My fiance and I have just gotten engaged and set a date for the wedding. I really want a co-ed bachelor-bachelorette party, but he claims I am ruining the guys fun by doing this. With my fiance he dated a stripper for two years and has a past for frequently visiting strip clubs with these same guys but claims I have nothing to worry about because he "loves me" so why would he do something to jeopardize that? SO to the guys out there. Is there a risk he would be getting special treatment at the bachelor party on his last night of being a "free man"??
2007-06-24 13:21:13 · 6 answers · asked by Mel P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Co-ed parties can be great fun.
I think his ideal of fun is strip clubs, lap dances and acting as if he is single with females around him other than his suppose to be future wife...........typical of his past does mean his present and future seems to be the same.
"free man"
Honey if you refer him to a "free man" that night yourself, then why are you marrying him?
He is not a free man and hasn't been since he begin dating you.
If he does things against your wishes and your feelings, then that means he doesn't love nor appreciate you enough to spend the rest of his life with you.
The guys seem like a bad crowed he keeps around and that will eventually come between you and him.
When married, he should be carring of how you think and feel. Not what "the guys" think and feel. You suppose to come first. Not the guys.....
There is no relation to strip clubs v.s getting married. He should not wanting to look at another naked woman, giving her money and oogling them.
Guys who think they have to do such things are not ready for marriage and have no clue what celebration of marriage is about.
Can have fun with out those things.
2007-06-24 14:10:14 · answer #1 · answered by Mutchkin 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Think about this rationally...so he dated a stripper before. So what? If you dated a dentist does that mean every time you get your teeth cleaned you are going to cheat?
If you love this man enough to marry him then you should trust him enough to know he won't cheat on you. If you don't then you should be reconsidering alot more than the bachelor party.
As far as having a co-ed party what if you just had dinner co-ed and then the guys and the girls could split up and do their sperate things. Sorry but having only the co-ed party would ruin their fun and is that really the kind of wife you want to be?
2007-06-24 13:25:21 · answer #2 · answered by pspoptart 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Last night of being a free man, but he is the one that chose to not be free anymore does that not say anything. Yes going to have a good time with his buds but the issue is it is his last night with them as single, and yes he has taken the big step of wanting to settle down with you, his love. IK expect his bro's will have allot more fun than him. Trust is the most important part of a relationship and making a marriage work. I know this because I have been married to the most beautiful angel GOD has put on this Earth for 26 years now. My advice be not only lovers, but best friends. Congratulations to you, may you have many happy years together
2007-06-24 13:35:07 · answer #3 · answered by Pengy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to trust him. You are going to marry him. My guy used to go to strip clubs as well and hasn't been in years (since before we met). I trust him to not do anything "stupid" at his bachelor party. You need to do the same.
2007-06-24 15:58:38 · answer #4 · answered by longhornfan1722 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him do what he wants. Don't make the party lame by having a co-ed party. if you dont trust him then dont get married
2007-06-24 13:24:05 · answer #5 · answered by John S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Probably nothing more than a lap dance. You've gotta trust him if you're going to marry him.
2007-06-24 14:36:03 · answer #6 · answered by Mary S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋