If you were abused please answer this question?

Question

When you saught help to work through your abuse were you able to find quality help? To me quality help is help that isn't just drugging your feelings away, it is finding a therapist or group that helps you work through and resolve the issue around your abuse that cause you problems in daily life, such as flashbacks, hearing the words of your abusers again and again in your mind, fearing relationships, eating disorders and other self destructive behaviors, etc.

If you found a quality therapist or group, what in your opinon made it quality and helpful? What state and county if in the USA did you find this help in?

Did you pay for private therapy or did you have to go to a county mental health center for help?

If you went to a county mental health center; did the help you received help you work through and permanantly resolve issues that were affecting you from the abuse?

Where you drugged and hospitalized without progressing?

What to you is successful therapy?

Please answer this question as it personally applies to you. I want to hear from those who had had acutal personal experience with this issue.

I'm not looking for a therpist myself, I am writing a book & I want as I work to finish it to ask a wider group of people for their experience in this area. I have asked over the years people on buses, at church, anywhere I went such questions. The more people who have experience with this issue I hear from the better.
So far I find that people do have a problem finding quality therapy that helps them work through their abuse in a helpful manner. People who are poor often give up after years of working to get needed help through the public mental health systems, only to find they get a lot of drugs offered them, but little constructive help. So learning & hearing from others throughout the world, re in the US where I live will help me find out if there are consistant problems in finding help,and where the best help has been found.

theanswerman63 was very rude in his answer, but allow me to state that one, I have many learning disabilities, so my book is being edited by a friend. Anyone with any type of dyslexia knows that spelling is an on going problem. Some of the greatest writers can't spell well.
I AM NOT LOOKING FOR A STORY, you do not need to give details of your abuse in order to answer these questions. As for am I really writing a book, yes; I've been told for years to write my life story, because of all I have gone through. I'm praying what I write will help others; I've been told by others what I have shared with them has helped them in their healing. I want to know your opinions so that when I say in my book that I've asked others which abuse has had the most lasting affects upon them and share that answer, which for now is the verbal, I can say that represents having asked to present at least 1000 people; the more who confirm that, the more such knowledge can help others.

YOU CAN CLICK ON MY AVETAR AND E-MAIL ME IF YOU DON'T WANT TO SUBMIT YOUR ANSWER FOR OTHERS TO SEE.

THANK YOU TO ALL WHO WERE WILLING TO ANSWER THIS QUESTION IN AN HONEST AND HELPFUL MANNER. I APPRECAITE IT!

Answer 1

email me and I'll tell you privately these answers. [e-mail]

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Answer 2

I have been but why would I share those very private issues with someone that I don't know and can't prove is really writing a book?? How do I know that you won't use the information to enc up some how hurting me or those that I love?? As for therapy I have had therapy both in private clinics and public ones and it wasn't the clinic that proved to be helpful or not it's the doctor. I have found doctors who were just there for a paycheck at private clinics and I have found the most caring doctors at public clinics?? Doctors who chose work at public clinics knowing that things are more difficult there I think are more caring, they really do want to help. So I think that it depends a great deal on the doctor.

Answer 3

I believe your description of successful therapy is a good one, and it is difficult to find. While I was still working I had limited benefits, so I could only have 5 visits a year. It was intended to assist people with temporary issues, like divorce decisions. That proves to be very effective, though sometimes you have to look back and think about what you learned in order to realize you really are better than before.

For extremely serious issues, such as physical abuse and incest, just about everyone is on their own to pay for it. Looking for the right therapist for you may take some time, but it's worth pursuing.

While you are working on finding your therapist, or are already in therapy, find a place to volunteer your time. I recommend you try serving food to the homeless, at least to start. Learning the stories of people who have suffered even greater wounds than we have is an excellent way to recover.

I worked in the mental health field with severely disturbed teenagers. It is necessary to understand what they lived through in order to help them. I learned some hair-raising things, and my sympathy for them overcame my own pain. Not a lot, and not permanently. Little by little reaching out to them dissolved my pain. Listening carefully, and down deep within myself, I heard things that were right for my situation, and learned what was right for me, and how to heal myself. That job provided me with the most growth of my lifetime. For me, it was the most successful therapy.

Another way to "improve" your therapy, is get your counselor to recommend books for you. The psychology section of any good bookstore is a great place to browse, and take a few home, too.

Answer 4

I lived a life of every abuse imaginable. When I was old enough to say I moved in with my grandma out of the situation, and I really just buried the feelings until I got older. I was medicated and sent to therapists but nothing made a difference. I think what I went through as a child made me a stronger adult. It was just last year (I'm 27 now) that I decided to confront my mom about it and it went as I expected, she blew up and we didn't speak for about a year. Se talk now but my respect for her is not there, and being a parent myself I can't see how you can let you child live the life she allowed me to live. I think its about being ready to come to terms with the past, accept it, forgive as best you can and move on. It always stays in the back of your mind but I honestly don't think therapy will help until you are actually ready to let yourself be helped.

Answer 5

Two problems with what you are doing. First, I think you are in the wrong place to get people to talk about any kind of abuse openly with you on a public forum like this. Espacially when you are trying to get personal information out of them.
Second, why are you writing a book about this type of subject. Are you a wanna be shrink? You will need to learn to spell better before you start writing this book. People don't really care to read books that are mis-spelled. And before you say something about I don't have the right to answer your question, you asked for people who had been abused to answer and now you have all the answer I will give you.

Answer 6

Yes I was abused and it was not until I was an adult and making plans to get married that it all came forward out of the darkness. The smell of his cologne the heaviness of his body the feeling of his flesh on mine. It just about destroyed me, I got in to county mental health and it was fine for a while. But then my husband started physically abusing me and it all came back. I went in to counseling again, this time in the private sector, a christian councilor. It worked for a while. But then my husband and I got a divorced, my son was giving me problems and my daughter was molested by a family member and it all came back again. This time we went in to counseling and I had to show my daughter the way and through showing her she could be a victim or she could be a survivor,this councilor was a christian councilor who worked for the state. He was great and I would recommend him to any one. He let U analyze yourself in a since, you were safe and in control. That made a lot of difference in recovery.

Answer 7

I have a slightly off-topic question: Why are you looking on Yahoo Answers for such stories?

Answer 8

thats a long question i didnt even read it. but one time my teacher touch me in a innapropriate manner but i was to stupid of a little kid to realize that something was wrong with that i didnt realize it until i was like 19 and it was way to late for me to even care about it, but anyway shorten your questions please.

signed
the boy who was touch