Im a mother to a 16 year old boy. His father and I are divorced and we live in separate states 1600 miles apart. My son lives with his dad for the school year but stays with me in the summer. He has a girlfriend back home. Since he has been here with me for the summer, he totally ignores her, and is now hanging out with this girl here and claims that the new girl is now his girlfriend. Yet he refuses to tell his old girl. I talk to his other gf on a regular basis. Should I tell her??
2007-06-24 17:27:14 · 18 answers · asked by tankysgal 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She deserves to know. If he's not going to tell her, then you should.
2007-06-24 17:29:53 · answer #1 · answered by Chrissy 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sorry - but it really isn't any of your business. It sounds like you are trying to be more of a friend than a mother. He has to sort out his own girlfriend problems. Just give him sound advice and let him make his own mistakes. Chances are he will end up with neither girl in the end. That's OK. He is only 16 and too young to commit.
2007-06-25 00:32:23 · answer #2 · answered by arkiemom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to your son, and tell him how treating girls (and someday women) like this does not make him a good person and that he might never be happy if he doesn't learn how to treat people with respect. He might think that it is just too hard to tell the other girl that he wants someone new, you should tell him how even if things are hard to say, some stuff just needs to be said.
2007-06-25 00:31:51 · answer #3 · answered by Andrea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No please don't tell her. You might just say that your son is going through a little con fussing time in his life and that she might want to speak with him about how serious he wants to be with her in the future. This should open the doors for him to tell her himself if he decides to. If you tell her he'll only be mad at you and possibly will not want to see you next summer. Be carfull, it's a tough situation. He's only 16 and he needs to make his own mistakes and learn from them. Just be there for him when he needs you.
2007-06-25 00:33:08 · answer #4 · answered by Jacob's Mommy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a kid.....and he'll have MANY girlfriends, Don't be his friend.......be his mom. Don't try and be his girlfriends friend either! Raise him to be a responsible man and not lead these girls on. A REAL MAN would would never leave a girl hanging. Teach him.
2007-06-25 00:33:49 · answer #5 · answered by Jo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ah from personal experience, trust me when i say, dont interfer with his love life... when i was his age... my mother was very nosy, so i refused to tell her things about my life.. now i have two kids, one a girl, (16) who tell me things.
if you tell her, you risk the chance of loosing his trust. and what's more important? his trust or the girls?
If i where you i would talk to my son and tell him not to beat around the bush, and act like a man. break up with one of them.
2007-06-25 00:35:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course you should tell her. And i would suggest trying a little more strictness with your son. You may have a player on your hands, and you can play a big part in repairing that in his life.
2007-06-25 00:31:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you should keep out of it
he will tell her when he is ready remember he is only 16 and he needs to live and learn no matter how much you want to protect him from trouble he has to clean up his own back door you cant
2007-06-25 00:32:36 · answer #8 · answered by sad_angel_eyes_4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, he's only 16 and he will probably have other girl friends.I think hes to young for you to worry about something like that.
2007-06-25 03:02:40 · answer #9 · answered by garstar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For future trust with your son, I think don't tell her. Besides he needs to learn responsibility and he'll learn more by having to deal with it on his own.
2007-06-25 00:31:15 · answer #10 · answered by Tasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, set her free. And sit your son down for a talk.
2007-06-25 00:30:28 · answer #11 · answered by iRSquires 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋