I am stuck living with my mom and dad for awhile, about to graduate college.
My father does multiple things that are annoying.
1. Buys gift certificates for a pizza place on the internet and the pizza is terrible. Nobody in the house lieks it either.
2. Does the worst job ever on the laundry and grilling. He overflows the washing machine and shrinks all my shirts. Even when I tell him how to do the laundry correctly he doesn't listen. I am forced to make sure my laundry does not wind up with his and hide them from him. He also burns everything on the grill, so I am just going to take the grilling duties away from him.
3. Does not help me at all when something goes wrong in life. Impossible to talk to with any problems and will not listen. Only talks about himself and is constantly revealing too much information to people and trying to fix me up with my sisters friends. It creates a very awkward and embarssing scene.
Any tips to deal with my dad?
2007-06-24 19:57:28 · 8 answers · asked by MLeinart7 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
God, he is just so annoying. Very irrational too and never willing to accept blame for anyone.
HE HAS NO FRIENDS. HIS OWN FAMILY DOESN'T WANT HIM AROUND.
2007-06-24 20:00:02 · update #1
My mom and all my siblings find him extremely annoying too.
My uncle used to come over and do the grilling for everyone at hte house, since my father was awful.
2007-06-24 20:21:43 · update #2
Wow, is that your pic? Because you're a total babe, and Jewish, too! You're going to graduate college, you'll get a job soon and you'll be out in the real world making money. Your dad is annoying you right now because you have a lot of pressure and stress between living at home, finishing up school and starting a new life. So, 1) Don't eat the pizza. No one is forcing you to. If he's the only one who eats it, he'll either learn or waste money. 2) Keep hiding the shirts, you won't be there much longer; let him grill, it's his house, you don't have to eat it. 3) Try listening to him and repeat what he says in your own words. If he feels listened to, it might help him, as he sounds lonely. He doesn't understand boundaries so that's why he's sharing too much. And who knows, maybe your sister has some cool friends: go for coffee with them and see for yourself. Don't think that any setup is a disaster.
Overall tip: your dad only gets to you if you choose to let him get to you. You can't control him, only your reaction to him. Concentrate on finishing school, getting a job and moving out.
2007-06-24 20:06:36 · answer #1 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. Don't eat the pizza. Buy another kind of pizza and he can eat his own by himself.
2. Do your own laundry and let him shrink his own clothes.
3. Don't tell your dad any of your personal problems. Keep them to your friends and family that you trust most.
-He sounds very stubborn. There is not much you can do, but just hope that someday he will see that he needs to change his attitude and personality. Eventually he will end up feeling very alone, so maybe he might see that his attitude is not very appealing to others. Good luck!
2007-06-25 03:05:26 · answer #2 · answered by drama_queen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have your dad pegged. Since you're so knowledgeable about his negative attributes, maybe you should trying pointing out his positive ones instead.
If I was your dad and you gave me the attitude that you're telling us you give him, I wouldn't want to help you with anything or listen to you either.
Grow up, college boy, and start acting like the mature man you claim to be and maybe you'll earn a little respect from your father. If you don't like what's going on in your parent's house, then the answer is obvious. Pack your bags and support yourself like a smart college grad like you should be doing anyway.
And before you blow a gasket, just remember, you asked.
2007-06-25 03:10:32 · answer #3 · answered by krazykritik 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, if you don't like the pizza, don't eat it! Nobody is twisting your arm, I am sure!
Second, if you are graduating college, do your own laundry!!!! By now you should know how to do laundry and if you don't learn!
2007-06-25 03:01:28 · answer #4 · answered by green_clovers66 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to grow up and move out. I don't care if you are in college.. what makes you think you have any right to go into this man's home and then complain about him. That is disrespectful and rude. How would you feel if someone acted the way you are, towards you, in your own home? You would not tolerate it.
You've got ALOT to learn about respect and respecting someone in their own home. You are an adult... they DID NOT have to let you live with them. This is a decision they have BOTH made... so you need to respect them both.
You live with someone else, they are helping to support you, you LOSE THE RIGHT TO COMPLAIN. Keep your mouth shut and remember they are HELPING YOU OUT... not the other way around.
2007-06-25 03:04:44 · answer #5 · answered by az_mommma 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Move out, and try to only deal w/ him when you have to. When your older, mabye that feeling will go away, but for now, he's gonna seem really annoying.
2007-06-25 03:04:22 · answer #6 · answered by Julia D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh well, he's not going to change..... Do your own laundry and why don't you offer to make dinner instead. n
2007-06-25 03:04:09 · answer #7 · answered by Nikki 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DONT BLAME YOUR DAD.
DONT CURSE
DONT HATE DADS COZ HE GAVE YOU LIFE
RESPECT HIM
TALK TO HIM
HELP HIM COZ YOURE THE SON AND HE IS YOUR FATHER
HE IS OLDER
HE IS WISER
HE MUST BE SAD SOMETHIN MUST BE TROUBLING HIM
2007-06-25 04:16:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋