My family ignored me while i vas very ill with alcoholism,. How do i appoligize for my misbehaviors ?

Question

I felt abandoned and walked the street and no one rescued me. How do i now appologize for some misbehaviors while drunk? Although i may have slammed a couple coupboards while feling emotional i did not expect those family members to completely abandone me in my time of need. I was sick and now it feels that i have to sen myself a get well card and then appologize for being sick. Even the ants on the street pick up their wounded why not humans?

Answer 1

The ants on the street don't intentionally harm the other ants around them. They are all working for one cause, the betterment of the family.
You did not. You were not "ill". You were and are addicted. You owe apologies because you hurt your family.

**My oldest sister is an alcoholic. She is recovering now, has been sober for several years. But, while she was drinking she was abusive, hateful, and caused nothing but trouble. There came a point when we HAD to turn our backs on her because she was toxic. No one just turns away immediately. You brought this on yourself. Apologize, admit you did wrong. Or you will never truly recover. It's part of the 12 steps.

Answer 2

From one recovering alcoholic to another. I did many things which offended my family when i was drunk, Most of them i don't remember. Your family was there for you,You just didn't know it at the time. Even family members get discouraged when it doesn't seem like anything they do seems to help you,Then they begin to lose hope. I KNOW how you feel, I have walked that lonely road myself. You are about as low as you can get right now, But there is good news, the only way you can go now is up!! First check yourself into the local AA program,You should be able to find it in the phone book.
Next, Let your family know that you have checked yourself into a program and that you are serious about recovery.They will be overjoyed to hear that you are willing to reclaim your life and will be ready to stand with you and support you when you need it. It will not be an easy road for you to travel, But it will be WORTH IT !!! I know that you can do this,You just need to have a little faith in yourself first. I hope this has helped you and i wish you well!!

Answer 3

I appreciate your comments and I empathize with the way you feel.

I certainly hurt other people and embarrassed myself while I was actively drinking. This is part of alcoholism. It took me some time to realize several things about myslef and the way other people perceived me.

With my spouse, I needed a prolonged period of sobriety and loving behavior to earn back the trust and love that I lost. My spouse is a testament to forgiveness and heeling. I did, however, need to admit that I had wronged her, apologize and acknowledge that living with me as a drunk was not the life she anticipated leading, wanted or deserved.

With respect to other people, I think we alcoholics need to acknowledge that we are not the most attractive and socially desireable people when we are drinking or hung over. All people gravitate to other people that make them feel good. An alcoholic doesn't feel good about him/herself. He/she isn't going to project positive feelings to other people.

So, it's not suprising to me that your family may be distant and that as a person trying to better yourself, you may feel isolated and in need of some friendly, understanding human support.

The best place for a recovering alcoholic to get support and understanding is from other alcoholics. I spent 90 days attending an evening, out patient rehab program at a local hospital, I attended AA meetings and I got a sponsor.

This worked for me and put me in touch with dozens of other people that had the same feelings and concerns as I had. I hope this helps you with some of the feelings you're expressing.

As far as rendering an apology, I recomend you read the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous. There is significant and meaningful information about making amends for harm we have done to other people. Cleaning up after ourselves as best that we can without doing any additional harm is a main tenet of the 12 steps to recovery.

I really wish you well and I hope that everything works out for you.

Answer 4

Some times leaving you alone is a pick up enabling you is not Just say hey I'm sorry for my behavior I am an alcoholic and Now I am bettering my self Please forgive me; Ants also eat each other when dead.And some times you need to Prove to your Family you have changed and want to change Keep hanging in there and stop petting your self and Move on one day at a time

Answer 5

To me Alcoholism, like Cancer, is a sickness. They both take control of your body. You were indeed sick with alcoholism. Now would your family have turned their back on you, had it been cancer? You may owe your family apologizes for your wrong doings, while you were sick, but to me THEY owe you an apologize as well. Get help, and stay sober. You cannot always beat cancer, but you can beat alcoholism, Thank God for that. GOOD LUCK.

Answer 6

my mom was an alcoholist, and she, too was sick. Her side of the family ignored her, she didnt' apologize, she just knew that she was being punished and they wanted to teach her a lesson. A few weeks later, after checking out of rehab, they started talking to her again, because they were proud she got help. Maybe they want you to show them that you, too...can get help in order to avoid this sickness.

Answer 7

your alcoholism Makes people want to be without you... you cannot take back what you have done... you have to stay sober, or you will likely lose your family forever!