he lives in Iowa and i live in Indiana. MY FAMILY HANDLED IN WELL. I LOVE MY BOYFRIEND VERY MUCH, I NEVER FELT THIS WAY ABOUT ANYONE BEFORE. WELL, I'M KIND OF SCARED. I'M GOING TO LEAVE MY FAMILY BEHIND AND QUIT MY JOB TO BE WITH HIM. I WOULD LIKE TO HEAR SOME ADVICE OR SUGGESTIONS !!!!!
2007-06-24 10:06:20 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
haha asked u to move in? this is kind of like that one eposode on the HILLS lol
2007-06-24 10:10:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The idea of moving in together sounds great, its just the decision of where: Indiana or Iowa?
I suggest the person who is able to move smoothly with the least amount of issues move to the other state with that person. If you just got a promotion and your job could start a great career, it might be better for him to move to Indiana and get a place with you. Its only fair. Im sure you would do the same if it was the other way around.
Moving to a new state is scary but it is also exciting. I would first do some research in the area he is in and see if you can find a similiar job there and other things that could accomodate your stay. You can always visit family, there not going anywhere. Phone calls and emails are other ways of communication as well, especially holidays or weekends when you are bored.
You could also visit the area and really do a search to see if you could see yourself living there?
Hope these ideas help:)
2007-06-24 17:14:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't give your ages. How many boyfriends have you had? How well do you know him? Does he make enough money to support you until you find a job that you like? I wouldn't count on marriage in the "future"? You didn't say if you're pregnant and that's why your feeling rushed to leave everyone. Does his family like or even respect you? Do you have your own transportation or any emergency money that's totally and secretly yours?
I'd be afraid to give up my family, friends and job then end up not happily ever after. I have this thing about security. Couldn't you take a short leave of absence from your job to give this playing house thing a trial run? Please think this through. You have a lot to loose. You've been given some primo advice by Joeseph7, MissJay, LoneWolf, LittleDancingfox, Mickey, John and other caring people that don't even know you. Best of luck in thinking this through.
2007-06-24 17:23:17 · answer #3 · answered by Georgie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have alot of things to think about first. I think if you really love him then you should think about moving. Before making a life change ask yourself these questions...
1. Will he marry me? When will he ask.
2. Do I want to spend all my time with him everyday.
3. Can I live with all his BAD habbits?
4. Does he treat me right ALL the time?
5. Who comes first his job, his friends, or me?
6. Will my family understand why I'm leaving?
7. Can I find another job like the one I have?
If you answer all these questions and some more, and you feel good about all the answers then you should move with him and live a happy life.
2007-06-24 17:14:28 · answer #4 · answered by missjay 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't play house. This is a major problem now days. These guys are getting the milk for free. "Why buy the cow when I can get the milk for free" is what one guy verbally said. Is there an engagement ring? Promise ring? And even a promise can be empty. I don't know how long you two have been together, but be careful about giving everything at the price of nothing. I'm agreeing with Joeseph7, MissJay, LoneWolf, LittleDancingfox, all of them are speaking apart of my opinion.
Tell him you want to marry.
2007-06-24 17:25:33 · answer #5 · answered by Corbet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends how long you both been together if more then a year I say go for it but first find back up for a nother job when with him cuz things may not go well then what or where you going to go or do Always plan ahead and look at every angle around the decision to know if this is what you want to do or away to break you from your family
2007-06-24 17:16:34 · answer #6 · answered by Tammy S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm wondering why he hasn't asked you to marry him? My advice is to tell him you want to get married before you move in with him. How someone can have sex with someone else without making the union legal is beyond me. While I've never shacked up, I've had premarital sex, but not with my husband. My husband and I waited until our wedding night for that. But as for the others, I wish to heaven I wouldn't have done that. But even before that, move to the same town. Don't shack up. Date a year and then get married before moving in. That's what I did. I'll be married going on five years. Anyway, the reason being is what if things go sour between you two? Being forced to stay in the same house with someone you aren't married to and have broken up with is very uncomfortable, until you can leave. If you just live in the same area, even if you break up, it won't be so uncomfortable. What if it turns out he's abusive? You will have no one to turn to. What if he's not what he claimed to be? This is pretty common with long distance relationships. Get your own place when you move.
Before I get too many people laughing at me when I talk about my husband, I just realized he hadn't signed out and I got on and posted this. I am the wife.
2007-06-24 17:12:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
engagement ring? promise ring?
relationships are about two people .... are you taking care of yourself too? Think about your needs, honestly, and tell him that he is asking you to change your whole life to be with him, and you need to feel supported. Will he help you get on your feet there?
what you don't want to end up being is, in the house, not married, jobless and dependent. Its only fun for a little while.
otherwise! GO have fun ..... it is great to live some place new. and may your love for each other grow! and this just be the next step in a wonderful and great relationship!
2007-06-24 17:14:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are following your heart and making a life with the one you love. Everything else will take care of itself. You will make other friends. You can travel and see your family regularly. My only suggestion would be to get out and start making friends right away. Don't just sit around and let yourself be bored and miserable at home.
2007-06-24 17:11:22 · answer #9 · answered by eharrah1 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Aw sounds like a fun adventure. I would say it depends on how long you have been with him, and everything. It doesn't sound all bad, but you just have to ensure its really what you want to do. It's a lot of work, finding a new job and everything. Just always remember to keep in touch with your family...they are really there for you through everything. :) good luck.
2007-06-24 17:10:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just think about it real good and make sure that's what you want because once your there and if you don't like it. It will be hard to come back. SO think about it and go thru all the pros and cons before commiting to it.
2007-06-24 17:22:31 · answer #11 · answered by John S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋