I am a 25 year old guy who i think someware along the line lost interest in love. I think i just thought "I cant possibly get a girlfriend" and mentally shut out that possibility.
Around 23 I worked with some females that opened me up to that possibility that i could be boyfriend material. I spoke to a female friend recently that said "I think your not getting any girls because your not showing interest". Any thoughts or ideas on this would be handy.
Also I dont have feelings for guys or anything, I still feel attracted to females but yeah?
2007-06-24 16:34:26 · 6 answers · asked by ChAtMaN 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just want to clarify something else. I dont have troubles meeting females or having female friends, I have more female friends then male and they have helped me understand lots.
I am verry familiar with the theroy of relationships (you will notice that the majority of my questions i have answered is in this catagory), but I feel as if my not getting involved in the game earlier on in life and sorta "getting over" crushes and things have left me not needing a female at all.
But a few times recently i have been feeling like i may want one, since my neigbours are all lovie dovie n stuff?
2007-06-24 17:06:48 · update #1
To start off, relax. 25 yr old is not a bad place to start. I think your friend may be right. In order to get or have a girlfriend you need to let them know that you are interested. And your line of thinking that you can't possibly get a girlfriend will keep you there as well. No girl wants to date a man who finds himself to be unloveable.
2007-06-24 16:40:44 · answer #1 · answered by Chris 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not already, I would encourage you to try talking with the women around you, whether you're romantically interested in them or not. This will build your confidence. Then when you meet someone that you are interested in, it will feel more natural to approach her and strike up conversation. Speaking as a mature young woman, I don't appreciate guys who are too comfortable around women (ie touching, overly flirtatious) as it only shows that they've had a lot of practise seducing (for lack of a better term). I would much prefer a man who is a little apprehensive, but at the same time sincere, attentive and kind. If you are showing genuine interest in getting to know a woman, and allowing yourself to be yourself you have a good chance of meeting a woman who is mature as well.
PS - It is also possible that you just aren't interested in a relationship right now. There is nothing wrong with this either.
2007-06-24 23:44:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You might have more interest in living your life and doing what you want to without having to think about another person. That's not a bad thing at all. But sometimes men can put off an attitude that they don't want anyone else in their life cause it might screw something up. If you really do want to pursue someone, don't be afraid. The only thing worse than being told no is never asking and it could have been a yes.
2007-06-24 23:40:02 · answer #3 · answered by jenwom 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are the rougue lover like me and didnt really like anyone you saw. I personally like to get to know some people so maybe you should just befriend some female friends? Email me for more advice, I'll be here for awhile!
2007-06-24 23:39:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are so funny...yeah my advice is to go to links2love.com and romanceclass.com watch a few love movies get in the mood and then go out and find a girl to try it on
2007-06-24 23:40:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get Friends-who are girls first-so you get back into dating chatter-before you ask anyone.x
2007-06-24 23:39:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋