im pretty scared?

Question

my dad is sending me to the 45 day diagnostic program at kidspeaceim pretty scared cause im not sure wht theyre going to do there. its a 45 day residential program and i think they run tests on u to see whats up with u. im scared theyre gonna treat me like a test chimp or a lab rat and run all these crazy *** experiments on me if anyones been there please tell me about it oh heres the link to their site look at it and tell me ewhat u think about it ok thank u


http://www.kidspeace.org/

my therapist was against this idea but im involved with a wjhole team of people and my dad pressured them all with bullshit to send me here, im not suicidal or homocidal or anything, and im not depressed i just fight with my dad all the time. and its for stupid stuff like fir instance i got a 94 on my driving test in school and all i have to do is bring in the waiver and 5 more points of id into moter vehicle to get my permit but he wont let me do it so i say w/e but then when i ask him to drive me places he refuses and calls the cops saying i wont leave him alone its ridiculous. if hes not gonna let me drive then he has to drive me himself. e says hes scared to go in a car with me b/c we got into an accident together and its easier to blame it on me then himself

Answer 1

I can understand how scared you must be, but trust your dad on this one. I'm sure he loves you and has your best interest in mind. I would recommend that you be as nice and cooperative as you can be. I know nothing of this place the website make it appear just great as one would expect. Sorry I can not be of more help. I'm a parent and just feel that your dad would not send you to this place unless he was sure it was OK. What about your mom? Anyway good luck to you.

Answer 2

I've never been there, and you did not say why your father is so worried about you that he'd consider a resident program. At any rate, something must be going on in your life that has your dad worried, and he doesn't feel he has the special skills to help you. So he's found some professionals who can. They aren't likely to treat you like a lab chimp, or some off the wall nutter. They are specially trained to help teens cope with some of the problems of growing up. It's no shame to need help, you ask for help lots of times and this is not any different. People often hire experts to help take care of problems. You go to the doctor when you are sick, the dentist for your teeth. You get your prescriptions from the pharmacy. A mechanic repairs the car, a computer tech repairs your PC. You don't try to do everything yourself, you would say that was crazy. So why should asking for help with growing up problems be any different? They could help you a lot, you know. They could make things less confusing, less stressful, and a lot more happy for you. You have nothing to lose by listening to the advice they have and trying something to make things better. Things won't get worse, they can only stay the same, and with good luck and some effort on your part, they could get a lot better. Then you get to grow up and enjoy a much better life, which can only be a good deal for you. It's natural to feel scared about change, to be nervous about trying something new or different. But whatever is going on at the moment suggests what you are doing now isn't working for you so well. It's worth a shot at seeing if something else will work better. So keep an open mind, try to keep calm about it, and see how it goes. You might just be in for a pleasant surprise.

Answer 3

Your dad cares alot about you. They are not going to treat you as if your are a test chimp or anything of the sort. What they will do is help you conquer fears and deal with everday norms of life. Life skills so you can say. They will teach you to cope with everyday struggles that typical people deal with that you have a hard time dealing with. I promise you this that you will come out a different person, you will be able to manage things alot better, respect your self and others. Most of all you will have friends there with the same things that you are going through. i promise. At first you will not like it and you think that your dad is the meanest person in the world, but you will thank him in the long run. look at it as a positive experience, suck up everything you possibly can and the life experience. Good luck and God Bless.

Answer 4

I've never been there but by the look of the website it looks like you may have had a previous issue that needs to be addressed.

I'm 14 so I can see where you're coming from that you don't want to go (trust me, I wouldn't want to go either). But retarded as it is, some genious asshole made a law that minors have no say in medical treatment :( :(

Unfortunately, you still have to go- because until you're 18, your dad is the boss. I know it sucks but look on the bright side: it's summer, so you don't have to miss school and then try and make up some bullshit story why you missed a month and a half of school :)

If you want to talk to someone your age, my email is [e-mail]. Good Luck!

Answer 5

I so feel for you. I grew up being sent to these places by my mother, and when it wasn't a residental place it was a foster home.
Right now you must be feeling really rejected by your father that he wants to do this to you. I know the feeling.
These places are not bad in general except you are treated like a patient, you don't get the love that children so vitally need in these places. They don't help with depression if anything they only make it worse. Hense why your therapist is probably against it.
However, it may be the best thing for you if you and your father don't get along. It was in one of these places that I met one of the greatest social workers ever. She helped me see that their was a future for me. She helped get me off of the 7 different medications I had accumulated through my years in these places. She helped me see the bigger picture and got me into college.
I am now a college graduate with a great job helping other children like me.
So I will tell you what I tell them, what was once told to me. I know right now it is hard to see beyond your stay at this place, but there is a beyond. You will eventually turn 18 and have complete control over your own life, what goes into your body and what doesn't, where you live and what you become. Right now that is what you need to do. Is look forward to that future. When you start getting depressed or lonely and feeling there is no way out, look towards the future of being completely independent.
Picture going to college, making something of yourself, becoming what you dream of becoming and make it happen. Don't let the negative stuff you are bound to hear about yourself in these places or what your father says get to you. Be proud of who you are and know that it does get easier.

Answer 6

Relax!

It is just a medical facility. They will help you, not hurt you. Mostly, you will be talking to counselors who will help you make better decisions and become a better person.

If you are picturing yourself on medical bed and having doctors all around you with instruments, you are completely wrong. Most of the time, you will be in group with other kids doing "stuff", and other times, you will be talking to a counselor about your problems (what ever that might be)

You should really talk to your father about what it is all about. Your imagination is going wild....

Answer 7

I know that you are scared. You are going to a place were there are people who are concerned and will take good care of you.

Answer 8

sounds like dad has a problem, & needs help. Maybe both of you need to go to see someone together, & really talk about how you both feel , but infront of a Profesional.