My son is 15mo. old and he has just started throwing big temper tantrums. I try to just ignore him as long as he isn't going to hurt himself or doesn't have a legitimate reason for screaming (like he's hungry or tired). I also have a 2mo. old so sometimes he throws a fit if I'm feeding his brother and can't pay total attention tohim. What is the best way to deal with his temper tantrums?
2007-06-24 09:59:15 · 8 answers · asked by lmfitzz 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Just ignore him but still make sure he is not hurting himself. I was told when I had a 2 yr old and pregnant tell the child that it is his baby too. And then tell your 2 yr old after I feed our baby then I will play with you. Just be patient. They outgrow these Tantrums.
2007-06-24 10:03:36 · answer #1 · answered by Gemini6878 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would try to make him involved in what you are doing, if your nursing and hes throwing a fit, ask him to use his words instead and if he can calm down he can come sit with you and help you feed HIS little baby, then let him rub her head or something, if your bottle feeding let him help you hold the bottle....I would just keep telling him to use his words and when he can calm down and talk to you about what hes feeling then you will pay attention to him....If he keeps screaming and crying, ignore it....He's probably feeling left out because the baby is getting so much attention so you may want to just try and involve him more( i know easier said that done) but have him hand you a wipe or a diaper, get the baby's passy etc.....GL
2007-06-24 10:52:37 · answer #2 · answered by Tiffany 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't pay attention to it - that's what he is looking for. Of course, pay attention to make sure he doesn't injure himself, but do not respond to the yelling/kicking/crying unless you are saying, "No" in a firm manner and you are 100% in control of your emotions. A toddler can read if you're frustrated, tired, or starting to lose it and they will keep pushing. He is trying to find his boundaries right now with you. He needs to know how you're going to respond and if you will respond the same way every time he does something.
With my kids, I praised them when they were well behaved and thanked them. I didn't pay much attention to the tantrums - made them not last as long too ; ) If they wanted to scream and carry on - they got to do that in their room, just like they were going to bed. I wasn't going to listen to it. After a few tries, they decided it wasn't a whole lot of fun acting that way - it wasn't getting them what they wanted. It got them the opposite. You can talk to him while he's crying, but stay calm. "I love you, but I am feeding the baby and you will have to wait. If you want to cry, you can, but it doesn't look like fun to me" - I always talked to my kids like they were adults. It usually worked unless they were overtired and needed a nap. Hope that helps.
2007-06-24 10:12:29 · answer #3 · answered by Lamont 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find something fun for him to do at feeding time. If that does not help, you could try time out, but not for too long of a time. I know you're probably really busy all the time, but you might also find something that you and your older son can do together that baby is not allowed in on....that will make the older one feel special, too.
2007-06-24 10:43:08 · answer #4 · answered by Ophelia 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time out ! Turn off the tv . Or you could "reward" him when he is being a good boy. Tell him that he is a big boy and he needs to act like one. TRY to let him know that he is the BIG brother & let him feel special or even help you out . Like, go and get a diaper for you, or maybe the binky or even a blanket. Let him know that he is special . Take him out for an ice cream without the baby. Just do a little "mommy & me" time.
2007-06-24 10:22:30 · answer #5 · answered by mrsc93 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what you should do is take something that he values, away for a day and say the next time he throws a tantrum that he will have the same thing(or different) thing taken away the next time and he will probably stop having fits
2007-06-24 10:15:04 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you had stayed in school and not done drugs, you would be able to deal with this
2007-06-24 10:03:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 5⤋
ignore it. when he throws a fit if your feeding the nany tell him mommy can't play untill after brother is done and when he is done i will play with you if you want.But if you throw a fit i will not play with you.
2007-06-24 11:15:48 · answer #8 · answered by favorite_aunt24 7 · 0⤊ 7⤋