i really need advice i'm totally lost!?

Question

i really like this guy and i kinda wish i didn't. i've known him for awhile now and i've liked him for months. we tried dating once but neither one of us had time so we ended it. he says he really likes me and he said he thinks he loves me. i want to believe him and i want to be with him but sometimes he can be so mean to me. he has weird mood swings like one minute we'll be laughing it up having a great time and he'll go off like "your so gay" or "your an emo whore" i asked him not to and everything and he said thats how he gets around girls he likes. it really hurts me thats why i dont want to like him anymore really and i've asked him to stop but he wont. he also tries to make me jealous commenting on other girls. i just idk if he really does like me or if he's just playing with my heart. i've spent so many nights crying over him. i'm 14 and he's 16, i dont see how someone like him could like me either....please anyone please tell me what i should do, or how 2 get over him if i shud

he's the only one who understands some stuff that i'm going through so i feel like i need him. his dads abusive and he takes it out on me he's never actaully hit me or anything i dont think he would do that just he gets all depressed and crap. i want to be with him so bad though it hurts he's the best guy when he's happy. he's everything a girl wants. i dont see how he could like me though he's almost perfect and well i'm not.

Answer 1

I know what you feel like your problem is almost the same as what happend to me. Sort of. He would just prank me all the time asking me to be his girlfriend and would tell me that I got pranked. lol. Just don't pay attention to any thing he does or says to you. Just act like he is not worth your time. Then he should start coming around and flirting with you. Or you could wait for next school year and see if a hotter boy comes around. Good luck!

Answer 2

First off, and I know you don't want to hear this, but you're way too young for relationships that you think will last or true love that isn't there. At this age, or even an older teen, hasn't had enough experience and is just not equipped to develop a lasting emotional relationship. You seem bright enough to know that he's not ready by his actions toward you, and his comments about other girls. He'll break your heart; well, it sounds as if he already has. Your emotions are so up in the air right now and your mind can't come to terms with them. Let yourself have a few years of just being friends with people, casual dating with no string attached and no physical involvement; grow into your emotions; don't be in such a rush to try to be a couple with someone. Just make some awesome friendships and when the time comes you'll know that both you and your guy are ready. It takes 2 people committed to a relationship to make it work. Now, have a fun and carefree summer with your friends.

Answer 3

Sweetie, this sounds like my last relationship. He'd call me a '*****' and even an 'emo whore.' After he left me and began dating another girl the same day, I was devestated. Yet to be honest, this time without him has gone by soo much faster than when I was with him. The one you want to be with should raise you up more than they let you down and push you around. Honestly, if he thinks it is okay to insult you like that because it is just 'what he does', he obviously doesn't appreaciate the great girl you are. If he loved you like he said, he shouldn't treat you the same as other girls, because you should mean more to him than any other girl, in fact, he shouldn't even be comparing. Plus, if he is low enough to try to get you jealous to have you be with him, he has no idea how to treat a lady. Jealousy makes a girl insecure, and that can be the worst feeling on earth for a teenager.

You are 14, you haven't even lived 1/4 of your life. Teenage years are supposed to be your years of freedom and happiness, do not waste a bit of that time crying over a jerk like him. You'll find someone who makes you feel good, it is just a matter of time.

To get over him, disconnect any form of communication you have with him. Spend time with your friends, who do make you feel good. It will be a while before you will feel 100% better. Yet, the earlier you leave this situation, the easier it will be to let go.
Many of us girls have been in a situation such as this, and most have been able to overcome it; you will too.

Best wishes, deary.

Answer 4

I say give him a chance , talk to him about it if u really like him.people are different , he might come around u never know and if he does he will be really gracious that u did wht u did. try to find the good in him and explore that , dont always look for the wrong thing in him cuz u will easily find it , look for the reason why u want to be with him. if u keep accentuating his positive behavior unlike all the other girls he will find u different therefore treat u different.
good luck!!!

Answer 5

honey, stay away from him, those are the fist signs of an abusive relationship...You don't want to go there, he doesn't have anything that is worth going through the kind of hell he will end up putting you through!! You are only fourteen, you've got years and years or heart breaks and tears ahead of you, best to just get this one over with and move on...learn to be strong and look out for yourself now at this young age-have enough respect for yourself to demand respect from boys!!!

Answer 6

This guys is bad news--he is emotionally dysfunctional and doesn't know whether to s**t or wind is watch. You probably have some great qualities that he would not recognize in a month of Sundays. Move on and don't give him the time of day or permission to play his games with you.

Answer 7

How many red flags do you need to realize he is bad news.I mean doesn't it turn you off when he calls you whore?How can you love someone who disrespects you like that.Don't ever let any man treat you like that.Checking other girls out when you are with him?Come on girl?You need to respect yourself first.Second he is not worth it.Third educate yourself,become a wise young lady.Get a good job.Don't waist your time and energy on those stupid boys,who only want to get naive girls like you so they can take advantage of.Just respect yourself.

Answer 8

He's being a jackass and is messing with your head. If he really loves you he wouldn't do that to. You have to say those exact words to him and if he continues to keep hurting you. just leave his *** alone and stop talking to him. that's the best way to get over a guy. also searching for another boy that's a lot nicer then him is a good way to forget about the asswhole.

Answer 9

If he abuses you, mentally, then you should'nt spend time crying over him. He's probably not the one for you, so just take a vacation from him and all other worries. Hope the best to ya ;}

Answer 10

Don't EVER settle. "love" is only a small part of what relationships need. Respect, Trust, Honesty and Loyalty are all even more important. Your young........move on! This is where you become a big girl, and start respecting yourself.