Was This Love? Or Just a Lust?

Question

Me and this girl met December 2005, and started hanging out as friends. She was 1 year older then me, and she had a BF at the time.. When she had her BF, she kissed two guys infront of me, and then when she saw I liked her, and I told her I was falling in love with her, she cheated on her BF with me.. She is a big liar, (by the way).. Anyway she txt-es other guys, and when we broke up she kissed another guy, and then we got back together.. She went to Florida, and we were cool, I was even going to visit her there, but then she didnt pick her phone up, she told me she would call me, but she never did, or after like 3-4 hours. And we broke up. I slept with two different girls for the month that we were not together.. She came back to Arizona and she saw me at some party and I was dancing with some girls, so she got mad and left. She knows about the two girls I slept with. In that time when she saw me dancing with girls, she kissed three guys for the last 2 weeks probably.. Now here!!!!!!

The thing is yesturday at 2:22 am she txted me, and then i txted her back, she called me, and we hung out. We talked and I thought we were gonna make things better. We kissed, laughed, a lot of things... Then we go to some place, and she kisses a guy on the cheak infront of me. Then she txtes I dont know who... Then i left her home, and I told her Im not gonna put up with this bull anymore, so she got mad and walked away.. She txted me after I left, so I called her, we talked, then she said she`ll call me back later -- NEVER DID, she went out to party ;P hehe sooo does this girl love me ? or is she just ??? playing around with me ? I really do love her, with all my heart and no matter what ill always be there and help her if she needs me ...

Now the other thing that just happened, was I wanted to talk to her, but she was out with friends.. She told me she was gonna go home early, and talk to me.. that was like 5 days ago. She didnt untill 5 in the morning, and I called her before that, she was talking and gigling with a guy that I know, and she even told me... But then she said that she missed me, and she wanted to see me, that was yesturday.. I just dont get her..

ANDDDDD WHEN IS THIS LUST GONNA GO AWAY??????

Answer 1

if you have to ask, its lust

please forgive my honesty, but here I go. I only say this to help you. don't take it the wrong way

The girl is a sl*t. You already know she cheats on everyone including you.
She does it in front of you. If she's old school Hispanic and new to the US. I'd forgive her for the kiss done in front of you, but I'm willing to bet she's not.
She says she'll be there (with you) and she's not
She has lied about this twice? Do you really need a third time to get the idea?
She gets to play with other boys and your not allowed to play with other girls?
she's controlling, dishonest, insecure (that's why she need so many men to make her feel important) and selfish.

Dude! there are a lot of fish out there in the sea that will treat you like a GOD, not a piece of sh*t.
Go out there and play the field and quit obsessing over a girl that has no redeeming qualities.

If she's having sex with so many people, you might want to be concerned about STD's.
It doesn't hurt to go get checked out.

I slept with a girl, and then started to notice she acted the same way with guys. a few days later, it burned when I pissed. I went and got checked out. She gave me clamitia, but I was extremely LUCKY. good thing is that its 100% curable with antibiotics. Luck with STDs usually isn't that good.

I learned real quick that not only do I need to consider my sexual partners, but I also needed to consider their partners and the partners their partners had and on and on and on.

wear a condom and chose your partners carefully. You might end up with AIDS and dead.
condoms don't protect against herpes!!!!!

the lust will go away when you quit obsessing or you find another girl that your interested in.

I suggest that you consider your own self image and your self security.
Why do you let her treat you like that? Do you not have any pride in yourself. Stand up and don't let people walk all over you. Easier said than done, but In time I guess.

Good Luck

Answer 2

This is not love..you guys are playing this tit for tat game and there are never any winners in this game.

You keep trying to one up each other until one of you really gets hurt or one of you grows up and stops playing these silly games.

Do you really think that someone that brings out destructive rebellious behavior in you deserves your time and your love. Perhaps it isn't so much that you love her, but that you can't win her away from her wayward crazy life games she likes to play with guys heads.

Cut your losses....move on...learn the lesson or you are destine to repeat it. Don't allow anyone to push your buttons so much that you run out and have mad sex just because someone else did it. Kissing all of these guys and what have you shows she doesn't want to settle down, she's having to much fun leaving a trail of confused and hurt guys behind her.

Thank her for showing you the type of woman you don't want in your life. Then suggest she get some therapy before some nut case cleans her clock.

Good luck...you deserve better, but you have to believe it!

Answer 3

Seems like you 2 are really young people, especially since you 2 switch going out with people so often
She loves you, but you are not the only person in her life, you can go out with her and tell her that you want to have a long term relationship with her ONLY
Cauz with all the commotion going on, I don't think you'll ever be together for a long time
Sit down with her and give her a long tal k about how you want to be with ehr for a long time

Answer 4

Dude am sorry to say this but it sounds like you are a booty call. Oh yeah its Lust and it will go away but it sames like you need to hold your head (both of them) she is doing this to you because she knows you are easy to pull back in

( lol your like a guy that keeps tring to wall through a door with out openning it and you've done it so many times that your brains ar all over the door and she knows it . she just gives you a sniff and you back on her tail like a dogs on the streets chasen some @$$). so snap out of it
Tip next time you two cross brush her off and "chalk it up as a lost cause she seem to live for the attention so you don't give her none and bro what ever you do, don't fall back in with remember hold your head (BOTH OF THEM)

Answer 5

I think that's lust but you got to remember that was the way she was when she meet you. When she met you she was kissing other guys in front of you when she had a boyfriend. Shes just playing around and it seems as though shes not looking for a serious relationship she probably just wants to fool around with guys. If you want a relationship where your girlfriend isn't fooling around with other guys (incl.kissing/touchingect) this girl is not the one you want to be with.

Answer 6

Hard to say on your end, but I think its obvious on her end. 1.Don't ever tell any gf what all you did while you were apart. Thats only amo for jealousy anf fighting. Its not their business, you were apart!!!!!2. She cheated to be with you and she is obviously repeating her old patterns of kissing other guys. She may have feelings for you, but she doesn't sound grown up enough to be in love, she doesn't know what love is, because love doesn't kiss other guys. Love doesn't want to flirt and do what she is doing. Obviously she is the kind of girl who needs a lot of male attention, meaning she is most likely validating herself this way and it has nothing to do with you not being good enough. Sounds like you keep putting the ball in her court and she doesn't respond but at her convienience. You deserve better then that. You may have deep feelings for he, but you should love and respect yourself first, and she sounds like she keeps comming back to you out of comfort. You sound like you are the type to be a one girl type of guy. She sounds like she is fruitless and gets with any guy who gives her the least bit of attention. Move on, you deserve better in a relationship. Stay intouch at a distance if you want to keep the friendship, but tell her thats all you want and that you will always be there as a friend. She can't have her cake and eat it to. If you keep taking her back, you are only teaching her that it is ok to treat you this way, and she will continue to follow her patterns and always know that you will take her back at her say so and when she decides she wants you. She will probubly try to get you back if you reject her, but if you do, you are just continuing to allow her to do this to you. At some point enough has to be enough. Good luck, I hope you figure everything out.

Answer 7

Wow... thats a situation. First of all... I know you don't want to hear this, but if she cheated on her original boyfriend with you, what makes you think she's going to be honest with you? Another guy could come along and tell her that he's in love with her... and you'd be gone in a snap! Once a cheater, always a cheater. Don't even get involved in that drama.

Answer 8

She's playing the field. Don't give girls like that a shot. Better off moving on before you get hurt more.

BTW, Lust.

And not all adults are mature, so I'm sure at least one in the whole world does this.

Answer 9

by reading ur question it seems ur young. So hears the thing young people love then dont, get mad and jealous all the time and get over it the next minute. it part of growing up. You'll get over it just live ur life and stop revolving it around her. She's not worried about you, she jus likes the attention. It's not either lust nor love, its attention on her end and pride on yours.

Answer 10

Lust