How can I get my in laws to be more strict about watching my 13 month old daughter? I feel they do as I ask when it comes to her, but they let her walk in rooms they arent in and dont look in on her for a few mins @ a time.
2007-06-24 19:53:52 · 4 answers · asked by rusefox 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
no i dont think im being overprotective. they let her go in the bathroom by herself, walk into the spare room w/ no telling what she will find.
I dont like her being by herself bc i almost died when i was 2 from swallowing a penny i found.
2007-06-24 20:00:45 · update #1
They might just be less uptight and more relaxed then you are. Maybe you need to be less over protective. Your in laws did raise a great husband for you, right? If you feel so strongly about it, don't leave your kid with them.
As long as the house is baby proofed, it shouldn't be a problem. Your daughter might learn to be more independent.
A simple solution would be to close all the doors of the rooms you don't want her in.
2007-06-24 19:58:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
getting parents to listen to you can be tough esp. grand parents because all they want to do is spoil the kids and they of course think they know everything because after all they raised us and we turned out ok right!! you just have to ask them as nice as you can and explain to them that you don't know all the little mommy secrets yet and some things scare you and you are learning everything from scratch try to explain to them that you wuld like it if they kept a better eye on her it would make you feel safer. i wouldnt yell or scream or even try to start a fight that will get you no where just calmly sit down and talk to them and tell them how you feel. At the same time if its only for a few minutes and they have safety features in the house to avoid her from getting hurt i dont think its too big of a deal after all children need to be able to explore their surroundings so that they can learn from them. if you don't allow your baby the freedom to learn different things and are always protecting her, she will grow up to be very clingy and not independant some times its ok to let them explore you could always just tell them to keep an eye on her from the door of the room to make sure she isnt doing anything that will cause her harm. the whole in laws and grandparents thing is very difficult either way you look at it sometimes they just dont listen. but in the end be firm but kind and just tell them how you feel should do the trick good luck!!
2007-06-25 03:01:42 · answer #2 · answered by ladydarius20 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you are being just a tad bit overprotective and mean this in the nicest way. They are grandparents and they are grandparents for a reason. They raised you guys. And now you are raising your own child. Let life happen and enjoy.
Besides if you were to tell them otherwise you might hurt them. And they really don't have to watch your child.. but they do becasue they love her/him and you and their boy. Trust them and let them enjoy being grandparents.
2007-06-25 03:50:20 · answer #3 · answered by Jess 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i know the feeling but it is my parents. they let my son who is 2 now do whatever he wants. climb trees jump on the bed play with money. they just don't know how to tell him no. they are always with him but still. and my mom will sit there and let him eat 5 or more pieces of cheese and 3 bananas. with my parents i just have to remind them that he cant always do what he wants and would they have let me do that. all you can do is try to talk to them. good luck
2007-06-25 03:19:31 · answer #4 · answered by fairy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋