I have a BF and he hugs and kiss to much but i really don't like it to much......then like right in the middle of playing a game of foot ball and he hugs me......................I want to know how to Tell Him That He is to close or to touchy? but how do i say it?
2007-06-25 00:19:59 · 10 answers · asked by Clover Y 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you have to tell him how you feel, and it would probably help to explain why you feel that way too.
It helps if you clearly set the boundries for both of you.
2007-06-25 00:24:49 · answer #1 · answered by darklydrawl 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's your bf that's the problem, unless it's inappropriate touching, too much 'kissy face' or there is some good reason that you don't trust him. It sounds like you either didn't come from an affectionate family or something happened to you when you were younger that makes you feel extremely uncomfortable when someone touches you.
Affection toward someone you love is perfectly normal and generally enjoyed, if it bothers you that he touches you then there's something you need to deal with within yourself.
If it's the case that you just don't like him, you're just dating him then you need to consider splitting up for the sake of the both of you.
Ultimately, if you have feelings for him and you didn't come from an unaffectionate family there's something seriously wrong, whether you remember it or not you might have been touched inappropriately as a child, think hard about it, you may need therapy.
2007-06-25 07:34:59 · answer #2 · answered by ahhgodzirra 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
anyway that you say it may hurt his feelings. He might think that you like it becuase you haven't said anything in the past. I would sit and talk with him and tell him that he needs to calm down on the touchy. Tell him that he is making you feel uncomfortable when he does it to much. Every now and then is good but not every five min. Just talk to him
2007-06-25 07:35:48 · answer #3 · answered by maverick29 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be your bf but i dont think you LIKE him..i mean i would love to get hugged all the time if i was in love with the guy. You are irritated by the guy, so looks like something is wrong!
2007-06-25 07:25:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
you need to tell him. if he respects you, he'll understand. i personally am not too touch-feely either. that's one of my mistakes with my ex bf...he kissed and wanted to make out a lot more than i wanted to, and i think that's one of the reasons we broke up. just be like "i love being kissed/touched, but i think we're making it too much of a good thing" or something like that. good luck!
2007-06-25 07:28:10 · answer #5 · answered by kb293 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't want a boyfriend. Tell him you have no interest in a boyfriend. Tell him he is just one of the people you know. Admit that you have no passion for this person.
2007-06-25 07:29:04 · answer #6 · answered by flip33 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him in a very nice way. If you just keep silent about it, he will assume that you really like what he is doing and surely continue doing it.
2007-06-25 07:29:57 · answer #7 · answered by Gem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him straight
i had to do that to my bf he used to hug me in town and the worst is when i have my friends round and my bf lays all over me and trys kissing me so i told him i need breathing space when we not alone and ill make it up to him when we are alone
2007-06-25 07:28:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My Fiance was like that too. I just told him straight out. yeah he got the SH!TS but hey he got over it. Your BF will too
2007-06-25 07:36:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just say it
2007-06-25 07:29:58 · answer #10 · answered by pOOhPhAT 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋