OK I need to know if I'm being out of order here.
We get married one Saturday next May and I have just found out a good friends of my husband to be is getting married on the Sunday ( Its a bank holiday).
Problem is I don't want to go to a wedding the day after mine - it's meant to be a special day and that should at least last a weekend! He however, wants to go and is refusing not to. I'd rather we spent our first day as man and wife together, not watching someone else get married.
Am I being unreasonable and what should I do?
2007-06-25 02:48:06 · 17 answers · asked by gwen 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
The only reason you two will be apart is if you OPT not to go with your husband. It doesn't sound like you are leaving on your honeymoon before the ceremony and really if these are good friends of his of course he wants to be there and you should want to be there for him. A special day doesn't get to last a weekend--that's what a special weekend is--and this is their special day so join them if you can stop focusing on what isn't going to happen anyway (ie getting more alone time with your husband because believe me he's gonna be cranky if you don't attend with him). You can go and share "wedding war stories" with the couple as you will have just gone through it instead of sitting at home stewing.
2007-06-25 03:37:21 · answer #1 · answered by indydst8 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes dear, I'm sorry to say you are being unreasonable.
Your "special day" does not last the weekend, it lasts the day. Otherwise it would be your "special weekend".
Going to someone's wedding the day after yours doesn't take away from the specialness of your day. Different people will be there, so they won't be comparing your weddings (This probably wouldn't happen, anyway). Also, being a newlywed at your first wedding together can be terribly romantic, and another great chance to unwind.
What concerns me is that it sounds as though youre actully arguing over this. He is demanding that the two of you go, and you are whining and complaining that you don't want to. Just go! You'll have way better things to argue about in your life together...let the little petty things go.
2007-06-25 03:59:17 · answer #2 · answered by Katie S 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would go to the wedding. It's only for a few hours and then you can spend the rest of your life with your new hubby. It's just by coincidence that the weddings fell that close together. To keep the peace in your family, take into consideration that the other couple though enough of you to invite you so I would bite the bullet and go and also to prevent an argument with your new hubby. Go and enjoy yourself.
2007-06-28 05:01:50 · answer #3 · answered by kystarlyte_kystarlight 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is a question for you. Are you inviting them to your wedding? If so it will be the day before there wedding. Would you like them to be there? I am sure if they do come it will be hard for them with all the finishing touches to there wedding to take some time out of they day to spend it at your wedding.
Go and enjoy. You can see what it is like to be a guest at a wedding and not having to be in it and plan it. You have many more days to be with your husband.
Best wishes with your wedding and the marriage.
2007-06-25 04:13:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not unreasonable to want to be alone with you rnew husband the day after your wedding, but this sounds important to your husband to be. You have many years of compromises in your future and there's no reason to start your life together bickering. If you agree now, you may be suprised then, he may just change his mind at the last minute but he willl appreciate that you were willing to celebrate with him the marriage of his good friend. If he doesn't change his mind, then it's just one day of your no doubt, beautiful marriage.
2007-06-25 03:17:01 · answer #5 · answered by Barbie K 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you arent.....you want time to be with yout new hubby and reflect on the commitment you just made, not to watch someone else make a commitment. But how good is this friend, and who had their day set first? Are they comming to your wedding? Thease are all questions to ask yourself.....talk to him and tell him your reasons. What about the honeymoon? Does he want to leave late for that just to go see this wedding?
2007-06-25 03:04:24 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Mommy to 3 year old Jacob and baby on the way♥ 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, if you are planning to get away on a honeymoon you won't be there anyway! But if not, maybe you can go to the ceremony and not the reception or say you'll go for 1 hour and then begin your honeymoon. It's a tough situation. Good luck.
2007-06-25 02:54:33 · answer #7 · answered by salemshann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you're being unreasonable. Your wedding is one day in your life. Your marriage is MUCH more important and this is a good friend of your husband. Personally, I can't think of anything nicer then to share your first full day as man & wife wishing another couple happiness on their wedding day.
2007-06-25 03:13:47 · answer #8 · answered by retropink 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋
I see your point, but by going to the wedding, you'll still be immersed in the whole wedding thing, but the pressure will be off because you had yours the day before...it might actually be nice to hear the vows so soon after you said yours...
2007-06-25 02:58:59 · answer #9 · answered by melouofs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Really, you have the rest of your lives to be together. Unless you are officially on honeymoon, I would go and have fun! When you get home, you can continue to relive the details from YOUR day.
(This is an opportunity to show your husband you are flexible in the marriage, it sounds important to him)
2007-06-25 06:14:42 · answer #10 · answered by fizzy stuff 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋