i have an 11 year old daughter that doesnt like to leave the house but is so bored and lonely im rally worried about her !any suggestions
2007-06-24 08:04:45 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Whats her family life, social life, school, like? Are things normal? When i was 12-15 i was SSSSSSSOOOOOO incredibly depressed its not even funny, I was bored at home but you couldnt get me to leave to save my life. My mom wouldn't give me a choice, she FORSED me to go on arrends with her and what not. An hr here and there will get her going again, oh yea anti-depressents worked wonders as well. She might fight you about going with but deal with it, perhaps say "let's go to the store and get groceries then out for lunch" something like that. That way your getting her out but your doing what you need to do and helping her be ok too and she gets something to look forward to so it doesn't seem like a complete "punishment". Just love her and make sure she knows it. Figure out why shes the way she is and talk to her doctor if need be. Be a good mom and go with your instincts.
2007-06-25 08:27:09 · answer #1 · answered by Jewels 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok even though it MIGHT be a stage, don't just leave it alone. one of the worst mistake you can make as a parent. talk to her. good communication is very important in family. you don't want her to grow up and find her lacking in social skills because of her childhood. just let her spend time with her friends, sleepovers, even out your house, or suggest a mother daughter activity. if none of these works, she might be having a problem that she's scared of telling you about. if this is the case get her to open up. you don't want her to become depressed or emo in middle school.
2007-06-24 15:39:16 · answer #2 · answered by TiFFANY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get involved in church activities. Most churches have a youth group where she can make friends with other kids her age, she'll have a support group when she's having trouble in school, with boys, with parents. Church is also a safe place for kids. These kids are united with the love of Jesus. Most of them make pacts and sign commintments cards to stay off drugs, not have sex until marriage, and I've seen most of them stick to their commitments. This will get your daughter out of the house, help her make friends, not be so bored, and ensure her eternity in heaven with Jesus Christ.
2007-06-24 15:13:08 · answer #3 · answered by Michelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your job as a parent to guide her life and help her to find outside activities.
It can be going to the library or helping with a Bible school in a local church, a summer sports program. She should have structured daily jobs at home. Find her interests and encourage them by being involved.
This is the job of a parent to lead, guide and direct until she is old enough to make good decisions of her own.
2007-06-24 15:15:26 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well im 11 and i understand does she have a phone, internet connection, she is is just bored out of her mind and want to leave but really doesnt cause she is being lazy and need fun so this week en take her to a water park and you never know! you need to do thing with her after you work
2007-06-24 15:10:14 · answer #5 · answered by poodles 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your daughter is worried about her self image, or something happened during the school year and doesn't have many friends. You two should talk and maybe enroll her in some clubs or camps to be more social.
2007-06-24 15:09:21 · answer #6 · answered by Amber Midnight 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I came to know about this wonderful program called ARTEXCEL (All Round Training in EXCELence) for kids 8-13yrs by Art of living foundation. Go to the following link to know more about it.
http://us.artofliving.org/youth/art-excel.html
I have seen kids who are shy and want to be left alone and after going through this program, they came out friendly and joyful.
Goodluck!
JP
2007-06-24 15:40:43 · answer #7 · answered by j_samala 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe try to encourage her to have some friends over. Set up some games and stuff, win her confidence Let them do the rest
2007-06-24 15:17:06 · answer #8 · answered by woodstockb42001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have her join a club or sport shes probably afraid of something outside so shes wants to stay inside have her invite her friends over or something it might just be a stage or something she will grow out of.
good luck
2007-06-24 15:09:19 · answer #9 · answered by *me* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her ask her whats wrong. i have had this problem for about 13 years my self i have anzyity problems and i cant handle being out side it terrifies me especially if i am in a crowded place.
2007-06-24 15:23:08 · answer #10 · answered by cherry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋