First she turned my wife against me, now my own daughter!!!
2007-06-24 14:48:05 · 22 answers · asked by jake 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Cut off all contact with her firstly. Don't get drawn into any discussions with your wife or daughter about her - then watch and wait as they discover who the real villain is. It may take some time, but at least you won't be the one losing your sanity over it (read 'If' by Rudyard Kipling if you haven't already).
2007-06-24 22:34:19 · answer #1 · answered by Delerious? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the first step is to discuss this with your wife. If she doesn't want to listen or understand, I would recommend that you find a family therapist. Inlaws can be a big problem with couples, especially when the inlaws want to cause trouble. Secondly, talk to your mother in law. Let her know it is not her place to turn anyone against you, especially not your wife and daughter. But I stress, you need your wife on board with you. If you don't have her support it is going to be very hard for you to stand up against what this woman has done to you.
You can get through this, lots of people do. Just keep it together, use your head, and do your best to make this situation better.
2007-06-24 21:53:05 · answer #2 · answered by T the D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a court order to get her out. If your wife opposes, then you're in the wrong place. You will suffer now if you leave, but you'll feel better later. If you stay you may end up in a lot of trouble. Your bets are low. It's a no-win situation.
2007-06-24 21:54:08 · answer #3 · answered by puppywimp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the one in charge of their interactions with your mother-in-law.
Sit your wife down and your daughter and let them know that the three of you are a family.
You three, nobody else.
Let them know you have made a decision that until your mother-in-law can be uplifting and supportive of every member of your family that she is not to be allowed contact. The most important thing is your family, and those who won't help you be a great family unit are not welcome in it.
Take a stand and do not back down.
2007-06-24 21:53:21 · answer #4 · answered by Content 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Can you speak calmly with your wife about this? I dont know the details but it isnt right. I cant help but think that your wife talks about your married life to her mother and she should not have. Can you suggest it is best to move far away from her mom and start over. ?
2007-06-24 21:56:22 · answer #5 · answered by barthebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go buy a book on 'Mother-in-Law' jokes,. (Les Dawson is one of the very best!), and start to 'spread' them about a bit,..*you know how word gets around, gossip etc,.. giddy aunts etc,.... then tell her that if she continues to cause grief,. that they'll get nastier and nastier until she starts to shut the **** up. :)
I saw 6 men savagely beating my mother-in-law,. a neighbour shouted from across the street, "Are you going to help!?" - I said, "No,. 6 should be enough!!" - lol ;o)
2007-06-24 21:56:56 · answer #6 · answered by wildimagination2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with all of them and talk it out. Your wife needs to stand up to her mother if she really is a problem.
2007-06-24 21:52:56 · answer #7 · answered by eharrah1 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
talk to her and your wife and daughter...but first talk to the source, the mother in law
2007-06-24 21:50:26 · answer #8 · answered by p123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just dont talk to mine. She lives less than a mile a way and I dont talk to her. If she ever try to turn my daughter against me she'd be in trouble. My daughter is 11 and would take her out for talking about her momma:)
2007-06-24 21:52:23 · answer #9 · answered by lyttledarlin 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Good advice! Do what Jennifer Lopez does. That always works for me. I'm the most hated person I know though.
2007-06-24 21:52:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋