Please advise... Should I move back in with longterm BF??

Question

I have a BF of 8 yrs. We had a home together, and earlier this year, he decided he wanted to own the home w/out me. So, after the buyout, I decided to move...becasue he stopped telling me he loves me, and treating me not very nice. He was bitter I moved out, thought he'd have his cake & ice cream. We are now getting a long really well, he is treating me really good. He asked if I wanted to move back. Now I would be a renter in his home..not sure about that.plus he won't tell me where we stand..but I miss being w/him..But would also like a home I can call mine. What should I do?? I would like more time..he indicates he has a possible roommate, but waiting on my decision. Should I take the risk, to see if you truly cares for me..not just convience?? Please help

Answer 1

Hmmm. I would advise you not to move back without a clear picture of where you guys stand relationship-wise. If you are on different pages in this matter it can get ugly realllll quick. 8 years is a long time so by now he should know whether he wants to continue this relationship romatically, especially if he is asking you to move in. But If he views you as a friend and a "renter" but not a GF you are putting yourself in an awkward situation when it comes to dating (other people). Imagine him coming home with another woman? Imagine explaining to your date why you live with your ex? What if he goes back to treating you poorly once you move in? You will be putting yourself in a situation where you will be moving ... again! It just seems like a sticky situation to get into that may not be all that beneficial to you personally or financially. But only you know what is best. My opinion: Get an answer on where you stand, and be sure he is sincere before you make any big decisions. Good luck to you.

Answer 2

Sugar don't go down that road!

Even though you are getting along doesn't mean the relationship can go back to what it was. Since he didn't want to own the house with you and started treating you badly etc it should be abundantly clear he doesn't want you as a love interest.... and the fact that he has someone else wanting to be a room mate...... then that says that's all he wants from you!

Go ahead and morn your loss. Then get on with your life.

Answer 3

i know the familiar is comfortable and safe, but its also not the best you could have.

if you want to settle, settle for this guy. but remember, you moved out once, and had damn good reason for it. do you really feel like moving all ur stuff again in 6 months?

if you want to be truly happy, live on your own and find a guy who cant stop telling you he loves you.

Answer 4

I'm old fashioned and while we had pre-marital sex, my wife and I resisted moving in together. I think it's a mistake because there's still very little commitment. By the way, I think you meant "he'd have his cake and eat it too."

Answer 5

you ever heard the saying... do it once, shame on you. do it twice, shame on me... ?
i wouldn't move back in so quickly. I mean he is wanting you to rent it, that should tell you something, right? if it were free, you can't beat that.. but, don't do it if you have to rent it from him!