Is my friend lying about having cancer?

Question

My really good friend told me that she has cancer. Of course I was shocked because she hasn't been to the doctor since we have been close friends for about a year and this is the first I have heard anything about it. I have known her for almost three years now. So I asked her how she knew she had cancer. She then showed me a lump on her quadricep which felt like a fatty mass. Then on her lower left hand side of her back which was like a little ball. She also had a little lump on her chest that felt like a swollen lymph node to me. She then told me that she was diagnosed with cancer about five years ago and has not gotten treatment. She says she doesn't want to go through the treatment because she would get sick. Does this make sense? I don't want to be cynical but I'm having a hard time. What do you think?

Answer 1

If this young lady don't have a reputation of lying you can only believe this until it's proven not to be true. I would suggest to her that even thou she don't wont treatment she should still go to the doctor and find out what stage the cancer is in, or if it has went into remission and offer to go with her. If she refuses I would still be her friend and not say anything else to her about it. time will tell.

Answer 2

I have no idea if she is lying or not. I agree with the person that said to mention it to the parents and watch their reaction.

However, I understand why if it is true she would refuse treatment. It could uncurable for one. If there is no chance of curing, then its not worth going through the treatments, especially when so young.

Or the treatment for her cancer could be worse than the cancer itself. Or she may really just be terrified of the treatments. Older people tend to have more problems, perhaps she has seen someone older go through it and die. However, any cancer patient going through treatment will become sick. Some treatments are way worse than others.

Answer 3

you know, it's really hard to say what's going on here. About 7 years ago my best friend at the time had been diagnosed with cancer, you can imagine how I felt. I did everything I could for her to try and make what little bit of life she had left livable well lo and behold one night I have to take her to the emergency room for another matter and it was revealed that her cancer was a lie, she never had it, she made it up just to get attention. Well later on she really did get cancer and is now dead. People do lie about some strange things but see what happens when they do?

Answer 4

If your friend's attitude about cancer is she doesn't want to get treated because she will get sick...she needs to get educated about treatments. Sure chemo makes you feel like cr#% but the alternative is to become sicker and die in lots of pain. I would go through surgery chemo and radiation all over again and again.

I've been there and done that...it isn't so bad,,,sort of like being pregnant and going through morning sickness and labor. Once it's done you forget the discomfort until the next time...

Answer 5

I doubt she has Cancer. Maybe you should ask her though. or if you really want to find out and asking her isn't an option, next time your at her house. go up to her mom or dad and say "(whatever your friends name is) told me she has cancer a few days ago..its so sad.." see what her parents reaction is. If they say i know and go along, she probably does have cancer. If they are shocked to hear you say that, she probably doesn't.

Answer 6

anything is possible, she could be lying for sympathy or she may be too far gone for treatment or she simply wishes not to be put through those horrible treatments! You must find out what the true answer is !!!

Answer 7

ill Pray your Good Friend to get well soon... i hope after this a few hours later or tomorrow.. your worried is no more..