Should I say something?

Question

At a birthday gathering for my MIL, my nieces gave me a Fathers Day present. (this was the Thursday before Fathers Day).
Our adult son was present to witness this. I was pleasantly suprised by the gift, & of course I didn't expect anything for Fathers Day from my son at that moment since it was still a couple of days away.

BUT!

It's now a couple of weeks past Fathers Day, & I got NOTHING from him, or his wife. No card, present, pat-on-the-back, or phone call. NOTHING!!!

My wife, & I do lot's of good things for him & our daughter-in-law, but always end up feeling under-appreciated for it.
We don't expect much (like any parent) but is a simple acknowledgement at Fathers Day, or a B'Day too much to ask?

We taught him better than this, but now I have to wonder.

I've heard it said that people treat you the way you teach them to. But I am at a loss as to what to say, if anything.
What would you do?

Answer 1

I don't ever agree with my mom and dad (very rarely) but I always acknowledge birthdays, mothers day, fathers day and other holidays such as christmas with a gift. Same way with my mil and fil (when he was alive). My husband never does anything, he always leaves it to me to do since I have always taken care of things like that. But, your son should have at least gotten you a card. Most people (that are not adopted) only have one father and they should not be taken advantage of. Could have just been an innocent slip of the mind and he was too embarrassed to correct the problem afterwards. I would not say anything or do anything unless it has become a constant problem. If he never does anything then don't do anything for him either. And tell him how his thoughtlessness affects you. Let him know how you feel.

And Happy Belated Father's Day from someone who cares. I was with my father and would not have been anywhere else.

Answer 2

next fathers day give your son a gift and tell him this is for being a wonderful father.

do the same to your daughter in law on mothers day....

they may then realize how un thoughtful they are.

Answer 3

Has he gotten you something every year in the past? Forget about it. Maybe they just forgot. Some people don't really consider it a real holiday. It is kind of a made up one. Think more about how he treats you every other day of the year. Please, try not to feel hurt.

Answer 4

Douglas, it is your son. You should not hesitate to tell him how you feel about any subject(as long as you are nice about it). I would tell my daughter in a heart beat that she had hurt my feelings and I would not hesitate about it. I hope you sent a thank you note to those neices of yours. Get your nerve up and just tell this kid that he screwed up and ask him how he would feel if his kids ignored father's day? Just because you are grown up does not mean you dont have feelings. TELL HIM~!!!!!!! ~K~

Answer 5

i learned to blow it off a long time ago. yea, it sucks that they forget but what are you going to do? it's not important enough for me to lose sleep over. i didn't teach my kids that way but that's what they do.