102 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
some guys are crap in bed! its that simple.
2007-06-25 03:06:27 · answer #1 · answered by Jill knows best 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's not that uncommon. He was probably very excited the first time therefore the premature shot and not wanting to disappoint you the second time he was nervous and not able to get it going.
If you are going to have a long relationship be patient with him and understanding. You have the POWER to make him into a perfect lover if YOU show patients.
I have known a couple of women who were crap in bed in the beginning but flowered after some time.
I remember when I was a young man in my early twenties I was shown the right things to do and the right moves to make by a very lovely and caring women.
Good Luck
2007-06-25 10:23:11 · answer #2 · answered by Big Red 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes some guys are crappy in bed, but that might not be the case here. When you are with a new girl, one who really turns you on, sometimes it can be pretty difficult to hold it. 11 seconds might be a record though. However normally a guy can go at it again a short time later.
Also a mans ability in bed is often what guys use to measure their manhood. If he is good at it he feels like a king. If he isnt or is tiny, or messes up while making love, the results could be devastating to his pysche. The bad memory of his super qucik finish might be causing him some major anxiety. If this guy is a keeper in other ways, give him a chance and see if he improves, if not you might want to get rid of the "Flash" and go find a "superman".
best of luck.
2007-06-25 10:18:24 · answer #3 · answered by trestan92 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It might be a good idea to discuss this particular subject with him instead of on Yahoo Answers.. How would you feel if he aired out bedroom details to a zillion people about you being lousy in bed..? You may want to talk about his particular turn ons/offs and just because you've had sex with other people doesn't mean that the new people in your life will enjoy the same things in bed.. So, I would have a gentle talk with your boyfriend. .Maybe, he was anxious, nervous, overexcited.. Maybe, think about other forms of birth control if a condom spoils things.. I would get tested for diseases first, but that's up to the two of you... Good luck
2007-06-25 10:09:30 · answer #4 · answered by pebblespro 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He just might be stressed out over the 11 second incident. I wouldn't give up on him so fast. Next time make the first move without making out for an eternity first. It may be another 11 second icident but that should improve over time. The worst thing to do is to make him feel bad about it.
2007-06-25 10:31:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys are just crap in bed but others can certainly satisfy a woman. I would try to spice it up by putting on a porn or using food in the bedroom. That way you guys aren't just going through the motions before you have sex. Ask him what he likes and then you guys act it out that may turn him on and get you the sex you have been waiting for.
2007-06-25 10:06:46 · answer #6 · answered by badazz_51 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wouldnt worry about that... he may have been remembering how quick he was the last time, and lost his mojo.
For guys a lot of the time when things go "soft", its either a physical ailment, or something mental. Its rarely the girl.
I wouldnt worry about it... What you SHOULD do though, is make him feel desired and wanted to get his mojo back up... work on HIS mojo and in turn, hopefully he will satisfy yours.
and... maybe you're just that hot, so be patient ;)
2007-06-25 10:07:13 · answer #7 · answered by Julie S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on how old he is. some guys just dont have enough time under their belts. take a older guy for instance(i dont mean old, old, just older)if hes been around the block a few times, then he probably knows what to do and how to do it, i guess it sounds like iam talking about myself here, but iam not bragging, but i usually can last as long as most women.if hes young, he must be stressed out about something, maybe this is something you both can talk over.
2007-06-25 10:50:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a lot of guys are just crap in bed but this doesn't mean your boyfriend is. Maybe the first time he was just really excited and thats why it was over too fast the second time i bet he was nervous about finishing too quickly and just couldn't get it up.Keep trying
2007-06-25 10:08:02 · answer #9 · answered by lsp 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps, he is having difficulty from stopping himself getting overly excited. I would recommend that you teach him in the art of foreplay, its a win win situation for you both.
e.i. At the start if he doesnt last long and hes done his foreplay properly youve already had atleast one orgasm, and with time he will become more comfortable with you and find he can control himself better and you get your foreplay orgasm and with luck more later.
2007-06-25 10:15:10 · answer #10 · answered by Jinx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal, you need to stop makin out for a long time cause when you actually have sex you wont last as long. Right when he gets hard, you should do it, dont waste anytime and he should last a whole lot longer.
2007-06-25 10:07:34 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋