2007-06-25 02:21:00 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Legally, it depends on the situation in which it was given to you. If he gave it to you on a Holiday that he would normally give you gifts such as Christmas or your birthday, it is considered a gift and you legally do not have to give it back. If he gave it to you on any other day, you were the one who broke the contract to marry, so you have to give it back unless he tells you to keep it. However, why would you want to? If you don't want to marry him, why keep a reminder of that? Honestly, whether you legally have to return it or not, it would be the right thing to do. At least allow him to recoup his financial loss if he can't get back his emotional ones.
I saw a case about this very thing on one of those court shows and the woman actually got to keep the ring because he proposed on her birthday and it was considered a birthday gift. But just because something is legal it doesn't make it right. Just give the ring back.
2007-06-25 02:45:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 4⤋
YES! The only exception to this is if you received it as a gift such as a birthday, or Christmas, etc. An engagement ring is given as a promise of marriage. If the marriage doesn't take place then you have to return the ring especially if it is an heirloom.
This used not be the case, but nowadays, most of the time if the man takes you to court, the judge will make you return the ring or pay for it. If necessary, consult an attorney if you have invested any money towards this ring yourself.
2007-06-28 04:47:24 · answer #2 · answered by kystarlyte_kystarlight 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes.
If you break off the engagement, you give the ring back.
If the other person breaks off the engagement, then you have the option to keep the ring since it was given as a gift of promise - which they broke.
In this case, though, you are the one breaking the promise (even if it's based on something that they did - let's say they cheated on you, etc.).
If you've made the decision to part ways with this person - for whatever reason - why would you want a symbol of them to hold onto anyhow? If you say it's because you want the money from the ring, etc. I'd have to say, point blank, that is immature and shallow.
Give it back. Count your blessings that you won't be tied to this individual for the rest of your life. And, move on!
2007-06-25 02:56:05 · answer #3 · answered by amazing_creation 3 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Yes. In fact, it gets returned no matter who ends the engagement. An engagement ring is a contract, given only in promise of marriage. It is a conditional gift. If the condition under which the gift was given (marriage) doesn't happen, then the gift is returned. Basically, he says "I will give you this ring IF we will get married." If the "IF" in that isn't met, there's no reason for you to keep the ring.
2007-06-25 02:58:20 · answer #4 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
The laws differ in each state, some you are required to return it.
I would consider an engagement ring to be given contingent on getting married and not a normal gift given for a birthday.
But I would also weigh in the fact that if the ring is returned, he should split any wedding expenses lost to your family. Any deposits given that are lost, but not the wedding dress.
There are laws, and then there is doing what is right.
2007-06-25 03:22:59 · answer #5 · answered by no_frills 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you give the ring back.
The only times you get to keep it is if you actually get married OR the engagement ends and you try to give the ring back and he says keep it OR if you bought it.
2007-06-25 04:07:24 · answer #6 · answered by Poppet 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you do have to return the diamond engagement ring. How cheeky to try and keep it. If your ex=fiance gets down on his knee again, and begs you to keep, then you can. Otherwise, return the ring with the break=off, don't keep him waiting and drag on the break=up.
It was his choice, his investment for a lifetime partner, and no matter the cost, it isn't yours to keep. You are way too full of yourself.
A girl did this to my son,as he is very kind with his things, and loves expensive things. He gave her everything, and she played the field. She lost some things, her father got some expensive things, as did her mother. They broke off.
She is at him again, for the source of more nice things, like a high definition wide=screen televison, his CD's with the speakers he custom=made, and she wants to be on his arm again. He wanted to marry her, but she cheats. He said he could stand her family, they are their way, although her cheating would make his homelife bad. He couldn't stand to come home and eat, and have her tease him about cheating. This is the way she was brought up, and moves from one relative to the next. This is the only reason he wouldn't marry her, or take some of my money so they could honeymoon in the Poconos. He said it was too soon, her family could make things tough, and she isn't pleasant when she cheats. Giving her more of anything really makes me aggravated. Girls like you should be implanted with a device which marks you as a "taker", so nice young men don't get caught up with frivolous and illegal entrapments.
Go to a jewelry shop at the sales, and get your own.
2007-06-25 04:05:52 · answer #7 · answered by Marissa Di 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, yeah. Like the engagement ring is the one that normally costs the most. If you break off the engagement after he gives you the ring, it is essentially stealing. Are you going to be some money grubbing "ho" because that is going to be the rumour fast(from your girl friends).
2007-06-25 02:33:37 · answer #8 · answered by ButwhatdoIno? 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Ethically of course your should.
Legally it depends. If it was a gift for something like Christmas or your birthday AND an engagment ring he probably won't be able to get it back. If you broke it off because he cheated on you or something and have proof of the cheating he probablly won't be able to get it back. If you broke it off because you changed your mind and it was just a proposal he will probablly get it back.
In all honesty though why would you want to keep something like that with bad memories attached to it? To keep it just seems materialistic and biotchy to me.
2007-06-25 05:56:54 · answer #9 · answered by pspoptart 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you MUST return the ring. It was not a gift in the regular sense of the word, but rather a symbol of the promise to be married. If he won't take it back, return it to his mom or another family member.
2007-06-25 03:40:17 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If it was given as a gift, you don't (legally) have to return the ring. However, since the ring was given as a promise to get married and now you're not getting married the correct thing would be to return the ring.
Do the right thing!
2007-06-25 03:38:38 · answer #11 · answered by retropink 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋