A dad at my daughter school took her picture. Does this sound weird?

Question

My daughter is in K-she is 6. The dad is single, cute and wild. We have flirted all year. But nothing else. Our daughters are really good friends. Last day of school she tells me he shows up at lunch takes her and his daughter out of the cafeteria to take pictures. He even put his arms around both of them and took pics with his cell. Why???

It's NOT the fact that took their picture that bothers me. It's the fact that it's with a cell phone and not areguler camera. And also that he was able to take her out of the cafereteria. Where are the adults that are suppose to watch over my kids?He could have taken her out of the school and no one would have noticed. And i am also bothered that he didnt' say anything the next day. a nice summer".

I have contacted the superintendent and the staff seems to think i have every right in being concerned.

Answer 1

Just tell him that you think that he is a sexual predator. He will stay away from you and your daughter.

Answer 2

Like many have said, I am guessing the only reason he took the pictures was to have a memory for his own daughter. What no one has suggested and you have mentioned a concern about is why he used his cell phone. I would guess that he had not thought ahead about taking the pictures and that was what he had on hand. Its hard to take pics with a "real" camera when you left it at home! :)

I would say to be concerned, but I would also let all the other parents on here know that most grade schools have about this much security. I volunteered in my daughters K/1 class and I could pick up my friends kids after without telling anyone, and she was even able to pick up my daughter once when I was running late, and I didn't call the school or anything. I am one of the lucky few who knows that my daughter knows who she can leave the school with and who she cannot, so I was less worried about her, but I have complained to the office, and they do nothing.

Talk to the dad, let him know that you were just a little concerned since he forgot to mention that he had been able to take her out of the cafeteria without anyone noticing, but (as long as its true) that at least it was only him and not someone weird. Maybe he will pick up on your concern, and you can put the blame on the school and not him.

Answer 3

Based on what you have told us, I would imagine that this father's picture taking was completely innocent. As for the cell phone - a lot of people use them these days as a regular camera. If this is someone you know and , at least up until now, have felt comfortable with, then I don't think that you need to worry anymore about his motives for taking the picture.

However, I would have a major issue with the school for allowing a non-parent take my child away from the supervised class. To me, that is a much bigger issue than any concerns that you may have about the dad himself. Whie the dad may have not been thinking that he was doing anything that would be upsetting to you, the school has a responsibility to think of that sort of thing. Never ever should they allow a non-parent to take a child from the classroom (or cafeteria, as the case is here) without your express permission.

If your daughter and this man's daughter are friends and if you do think that he was acting innocently, then you may want to consider not making a big deal of this with him. Instead, you should let him know that you are mainly concerned with the school's actions (or lack thereof). This will keep him from being put on the defensive when you go to the schoolboard about their lacking safety procedures. And you definitely do need to take the matter up with them.

Best of luck!

Answer 4

Based on what you have said, I wouldn't read the dark and sinister pervert thing into this situation. It sounds to me like a wild and crazy guy who was acting the way wild and crazy dad's do. He probably was just being goofy to get them to smile for the camera. It's his daughter's good friend!

There is another way to view this situation. If he's been flirting with you all year, he might have been picturing himself with both girls if you two get together.

If this were my daughter, and assuming I was attracted to this wild and cute dad of her good friend, I'd get in touch with him and ask for a copy of the picture. See if it's a shot that is unacceptable. If it's not, take it from there.

If it is unacceptable - tell him. Most men don't think the way we do and may not realize that it looked the way it did.

Answer 5

Because your daughters are friends and he wanted his daughter to have a pic of her friend to remember her during summer. Maybe if you are into this guy and you are both single, (if you can locate his #) you could call him up and see if he wants to meet you at a park and let the girls play together. This would give the two of you a chance to talk and get to know each other without it being weird between the two of you if things don't work out. And your daughters get to play with their best little buddy during summer! Everybody wins! ;)

Answer 6

Well you said that his daughter and your daughter are really good friends..............

I dont think its anything except he wanted to capture a moment in time........ If they are close and he is active in his daughter life, I see nothing wrong with this...... Its actually refreshing to hear of a dad that takes such an interest.

If you have flirted with him all year that means he takes a regular interest in his daughters school life, and friends................... Hes just being a daddy.... Maybe his lil girl asked him for pictures.

If a mom did the same thing......... everyone would say she is just a loving mother, and it was so wonderful she would do that. Why must we always think the guy is being a perv.

Answer 7

What a sad place our world has become when you can`t even take a picture of your daughter and her friend without being labelled a pervert. Isn`t it possible that he was excited about it being the last day of school for his daughter and wanted to remember it with pictures?
I know there are a small number of perverts out there and we need to protect children from them, but that doesn`t mean every single man is bad!!! Since he is the Father of your child`s friend, stop casually flirting and actually get to know him better and find out if you can trust him before flippantly starting rumours that could possibly destroy his reputation.

Answer 8

I work at a school and it against either the law or just the rules nevertheless you are not allowed to take pictures of any mnor with a cell phone only digital cameras. two you need to find out how he took her out of the school. three have you talked to him about it i definately would find out. I do not know why he had to show up at school instead of waiting until school was out and you were there. I would definately voice my concerns and feelings with him.

Answer 9

Maybe for his daughter, The two girls are friends? It was the last day of school? So he might have wanted it done for his girl or his daughter might have wanted it done.

Perverted is not even a good answer to this so dont even listen to those who say that.

Just ask him, you wont get nothing on here from anyone on the subject really.

Answer 10

I'm sure it was just to have pictures for his daughter to remember her friend from kindergarten and maybe he was just being goofy. However, I would be concerned if my child felt uncomfortable with the whole thing. If you're still concerned, see if you can get get in contact with him through the school and ask him about it.

Answer 11

If it is the last day of there first year it is a big deal but if ur kid goes to her friends house and she comes back and tells you that he was taking pics then call the cops OK