I have believed in and loved God since a very young age. I have accepted Jesus as my personal savior and I love him. I go to church, and pray for forgiveness for my sins. I have a problem, though. I have feelings for another man. I feel a powerful emotional attraction to him, as well as physical attraction. He is gay as well. He is also a follower of God, like me. We have know each other since the second grade. I belive that being gay is okay, and that God loves me. I and not sure anymore, as people how want to make me hate myself quote the Bible to hurt me.
Does anyone have any advice? No one word answers, just full explanations. Thanks.
2007-06-24 08:46:19 · 58 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Hey just before I start I love you and God loves you. With that in mind know that God sees homosexuality as an abomination. It is sin and sin is sin, no excuses, no exceptions. What my advice is that if you feel these attractions maybe they aren't sexual. I know many men that I love from the bottom of my heart and would do anything for them and hey feel pretty close to them emotionally. But I don't take it too far if you know what I mean. But even if you don't take part in anything immoral you have still sinned...why? Because as Christ teaches in Matthew 5 all sins start in the heart. So my advice to you is hey love the guy but purify your mind as it says in Romans 12:2. I hope this helps my friend.
In Jesus Name
2007-06-24 09:04:50 · answer #1 · answered by Joel 2 5 · 7⤊ 0⤋
Well, it is not up to any man (or woman) to condemn you. Man cannot condemn, only God can. You know what the bible has to say about homosexuality, and the bible is to be a guideline for the decisions we make. God does love you just the way you are, and he would love you no matter what. Any good parent loves their child, no matter what their child does. That doesn't mean they have to love all the decisions their child makes. I think you should pray about this. Just because you have these feelings doesn't mean you have to act on them. If a married person developed feelings for someone other than their spouse, they still shouldn't act on it. God is very clear on this issue, so you can tell yourself whatever you want, that's up to you, but you obviously know that what you are considering doing is wrong or you wouldn't be asking.
For those who will tell you that God made you this way - did God also make pedophiles to lust after children? No! People create their own lust, they form their own opinions about what they find sexually attractive. Sometimes life experience effects that opinion, but you can't say that God made you to lust after the same sex and then say that pedophiles were not created that way by God.
By the way, God also says not to "add to his words" because they should be taken for what they are. He didn't call homosexuality an abomination and then at some point in time concede that it was ok after all.
2007-06-24 08:57:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 1⤋
People get very caught up in do's and don'ts. I am sorry that this is so hard for you. All I can tell you is that my best friend is Gay his Dad is a Methodist minister - he does not condemn him for being gay, he still loves his son and his God.
This is the case for many Christians, if you want to get into the debate go and find all the verses of the bible that talk about not judging as that is Gods job. If you don't go and find a church that doesn't care that you are gay - join a gay christian forum, pray and study your bible and work on the most important relationship you have - that of you and your God.
Life will be hard but it is the life you have been given so find the joy in it and live it the best that you can.
GOOD LUCK
2007-06-26 03:05:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will not go to Hell because Hell does not exist. Keep being you and seek happiness no matter what. Don't let people tell you that you are going to be punished for something in which you see no fault. They are only attempting to scare you into being someone that they can live with, not what you can live with.
2007-06-24 10:06:32 · answer #4 · answered by Snickers 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you drop your faith, you could be homosexual with not a care in the world. Hell doesn't exist.
It says right in the Bible that it is a sin. Leviticus. Romans. Old and New.
You might say that "Those without sin cast the first stone"....
Well...
Those that tell me that (I happen to think homosexuality is unnatural...yet I have no religion....but do what you will)...
are missing the second part of that section...
Jesus also said "Go, and SIN NO MORE."
I for one don't believe in or like either religion or homosexuality....but - however you get your jollies.
2007-06-24 08:54:06 · answer #5 · answered by Basil 3 · 0⤊ 9⤋
The God's word says's that Homosexuality is a sin. Just like Adultery,Fornication, Murder, Lying or anything else that defiles the temple which is your body. A man or women is now to lie with another of there kind. The good news here is that you are his child, and he knows that you are being tempted by the enemy who wants to create a wall between you and your father. Pray and ask him to deliver you from this temptation. Confess your desires to your pastor and ask for counseling. There are many homosexuals who have been delivered from the lifestyle. There are also Website support groups. Always consult Gods word and know that he loves you and wants you to be free from sin because it will eventually lead to death, spiritually or physically. Just asking your question shows that you are struggling with this issue. Also, follow you conscience, the Holy Spirit will speak to your heart and give you direction. Trust that inner voice, and back it up with the Word of God. I will be praying for you.
I cannot tell you if you are going to hell or not, that is up to God because he is the judge. However, the bible states that sin will lead us there.
Blessings
2007-06-24 09:05:50 · answer #6 · answered by VA LayD 2 · 6⤊ 0⤋
I'll tell you this much. If you're looking to the bible for morality you might as well pack your bags now and wait at the bus stop for your one way ride to hell. Let me give you a small hint on why not to take the bible literally. In 1 Corinthians 11: 14-15 it says "Doth not even nature itself teach you, that, if a man have long hair, it is a shame unto him? But if a woman have long hair, it is a glory to her." Now take a look at every painting of Jesus Christ and what do you see? A man with long hair.
2007-06-24 08:54:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 8⤋
I don't believe being gay is a sort of sin. Sometime, I disagree with the Bible. Some stuff in there is pretty hypocritical. Actually, the Bible was written by his disciples. That means it was man made. It wasn't like God was telling them what to write. So, I believe that us humans shouldn't believe/agree in everything that someone throws at them. Me, I have no clue what religion I am. I believe in parts of the Christian religion, but I also have believes in Baptism, Quaker, Gnosticism, (I highly believe in Dante's Inferno) Buddhism, Rosicrucian even Wicca.
Believe in bits and pieces of other religions is probably a sin so whoever is going to hell, its probably me. But that's what I believe. If you believe you truly love this man, do let that stop you! God made me a brown haired, He made me have a birthmark on my armpit AND he made me bipolar when it comes to religion. He made you gay and he STILL loves you! So take this man by the arm and have a great life. Not even God should stop you!
2007-06-24 09:09:09 · answer #8 · answered by xxstephonicxx 1 · 1⤊ 6⤋
Look up Matthew 19:4-6. In my Bible, it says at the bottom of the page
'Today, many homosexuals want to commit to "marry" with the blessing of the church. Reasons for homosexual feelings and desires are comlex and serious. Christians should not trivialize the situation or flippantly condemn the homosexual person. But Jesus made God's ideal very plain: At creation he approved one kind of marriage bond, man to woman. These become one flesh-one before God. Where does that leave homosexual marriage? At best, it is a human invention without any biblical precenent. God created man and woman. Heterosexual monogamy is God's plan for marriage-the best plan, the only one.' It also says to refer to Romans 1:24-27 for further discussion.
It says nothing about being banned from the kingdom of God for being a homosexual. I don't know the verse, but somewhere in the Bible, it says that the only way you will not enter into the kingdom of God is if you deny Him. I hope this helps!
2007-06-24 08:56:39 · answer #9 · answered by laurencharlene1018 1 · 0⤊ 5⤋
In order to get to heaven, you've got to raise a little hell. No, seriously, I believe God is a lot less stringent than Bible literalists want to give Him credit for, and from the sounds of it you are a very good person. In my mind, the God I worship takes that very much into account. I would say you're leaning toward heaven right now.
2007-06-24 08:52:13 · answer #10 · answered by aquamoon 2 · 0⤊ 8⤋