Should I just ignore it when my woman is acting flirty or doing things i don't like.?

Question

I have had cases of the woman I have been with flirt to much or have cheated. So now I am labeled as the jelous angry guy in my new relationship because I don't allow certain things like night clubs or drinking without me around. So my question is should I just sit around and act like I don't care when she flirts with guy's or hangs around them. Or should I dump her and not be in a commited relationship with a flirty woman. To many times have i seen friends cheated on and them not know it, including myself.

I don't like to be the jelous angry guy

Answer 1

A woman who likes to flirt with other men is probably not the right person for you. You should do yourself a favor and dump her.

Answer 2

Ok this is a touchy situation.. First off.. if shes a flirt and its bothering you.. u have to sit down and explain to her how u feel about it and not be emotional and angry when u do it.. then she should recognize those things and correct her behaviour, but.. if u were dating her and u knew she was flirty and started a relationship with her regardless than thats ur problem and u either have to deal or get out of this relationship and find a girl who isnt flirty.. but also.. telling her what she can and cannot do.. is not a healthy relationship.. Shes her own woman.. if she wants to go out and have a few drinks with her friends.. who r u to say she cant? Anyways Goodluck!

Answer 3

I think the problem is in the caliber of women you are associating with. Find a better class of women. Not all women are that way - find them - and leave the pretty little social butterflies alone - they're obviously not what you want to end up with - but maybe you like it this way? Or are the women out of your league and just disrespecting you this way so that you WON't like them? I don't know - there could be a lot of things going on here - But the bottom line is: you need to date women who are what you ultimately are looking for - go for the heroes and dump the zeroes!

Having to put down rules, your laws is NOT good at all! That seems to me like you're treating them either as a child or as an idiot - they have their own minds. You are very insecure and I believe may be shooting for the stars, for women out of your reach or way below the way your parents raised you.

You and your current have no future. You need a fresh start. You need to love and respect yourself better - I'll bet you're a very loving, attentive, affectionate boyfriend and will be a great catch for someone - but you've first got to decide on what is best for you. Love yourself first and everything else will fall into place -

much good luck to you!

Answer 4

Man i am so on the same boat with you.... I get called the "ball and chain" He has cheated on me, and we are working past all of that... But i want to answer the question from the other side. I have cheated as well and i am the biggest flirt! Sometimes it's just showboating and others i just want some attention.... thats when you should worry.

You should know this girl a little better, maybe it's just showing off and maybe it's just attention, both have gotten me on the cheaters list. Learn why she is doing what she is doing, but don't mistake a "fun" person for someone who will cheat on you. Most importantly learn this lesson
"Adapt and Overcome"!!!!

Answer 5

If you don’t trust her then you shouldn’t be in a relationship with her and if you feel this way about all women and relationship then you need to get over your issues before starting a new relationship. You may have been cheated on in the past but you cannot bring those issues into a new relationship; not only will you torture yourself but her as well. If you have to play babysitter while she is at a club or drinking with friends then most likely she is going to realize you don’t trust her and she’ll feel suffocated. No one should have to earn your trust, they should have it until/if they give you a reason otherwise. Good luck.

Answer 6

Well from experience,go out and find someone else. How old are you two? If you two are no older then your 20's this somewhat common. But if you're in your 30's like me! Dump her quick! She will never change. She is not to be trusted. I've been through that ordeal before. The reason that you feel that way towards her,is because that you don't trust her. You said that she goes off,and drinks with other guys! Dude,there are alot more fish in the sea. It sounds like that she's the"wild type." Get out of it,before someone gets hurt mentally and physically! Good luck.

Answer 7

I had the same thing happen to me so now I have trust issues. This doesn't mean you need to dump your current girlfriend. But if you're suspicious of her and she's given you reason to believe you could be hurt again, then don't let yourself be put in that position. Just try and let minor things slide because it can make you look controlling if you don't. I know it's definitely hard but you may lose little battles to win the war. Also, let your current girlfriend know that your trust was broken badly before so that's why you're having issues...and that it's nothing to do with her directly, but rather, your past has caused you to act this way. Hopefully she'll understand. Good luck!

Answer 8

I am a woman who has been happily married for 11 years now to a man I adore. We have many friends, male and female. We go to bars and I talk with many people, male and female. So does my husband. We both know we are into each other only and there is no need for jealousy. About two years before I met my husband, I dated a guy who got pissed anytime I talked with another guy. One time he even started yelling at me, "You've been talking with him for ten minutes so why don't you just go f**** with him!" I was simply talking to a friend. That's it. I dropped the guy very quickly after that. Nothing kills a relationship faster than jealousy. Have you ever hit a woman? I wonder about that because extreme jealousy is almost always followed by hitting by the man. You'll never have a long lasting, loving relationship if you keep with this pattern of loving and being jealous.

Answer 9

Talk with her about it, & see why she's doing it even though she's in a relationship with you and tell her that you don't like it (have a level head and stay calm when talking to her about it, even if you want to blow your top). If she doesn't care/keeps doing it/you already have talked to her, then I would definitly say dump her.

If you're in a commited relationship, I say you have a reason to be jealous or upset & if she doesn't like it, then she's not for you.

Good luck in your final decision and hope all goes well in the end. If you have any other questions you think & can help you with, give me a IM knock (fun_curvaceousblond).

Answer 10

I wonder if she was happy and feminine when you noticed her. I doubt you were attracted to someone who acted as if she wasn't aware that men existed.

If she was fun to be around, why do you want her to become subdued and drab now? That's like saying that liking you means that she can't enjoy being feminine. Just because she jokes doesn't mean that she's going to be unfaithful. And if you're just dating, what does "faithful" mean anyway? Are you engaged? Serious enough to have at least talked commitment?

You sound like a man who is too serious, who rushes into owning a person--you refer to the girl as "my woman". She's her own woman. Ease up and take things slower and enjoy them, for heaven's sake. Let trust develop before you get so wrapped up in a relationship.