Christians, how would you react if your child told you he/she was gay?

Answer 1

I am not a christian , I am a Wiccan Mother..... I would say are you happy honey? Good!
Blessed Be!
)O(
Ariel

Answer 2

Christianity doesn't really teach that there is anything wrong with being gay. Just a few passages from Paul. And by the way, Paul believed women to be inferior beings... But Christians do not believe that today... Paul was just a man, and as a man, he had limited understanding. In his time and culture, it as a common belief that homosexuality was wrong... And also women being inferior was a common belief... So, that's what he wrote...
The following is from Paul:

7:10 And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband: 7:11 But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife.
7:12 But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away.

He specifically says there that it is he that is speaking and not the LORD. Thus, Pauls writings are only the words of a man and are not considered Scripture. Looking within the Scriptures, not one verse can be found speaking against homosexuality...

Now, to answer your question: if I had a child and they told me that they were gay no big deal. Of course I know that they are going to lead a harder life. They're going to be different. But I would not be disappointed with them in the slightest. I would want the same opportunities for them as I would for a straight child.

See? Not all Christians are narrow-minded. :)
Hope my answer helped.

Answer 3

That's me.
It depends on the denomination the parents belong to. If you are talking about the United Church of Christ or Episcopal Church, the parents may only be concerned regular things like finding a good mate. You would be surprised how many people in the church are accepting of gays, even in denominations that are conservative or do not officially accept gays, like the Baptists and the Presbyterian Church (USA).
If the parents are like mine, from a fundamental denomination, than you are talking about a long road of conflict and coming to understand your child or a long period of rejection and conflict driving the child away from the parents and the religion that is supposed to support and guide. Some families go through a long period of "Don't ask, don't tell" or hiding in the closet to avoid this long period of conflict.
If you are this child, know that God is NOT the church or your parents. That GOD already knows who you are and LOVES you. Come to understand that the conflict is NOT between you and God but between beliefs in outdated laws (Read Acts Chapter 10) and the Gospel of Jesus' redeeming Love.

Answer 4

How old is the child? If they are very young (pre-pubescent), then they probably don't understand what's going on and they are saying they are gay so that you'll launch a discussion and explain things to them. If that's the case, then sit them down and explain what homosexuality is, and explain your personal views on homosexuality and why you believe those views.

If your child is old enough to actually be gay, then that's different. First, you should not scold/condemn/negatively respond in any way. Remember: Christ died for EVERYONE.

But that doesn't mean you have to condone his behavior. Sit him down and remind him of your beliefs and why you believe the way you do. Give him plenty of time to talk and explain his own viewpoints. Actually listen to him and respect his views (that doesn't mean condone his views, it just means give him the benefit of the doubt)

In the end, you will probably still believe what you believe and he will probably still believe what he believes. Just tell him that no matter what you love him, and no matter what God loves him, and that if he ever changes his mind you're more than happy to help him move back to a straight lifestyle. (no matter what anybody tells you, living a gay lifestyle is a choice and you can always change your mind, it just might be hard)

Answer 5

First I am proud to be a CHRISTAIN and you sir/lady are living a miserable wrecthed lifestyle if you are not.

For the pleasures of sin endure but a little while and then you pay a price that is so expensive it could cost you your soul if you don't repent.

This did happen to my wife and me.

This was my reaction. This was my answer. I told my son he could do that if he wanted to. I would not stand in his way seeing he is a grown man.

I told him, "Your playing in the devils play ground and the devil doesn't play and neither does God."

I have grieved over him like he had died. I could not talk about him to others without weeping. You see your sin always hurts those who love you. I would have rather he died than for him to have opened this Pandora’s Box. In fact in some ways he would be better of dead.

I say that because he will pay a terrible price. I hate to see him hurt. I hate to see him loose the things money cannot buy.

Sin always strips us of the things that are priceless. Sin always separates us from a loving God. There is always a price to pay when you sin. It is called the wages of sin. The bible says, "The wages of sin are death."

My wife and I have prayed for him many many hours on end. We have two sons one a preacher and one living in the devils playground.

Our time is spent praying more for the son who is running from God than the one who is a preacher.

This is what we do know.

That God's word is true.

That God has heard our prayer and that there is no savior besides Him.

And since Jesus is our Savior He will do His best to save our son from this hideous perverse lifestyle before the devil kills him.

Do we love our son? We love him just as Jesus did and would lay down our lifes for him if it would save him from death and hell. Our son knows this. We are continually telling him we love him.

This is the scripture we stand upon, Prov 22:6 Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.

This we have done...when he is old he will not depart from it.

So we stand upon God's word that will never fail pleading the BLOOD over our son and continually begging God's mercy for him praying in Jesus NAME!

Not only that but we are praying JESUS would save and deliver his roommate as well. You see the devil is a loser and we can and will do all things thru Christ the stengthens us.

Now do you have another question like what must I do to be SAVED?

The answer is : Acts 2:38-39

Then Peter said unto them, Repent, and be baptized every one of you in the name of Jesus Christ for the remission of sins, and ye shall receive the gift of the Holy Ghost.

39 For the promise is unto you, and to your children, and to all that are afar off, even as many as the Lord our God shall call.

Answer 6

I love my child no matter what my child does. However, I would talk to them about what God has said about that any sexual activity other than the marriage between 1 man and 1 woman is fornication.

I would ask them to stop and repent of this sin. I would remind my child of how much Jesus loves them and that He died to take their place for every sin that they commit. I would remind my child of how much he/she loves Jesus and ask that my child not be involved in this activity any longer.

But first and most of all, as I do daily, I would continue to pray for my child and keep on loving him/her.

Answer 7

My child would still be my child, and I would still love him or her. I may not like or support their bad choices, but their life is their own and they have their freedom. I would love them unconditionally.

Christ taught His followers to love one another, so any Christian that answers your question differently is probably not a true Christian.

Answer 8

Wow, I'm floored by all the "lifestyle choice" answers here by the good loving Christians. Do you really think a person would choose to be one of the most hated and reviled groups (after atheists, that is) in our country, forced to live lives of solitude and hazed by merely being who they are?

And you think YOU'RE persecuted.

I truly hope all of you who would love the sinner but hate the sin re-think your position if it ever happens to you. Be understanding, helpful, hopeful and happy for your child that they had the guts to tell you and wish you to be with them, not against them.

As for me, I wouldn't be sad or disappointed or any of those negative things. He'd have nothing to repent for and no sin to be forgiven for. I'd be tickled that he trusted me enough to come out to me, especially in these trying days of evangelical and fundamentalist hatred of gays, and I'd ask when I'd get to meet his mate. I'd ask that he be safe because I worry, but I'll tell him that anyway if he's straight.

Answer 9

I would be upset, and wonder what I had let happen to cause this, then tell my child that they would burn in Hell for eternity, unless they change their ways and stop their abominable sin of homosexuality.

Answer 10

I am a Holy Spirit filled born again tongue speaking Christian and if my Kid said He was gay I would take him and give him the biggest hug he ever had because it would not be his choice.You cant make yourself who you are not.That is if you are being who you are and not living a lie.

Answer 11

I would be disappointed, but none the less, it wouldn't stop me from loving my child, and having a relationship with my child................edit.... I have just been reading all of the answers to this question, and how most of you have loving, and accepting hearts. Now,I would like each of you to ask yourselves this question. Is your love greater than Gods?