how could u find out if he was truly sorry
2007-06-24 16:17:29 · 52 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would be upset to find out I was Gay and didn't even know it
All kidding aside, I'm a one strike and you're out person on this issue.
2007-06-24 16:20:15 · answer #1 · answered by mark 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is absolutely no way that he will be able to prove that he is truly sorry, because he isn't. If he were truly sorry, he never would have cheated in the first place. Words in the present can't erase actions of the past. Don't talk to me about things like forgiveness and moving on, and trying to work it out together. One who is truly in "love", (or at the least, respects another human being), would never ever, no matter under what circumstances, cheat on their b/f, g/f, or spouse. It is not a mistake that just meant nothing, if anything, it is an action that gives someone the truest indicator of a persons character.
2007-06-24 16:25:09 · answer #2 · answered by dark_knight_1735 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be very hurt, and I wouldn't be able to trust him anymore. Once the trust is gone, the relationship is broken. Leave him if you can, if you can't or you really don't want to lose him, just remember that it happened once and it can happen again. You can never know if he's truly sorry, but you can forgive him if you have it in you, and try to make a new start. Let him know that you can't handle being hurt like this again, and if it ever happens again, it's definitely over.
2007-06-24 16:23:00 · answer #3 · answered by Temari 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick him out the door and let him see what a HUGE mistake he made by cheating on you. You can never know if he is truly sorry. Do you want to have constant doubts about him. Its better to find someone that you can trust completely =)
2007-06-24 16:22:05 · answer #4 · answered by Lonely Love 06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't find out if he was truly sorry. You just have to trust him and go by his actions. If he says he is sorry and does anything to try to win your trust back, then I would say believe him. If he just says he is sorry, but still does the same things he used to (if he was flirty with other women, or whatever) then I would say don't believe him. I was cheated on and dumped him. But then later got back together with him and learned he hadn't changed. You just have to ask yourself if you think you can trust him again. If you say "Yes I can", then you can't be holding this indiscression over his head forever. If you think you can trust him, then you have to let it go. If you don't, it will ruin the relationship.
2007-06-24 16:25:40 · answer #5 · answered by Katie R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't find out if he is truly sorry. I have been in your situation before and I stayed. Our relationship was MISERABLE from that point on because no matter what, the trust had been breached. It is VERY VERY hard to gain trust back again. I would tell you to leave him but who am I to talk?? You have to go with your own instincts and above all, listen to your HEAD, not your heart. Good luck.
2007-06-24 16:21:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course he's sorry; he got caught!
Does it mean he doesn't regret it? Of course there's a chance he isn't a real player, but only you know that for sure: and you
Drop him. Break up, period. He's your boyfriend, and he screwed up.
Yeah, I know. You love him, right? Breaking up with him doesn't mean you'll never be back together. It means he screwed up really, really badly, and you're not going to take such behavior.
Here's the best poem I know:
If you love someone,
let him go.
If he comes back,
he's yours.
If he doesn't,
it was never meant to be.
HOW do you know that he's sorry? His actions AFTER the break-up. Does he pine for you and see nobody? Or does he find others to date?
I know this is harsh, but I've got a lot of experience on this subject, including being the cheat.
If he loves you, he won't just give up on you, but at the same time, he has to respect you.
Meanwhile, who knows? Setting him free sets you free. Maybe you'll find THE right one for you.
Good luck. If you want to talk, let me know.
2007-06-24 16:27:22 · answer #7 · answered by Jen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could be truly sorry now but he will cheat again later. If a person cheated once they will cheat again. It just the matter if you can forgive him and forget. It easy to forgive but it hard to forget.
2007-06-24 16:21:26 · answer #8 · answered by jj1102 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be very frank one cannot find out that the person standing in front is really saying truth and he is really sorry.
But there is one perception that if u truly love someone u forgive him easily because no matter what u dont wan to loose him....
believe on urself and try to show him the true colors of love if he cheated on u once he ll never make that mistake again.....
2007-06-24 16:23:13 · answer #9 · answered by viv 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
END IT if he cheated on you he is not worth it dont let someone take advantage of you like that you deserve better someone that will give you his full attention and someone that truely cares about your feelings if you found out that he cheated once he has probably done it before and he will more than likely do it again especially if you forgive him
2007-06-24 16:33:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I caught my boyfriend cheating I would castrate him. My view on the whole cheating thing is: You can't be sorry. If he really loved you then he wouldn't have gone behind your back and cheated anyway.
2007-06-24 16:21:28 · answer #11 · answered by Meghan T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋