What makes the nicer gift?

Question

A friend of mine got married last week. She had asked for gift vouchers for a certain shop. As we live no where near the shop/branch I didn't get any! However, she is really very comfortably off and has a beautifully furnished and decorated home. I thought it might be nice if I do a beautiful wedding sampler for her, in the colours of the bridesmaids dresses, and personalise it with their names and date of the wedding. I'm thinking of having it nicely framed too.

Do you think she's likely to appreciate the time and effort gone into their totally original present - or should I have given her money?

Answer 1

money...although your gift sounds really nice. if she asked for money give her money. Do something like that to be nice or for an anniversary

Answer 2

Ignore some of the other answers...you have up to a year after the wedding to send a gift...although within a month or two is more appreciated by the couple. The idea of a sampler sounds lovely...but heres my question. You said that she has a beautifully furnished and decorated home and is comfortably well off...does that mean that her taste is a bit more expensive? Where will she put the homemade sampler? I personally would cherish it, but I would have nowhere to display it and it would go into a little box of "memories" that I keep instead of being displayed (my house is already totally decorated, wall hangings, etc). I just don't want you to go through the time and effort to make one if it wouldn't be appreciated. :)

Answer 3

First of all etiquette states that you have up to a year to get a couple a wedding gift. If she is a true friend then having something you put your time and effort into will be more special than another gift card. It's possible that she knows you don't live close enough to pick up a gift voucher and won't be too surprised that you didn't get one for her. 25 years from now she'll still remember who took the time and effort to make her such a lovely and thoughtful gift.

Answer 4

Your gift idea is not only lovely, but something nobody could register for. In fact, one our our guests did a lovely counted cross stitch piece for us and every time I look at it, I remember our wedding day and how much fun we had, and what a good time our friend was having. She sadly passed on a couple years later, and now it's a priceless remembrance of a good friend.

Gift vouchers are nice, certainly, and useful, but this is a special gift from the heart. Personalized handcrafts make wonderful gifts.

Do the sampler and have it framed.

Oh, and if you're worried about how late it is, my husband and I were given one final wedding gift about six months ago...as we approached fourteen years of marriage! Then again, it was a handmade, custom designed quilt. I consider it well worth the wait!

Answer 5

I think that is a lovely idea. It is not written in stone, that gifts have to come off the register or be money. A gift is after all a gift. What you are thinking is beautiful and unique and may well turn out to be her favourite keepsake of all.
I know I would love such a gift.
Go with it.....I am sure she will appreciate the time and effort gone into the gift.

Answer 6

A sampler is an embroidered piece, with many colorful designs and threads. It has a border, some designs, and in this case, it will show the names and date of the wedding, done in the colors of the bridesmaids dresses.
The thing is, the gift is already a week late. You went to the wedding with no gift, and sending a belated gift is better than no gift.
I don't think I would want to remind her I attended the wedding with no gift, until your gift is completed and delivered.
You can do the give the cash late, and the sampler for an anniversary, although this is getting complex.
I would complete the sampler and send it on.
Some friends get on this way, although I think I would faint if I didn't take the gift with me, or I wouldn't attend.
You didn't approve of her choice of shops, did you?

Answer 7

I personally would rather have the gift you made. I would appreciate so much the time and thought you put into it and it would be treasured forever. I would always remember the person that gave it to me, more than I would remember who gave me the toaster or how much money someone gave me. It really all depends. Not to say your friend is like this, but there are so many brides who are so selfish that all they want is expensive gifts and money, I would certainly hope though that they would still cherish a gift such as yours over money.

Answer 8

Cash and gift cards are spent and forgotten. I have always tried to give gifts that will be kept and remembered. I think the sampler is a lovely idea, especially if you get it nicely framed.

Answer 9

A samplter is such a great idea. Very personal and thoughtful. Years from now, she wont remember who gave her which voucher (sort of a tacky request anyway, in my opinion), but she will always remember the time and effort that you put into such a thoughtful gift. This is a keepsake of her wedding that she should treasure.

Answer 10

If she is NOT a "material girl", I think she would appreciate your gift.
Some of my favorite Mother's Day gifts were my rose bushes. I went out of town one year and my then husband and son did landscaping around a tree in the center of our front yard. Before they did that, it just had a circle with wood chips around it. The day I got back into town, I kept going outside to look at my "gift".
Is the bride someone like this?

Answer 11

First it is not appropriate for your friend to tell you to give hre money or gift vouchers. The idea of registering is to prevent duplications but not a mandate of what to give.

Do the sample. It is original and beautiful and should be a lifetime of enjoyment.