YeS MoThEr!!!!!?

Question

ok, i need some major help with this1, please.... serious help, if ur a smart ***, or an asshole 2 me, i will mail u back with whats on my mind, so dont' release the inner beast please. ok, im nineteen, i have a 7 mo. old, high school grad i have a part time job. my bf, not the babys father (bio father in jail, long story) lives with me, he has a full time job, decent pay. well, we live with my parents. it's such hell, it was fine when it was just me, but she controls EVERYTHING we do. i know its her house, but we are both adults. my bf isn't allowed 2 drink in the house, he's 23. she always has 2 know where we are and what we are doing. also, she doesn't want me 2 go2 certain peoples houses, just cuz she doesn't like them, and threatens 2 call DFC on me... i mean, isn't that for people who r unfit parents??? all i do is smoke cigarretts, and not even around the baby... what do i do 2 keep from going insane till my bf and i get our own place???

Answer 1

My advice is to just abide by her rules until you get a place. I know it is hard but just think of how hard it would be if she kicked you out before you are ready to move out.

Answer 2

Well if it's so horrible there, why don't you leave NOW?!

I'll tell you why. Because you know damn well you couldn't make it so you'd rather sponge off your parents. Well if you're not smart enough or adult enough to be on your own and pay your own bills, you'd better shut up and do as they say. They ARE doing just that! - unlike you.

Grow up. I know you're immature and had sex way before you should have - and haven't bothered to get your education or get a well-paying job so that you can have a decent home for your baby - but tough! SHE IS RIGHT. The only problem I have with her is that she allows your boyfriend to live in the house! What in heaven's name is in her mind?!

You are a foolish, self-indulgent, spoiled brat. Sure you may have a boyfriend with a well-paying job now, but that may not last and YOU are the mother of that baby, not him. That is YOUR responsibility, not your boyfriends' or your parents.' What happens once you two move out and you have a fight and/or he up and leaves? Your part-time job won't cut it then. And you'd better damn well not go on welfare and take MY money! Do you assume you can run home and sponge off them any time you run into a little trouble?

If you want to play at being an adult, then you have to take adult consequences. You have no idea how tough it is out there. Your parents have been carrying the load while you goofed around. That is going to change and soon. So you'd better be thankful they even let you stay under their roof, keep your mouth shut, and start doing things to help out around the house. And I wouldn't let your boyfriend drink in my house either!

This is how it's done: first you get a good education (college), then you get a well-paying job (due to the good education), then you buy property, then get married, and then and ONLY after all these other criteria have been met do you even begin to think about cranking out babies. To do it in any other order not only takes longer but shortchanges the children. Life is hard enough without starting with handicaps. Do you honestly think that when your child gets into school that he/she won't want the same things that the children from well-educated, prosperous families have?!

Even the birds of the air know to make the nest BEFORE you lay the eggs!

Answer 3

You need to set a date to move out. Do it before the end of summer. You and your boyfriend are old enough to be on your own. When you live in someone's (your mother's) house, you play by their rules no matter what your age is. Start looking for something you can afford right away.

Answer 4

well, it could be that she doesn't trust your judgment. moms get like that. so do dads.you're 19 with a baby and living in her house with a b.f. that's a lot to take in. maybe having your b.f. there is getting to her. as far as his drinking, she's got you on that one. it doesn't matter how old he is, it's her house. if you are going out and she's watching the baby, she should know where you are. you'd tell a babysitter, right? calling dcfs is a little much unless you're somewhere you know you shouldn't be. i suggest you have a heart to heart with her. no anger or arguing. just talk. tell her your gripes and ask her to explain. be prepared though. you may not like the answers.

Answer 5

tell her.

and explain you got it in control.

The baby is fine and she need to stop acting liek your and idiot who can't take care of yourself. And if she throws those "you made mistakes" and ****; tell her they are your mistakes to fix and control and not hers.