In God's eyes, is it a sin to have sex before marriage?

Question

I"m a Christian, but I haven't gotten very far in the Bible. And I was wondering if God saw sex before marriage as a sin or not.

Answer 1

yes, it is....i would go ahead and look at the song of solomon (it may also be called the song of songs), and it talks about it a lot in there.

basically, sex is God's gift for marriage. it basically signifies commitment to that one person you are going to spend the rest of your life with. now, if you're going around having sex with people before you get married, you aren't exactly saving yourself and that gift for that one special someone. although God will always forgive if you do mess up.

Answer 2

This is actually kind of a difficult question although contemporary Christians will give the thoughtless kneejerk answer.

Actually, back in the time of Christ, governments did not issue marriage licenses, did not keep records of marriages and plural spouses were common, moral and accepted. I could be wrong, but I do not even recall Jesus denouncing plural marriages anywhere or setting out any rules of the procedure.

I am saying this because many will try to tell you that, yes, you must register your relationships with the government before you can have sex, and that it is immoral until you do.

Here in Texas, we have informal marriages which require no government involvement at all. Only a commitment. If you are committed to another person in a marriage sense, I think you are alowed to have sex all you want.

If you do not have a comitment, you are probably violating the scriptures. How much of a violation? Well, the scriptures also say "don't eat pork". You will have to use wisdom and common sense to know how much "sin" you are commiting. I am sure there are churches out there that seem to be obsessed with advice on sexual sin. You are probably too young to know the long term affects on yourself or others; I would consult an older family member (sorry if that sounds condescending). True sin hurts someone but the hurt is not always emediately apparent.

Answer 3

The 'sin' of sex before marriage, contrary to most opinion, was both a spiritual and a social question, and the confluence of the two sorta defined it.

That means that you can't seperate God from the social structure in which God is received, so that God filters down into daily interactions: where to buy bread, whom do I talk to, how much should I pay and be paid for work, etc etc etc.

So the injunction against sex was meant to convey the seriousness of the 'covenant' of a man and woman (the only ones allowed to marry at the time), since it also reflected upon the covenant of God and his 'people', but also as a way to 'curb' rampant sexuality, at least within certain social circles (the rich and powerful have always done what they wanted to do, irregardless of the consequences of the law, which is why preachers and elders can condemn others for what they do themselves)

As to whether or not it is an actual 'sin', it depends on whether or not the act 'cheapens' the symbolic and spiritual meaning of it within the person(s). In other words, if having sex makes you (or the person you are with) devalue sex, and all that it stands for (spiritual connectedness, a willingness to share all with another, including new life) then it becomes a sin. But, if you engage in a sex act that promotes, for both of you, the impact of the act, then it is not wrong.

The thing is, sometimes God allows us to commit sins in order so that we may appreciate what we do have, i.e. the parable of the prodigal son. So the committing of sins is not, in and of itself, the end-all, be-all.

Answer 4

Its a sin and prefer various sin you're able to be forgiven. the concern is that some thing could desire to take place until eventually now your wedding ceremony day the place you're able to be able to desire to no longer finally end up at the same time. a marriage isn't authentic until eventually your wedding ceremony and which potential the two social gathering could desire to continuously get out of it until eventually that's over. human beings could have intercourse after which ruin up. the concern is likewise intercourse can grow to be the concentration of a courting and reason the two social gathering or the two to grow to be focused on intercourse and not the different individual desires or character. it may reason selfishness and get rid of from attending to correctly known the different individual on a psychological point . that does no longer propose that it is going to likely be like that yet their is a better probability. save comparing your courting and your reasons. It additionally does no longer propose which you're a terrible individual. It in simple terms potential you're a man or woman.

Answer 5

I don't have an answer to this, but I'm glad you asked it! I have always wanted to see the Bible verse(s) that indicate it is a sin to have sex before marriage. I think if someone could provide those it would be very beneficial. I know there are things that warn against sexual immorality, but I don't know if I consider having sex with someone you deeply love do be immoral.

Answer 6

I depends how you interpret and read the bible and how you abide by it.

I can see arguments both for yes and no. I think the bible says no sex before marriage, but the bible is a historical document rich with the attutudes of the time and those who wrote it. The bible tends to be very hard on women and how women are curruptable. remeber too that god gave us carnal pleasures. The bible is also a mere portion of the gospels that the church deemed worthy to be canonized.

So my advice to you is to judge for yourself and do whatever you beleive in.

Answer 7

You want to have sex in both of god's eyes or just one? Either way He's gonna be wroth.
Have you thought of converting to some form of polytheism? Some ancient gods have many eyes (1000+) and encourage sex before marriage, sex during marriage, and even sex after marriage.

Answer 8

yes, it's a sin to have premarital sex. it took me a long time to figure out why, but i think i've finally gotten it.

people will argue that you reduce your partner to an object when you have premarital sex with them. personally, i argue that a lot of people tend not to mind that so much, so long as it feels good to them at the time. so where's the sin?

it's too easy to compare past sexual partners with present sexual partners. we have a 67% divorce rate in america, and one of the bigger reasons for that, as silly as it sounds, is because one or both of the partners were not sexually satisfied. if you have all these people to compare your partner's sexual performance with, that can raise the bar quite a little bit. it can be enough for some people to ruin a marriage. i think God knows this, and He wants us to realize that while sex is one of God's gifts to us, it's not nearly as important as the other aspects of marriage, and that it's best when it's done in the way He made it- as an act of absolute, undying, unconditional, eternal love for one another. He wants us to have the right kind of priorities. that's all. He gives us these laws as guidelines, and there's always a good reason to follow them. read the pentateuch- there's always a blessing behind God's law. figuring out the reason for this particular law against fornication has made it easier for me to resist my own urges and wait for God to send me the ''right'' woman, rather than going out and finding the ''right now'' woman. lol

i really hope this helps. i'm new to christianity too (i'm guessing you are since you mentioned that you ''haven't gotten very far in the bible''). this was (and still is) one of the more difficult things for me to accomplish, but after much thought and prayer, i think i finally have a more complete reason for this particular law, and that has helped me immensely.

peace

edit: to those who say it's too difficult in this day and age not to have sex, and that God will understand your excuses, consider the ancient greeks. we're nowhere near as sexually immoral than the people who lived during Jesus' time. consider the fact that in a lot of asian cultures, you just don't have sex until marriage- period. you don't have it as tough as you think.

and to those that say the bible doesn't specifically speak out against premarital sex, you're wrong. it's called ''fornication,'' and it's mentioned all throughout the bible, from genesis to revelation. that's how important the concept is. there's no justifying it or twisting it, no matter how hard you try.

Answer 9

This is where I believe the Catholic Church has it interrupted best: There are 2 kinds of sins (A Mortal sin and a Venial sin);
A Mortal sin is one you PLAN on commiting: I'm getting drunk tonight; I'm going to have sex with that person.
A Venial sin is one you did not plan on,,,it "just happened". You had no intention to doing it, but you did.
I think this makes perfect sence.
Just read Corinthians.

Answer 10

Yes and NO relationship no matter how sweet it appears must take the place of a "it is written" and IF you are so taken in by this person your planing to marry than know this Jesus Christ "MUST" be FOREVER the most important person in your life and if ANYONE gets between you and Him as more important than you have in effect sealed the way out of this open grave called earth and once doing that God "IS NOT" under any obligation to let you find that exit again, be carefull your playing with YOUR LIFE, www.amazingfacts.org God bless.