Should I put my daughters in the same class?

Question

It is time to register my triplets at a school. There is 2 pre-k classes. I think I should ask the school to put them all in the sae class, but my husband says just let the school decide who goes in which class. I don't care what teacher they get, both are great, but I am just worried the two in the same clas will bond more and leave the third one out. What do ya'll think I should do?

Answer 1

I think for the first year you need to make that choice based on what YOU know about your children. They need their individuality, but 2 classes available and 3 children DOES kind of leave one as odd man out. I would probably for the first year request them in the same class. After that I would leave it to the teachers as they will see how they interact with each other and with other children. The teacher whose class they leave helps choose the teacher they get next year based on that INDIVIDUAL child's needs and learning style as well as the next teachers' styles of teaching and interacting with the children.
For the first year though because of the problem you face, I really think your only option IS to request them together.

Answer 2

If it were twins then I would say to put them in different classes. But since it's triplets and there are only 2 classes, I think they should be in the same class. For the same reason you are worried about. As they get older and are in 1st grade and above, there should be more than 2 classes and then they should all go to separate classes. I know these twin girls and they've always been in the same class, they depend on each other a little too much and they don't make friends with other kids. Good Luck.

Answer 3

If there are 3 different teachers I would say try to separate them so they can get some form of independence...If there are only 2 classes then keep them together so that one doesn't feel left out for sure....If you do put them all in separate classes most schools have recess and lunch at the same time so even if they are in different classes they will still be able to socialize at lunch time. I think it may take a while to get used to but it will show the girls that they are 3 individual people and it's okay to do things by themselves...GL

Answer 4

I would put them all in the same class. As many others have said... if there were 3 classes, then being separate would be great, but with only 2 classes, one of your girls will be feeling left out. The 2 in the same class would have much more in common, and it will lead to many tears. Keep them together this year. Once they reach a grade where there are 3 classes (usually kindergarden or first) then request that they all be split up.

Answer 5

I don't know about triplets, but I am a twin. My mother INSISTED that we be in separate classes throughout elementary school, so that we would learn to be independent of each other. There was another set of identical twins in my sister's class and we thought they were "too identical" --they wore the same clothes, the same hairstyle, etc and were always together.

You should try to have them in separate classes as much as possible. If you have to have two of them together in one class due to the number of classes in each grade, then switch them around each year so that the same ones are not always the "only."

The best thing you can do for them is to help them to realize that they are all individuals and that they do not need to have a sibling with them all the time.

Answer 6

I think they should be seperated as much as possible. I am a teacher, and while I have not had an experience with triplets, I have had many experiences with twins, and syblings in the same class. The majority of time it is not the best place for them. Being triplets I am sure they are often compared by many people even if they do not intend to compare them. By putting them in seperate classes they will be able to grow into their own identities more.

Answer 7

I would let the school decide. There were triplets that starting going to my school in 4th grade, and their mother put them in the same class. They were and still are very dependant on each other. I mean I understand putting 5 year olds in the same class, but 9/10 year olds? Come on!

Answer 8

If there were three classes, I'd suggest putting them in different classes so that they could learn to be independant and make their own friends. But as it's only 2 classes and 3 children, I think it would be fairer to keep them all together in one class. I guess it is something you could discuss with the school and see how they would feel about it.

Answer 9

They have already bonded and will continue to spend time at home together, but this is an excellent chance for them to break out of being 'the triplets' and become individuals and make friends with someone other than their sisters.

Answer 10

when they are little it's ok but if they go to highschool and they in same class it's possible that they will stick together but most likely they will compete. i know these two twin guys since junior high. back then they always did everything together as we all got to highschool they went their seperate ways pretty much. one was too quite the other was too loud so you can image what kind of friends each of them had. they constantly even picked on eachother putting each twin down. it wasn't pretty. one of them was popular the other one sat at the library constantly now they both go to seperate college but they live together and almost never see eachother. if you want that between your kids then don't continue the same class thing thoughout their whole learning experience. only when they young.