im a virgin?

Question

im 16 and stil a virgan. all my friends have already had sex. i feel like i am the only one not doing it. they all have boy/girlfriends but i dont. it seems i cant get one as i have tried to drop hints to certain people i have liked. they just dismiss me out of hand?

Answer 1

Don't worry about what your friends are doing. Staying a virgin is something you will be thankful for in later years.

Answer 2

Sex is fun and great with the right person and some people feel it is with just anyone. The reality though, it is just another stepping stone in life and one that I would not take until YOUR ready and not when your friends are they feel you are.. Your thinking about sex before you even have a relationship. I understand how you feel I was once a teenager and I have 6 of them as well so I do understand. There is nothing wrong with you and waiting till you want to have that stress and excitement in your life. Here is what I have heard from 16 yr olds having sex.. I have hear from one girl that it was emotional and she feels like she is worried all the time and now it's another stress on top of school and parents and friends.. A 17 yr old boy told me he wished he had waited cause now that it was fun and he thinks about doing it instead of focusing on having a great relationship and that kinda ruins it.. So I will just tell ya think and think hard. YOUR NORMAL.!!!!

Answer 3

Don't worry about being a virgin. If your friends have had sex... So what??? If your friends all jump off a tall building are you going to be upset that you didn't fall off one and break your whole body too??? Sex will happen when the time is right for you and not before. Either by choice, or fate.

I'll bet not all your friends are happy they had sex so early. And I'm sure not all of them liked their first time or first partner that much either. I'm also willing to bet that of the friends who say they've had sex...probably at least one is lying, and is still a virgin too.

So relax and just get on with enjoying the other aspects of your life. Sex will happen at some point. And when it does be sure and be safe about it. Part of having sex means being responsible and considerate. And being in a position to handle ALL the responsibilities that sex requires.

1) use condoms to protect against unwanted pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases

2) be sure you can handle the consequences financially and emotionally if a pregnancy does occur

3) with regards to birth control and safer sex practices. Remember... it is NOT 50 percent the man's responsibility and 50 percent the womans's. It is 100 percent the Man's responsibility, and 100 percent the Woman's responsibility to ensure that birth control and safer sex habits are being used!

Answer 4

Don't mind your friends. I'm 15 and I'm a virgin. There is nothing wrong with it. Only one of my friends has had sex and that was with her long term boyfriend. I only found out because I overheard a conversation. I dont have a boyfriend either but thats beacuse I dont want one. Guys keep asking me to meet them (kiss them/be their girlfriend) and I refuse because I don't want one at the moment and I'm shy. Wait for the right person to come for you and it'll work out. Your only 16 years old and you shouldn't be saying "I'm still a virgin" because you should use your teenage years to have fun. But not that kind of fun. Fun with the people you love.
Remember that 16 is not the legal age of consent either. If you get caught you could face punishment. If you or if you are a boy your girl gets preggers then you're lives could be ruined. And don't forgot do you want your child to have probelms because you and your girls body isn't fully developed. I know a girl 18 and her boyfriend 18 who had a baby and beacuse they weren't fully developed they're baby was handicapped. Think about it. Don't ruin the best time of your life by doing something stupid.

Answer 5

I am not sure what your actual question is, although it seems like a competition in high school having sex has a lot of responsibility to it. Girls often like it when they meet a guy who hasn't been "around the block" 14 times. If you like a girl, tell her! Don't drop hints, ask her if she wants to hang out, study, or go to a movie. Confidence is a big turn on for many women, so take that into account, step up to the plate and do it! The rest will just fall into place. Good Luck!

Answer 6

you know what your friends probably lying your 16 and you haven't had sex... that's a very good thing trust me when i say don't do it. When you leave high school you will not know these people and they wont remember if you had sex or not in 5 years..but you will when your suffering from aids or any other sexual transmitted infection. Stand up for yourself say no i haven't... believe me EVERY GIRL wants a guy who is clean... don't you find it weird how more guys have had sex then girls... it's cuz girls want to stay clean guys can't get a girl they lie. don't do it you will be a better person and NO ONE will look down on you for it they might make fun of you that day then it will be over trust me you have a whole lot more life ahead of you your only 16

and what everyone is saying no one is oldfashioned that's not true waiting untell marriage is soooo amazing.

Answer 7

Good things come to those who wait. If youre a virgin stay a virgin. When you get older there are alot of hot chics who get off on popping guys cherries. Wait it out when you find a chic like that hold out on her too no matter how hot she is. She will treat you like a god until shes gets her man cherry. Most of your friends won't get god status treatment from women ever in life, you have a chance. Have fun and realize you have it better than them, seriously. And start making a perfect fantasy up in your head and dont give up the cherry until you get exactly what you want. That cherry is like money, that no one else has or can get, spend it wisely.

Answer 8

16 is too young to be engaging in sexual play. You really aren't physically or emotionally ready for a pregnancy yet (whether you are male or female) or all that it involves whether you decide to carry or abort. You also aren't ready for a healthy relationship. That isn't a slight on you. No young teen is equipped emotionally for that yet. Give yourself a few years.

Don't jump into the physical aspect of male/female relationships. There really IS plenty of time for that. Learn something about your potential boyfriend/girlfriend first. Learn to fully trust each other. Learn to talk about anything that should come up. Learn about your hopes and dreams. Once you do all that and feel that you are truly ready, consider the more physical aspects.

It always saddens me to see so many young people lose what makes sex so truly beautiful by turning it into a simple physical exercise. It should be more than sex and lust and desire. Once you cheapen it, how do you restore that magic?

Good luck, Dear.

Answer 9

Do you feel bad because you are? Just because your friends are having sex doesn't mean that you need to. What if one of them gets pregnant, gets somebody pregnant, or gets sick? Don't let it bother you so much. There's a large movement today about saving yourself until you're with someone you want to spend your life with. That's not really such a bad idea is it?
As far as boyfriends/girlfriends, I was 17 when I got my first girlfriend. You'll meet somebody soon enough. Don't be in such a big hurry. Good luck!

Answer 10

I feel your pain. There was a time, in which, i never got any girl that i liked, so i just layed back and let them come to me. Eventually, guy's were asking how i got so many girls to like me, even though some of them i didn't even like, but they seemed to flock to me. Don't be an agressor towards girls, that only gets you ones that you don't want, and about the virgin thing, don't worry about it. Sex will happen when it does, don't push it on a girl, because it always ends up bad.

Answer 11

Don't be too hard on yourself.
And really, "everyone else" isn't doing it. And, you know that that's NOT a good reason to do it anyway.

When the right person comes along, right time, right place...you will know it. Enjoy a relationship, a friendship, BEFORE you "just have sex" cuz you think you're "supposed" to.

It's your body, your life...when you are ready (physically and emotionally) there will be plenty of time to have and ENJOY a sex life.

Take care of yourself first, then friendships & relationships, from there things will work out (be patient).