Money-Box only on wedding invitations?

Question

Can I opt to buy the bride and groom an actual gift rather than give money if they specifically wrote on the invitation "Money-Box only"?

I don't want to attend a "charity" event, since that's what it sounds like to me!

Answer 1

i think it is rude and greedy to ask for money from your guests. when people give you money for your birthday its usually because they cant think what to get you, but to ask for it is just impolite.

i wouldnt go to the wedding

Answer 2

You are always at liberty to get a bride and groom a present of your choice.

And if they don't like it, that is their problem not yours.

Perhaps they have everything they need to set up house, but are saving money to buy a house.

So perhaps that Money Box is to help fund the purchase of that new house.

If they are your friends, ask them.

If they are not your friends, why did they invite you?

I typically buy a gift in the $25.00 range when I'm invited to attend a wedding and I usually throw in an additional check for $100.00.

Pastor Art

Answer 3

Wow, that is just plain tacky. Depending upon how close you are to the couple I would either not go, go and just put a card in the box or buy your gift and let the chips fall where they may.

Sounds like they will be disappointed in anything other then money which is just showing bad taste. You are their guest and you are celebrating their union. You show your joy by giving them a gift. They set up a bridal registry to "request" what is needed but even that is not necessary. They cannot tell a guest what to give.

Answer 4

I can kind of understand them only wanting monetary gifts. When I get married to my fiance, we're going to be living in a whole other country. My family won't be able to get us gifts that require electricity because the plugs are different where we live, compared to the USA. And since the wedding is going to be in the other country, it would be very annoying and difficult to bring along wedding gifts on the plane and through customs and all that. So I might put on my wedding invitation, "Gifts are not necessary, but if you feel the need to bring a gift, please give money because of the differences in cultures and homes." or something like that. Besides, who ever said you HAD to give them money in the first place? Wedding gifts aren't mandatory.

Answer 5

As everyone should already know by now it's in extremely poor taste to mention anything on your invitations about gifts. Since they only want money you might want to call them up and ask how much would be an appropriate amount? LOL!! Actually, I'd probably donate the amount I would have put into their gift to a favorite charity and get them a lovely card to tell them that since they didn't need any towels, china (whatever) you have donated what you would have spent on their gift to _______________ (insert name of charity here). Congratulate them on their marriage and wish them the best.

I can't stand for people to dictate to me what I should give them.

Answer 6

while I feel that it is tacky to put money only on your wedding invitations, if that is what they put that is what you should give them. I lived with my fiancee for 2 years before we got married, so we had everything we needed pretty much. What we did, was not do a gift registry for the wedding. Noone really knew what to get us, so with the exception of a few nice picture frames, candlesticks etc, people gave us money. Money Only on an invitation just seems like such an ignorant thing to put.

Answer 7

If you feel that this a "charity event", then you probably shouldn't go. You can always gracefully decline on the RSVP. I feel asking for money is actually quite rude, so I would be inclined to not give them any. If these are close family or friends and you feel obligated to attend, then perhaps you should present them with a nice bottle of wine. There is no need for you to stoop to a low level. Sometimes it is better to bite your tongue!

Answer 8

Writing on a invitation "money boy only" is very tacky. The choice of what type gift to give is up to whomever is giving the gift - not the recipient! Were I invited to this wedding I would drop a congratulatory card in their money box - without any money in it.

Answer 9

~~~ wow ! I think writing on the invitaion "Money Box only" is rather rude. An invitation is suppose to be for informing someone of a celebration and they would would like them to attend to join in the celebration,,,bringing a gift or card with money in it should not be expected......

Answer 10

if the happy couple have all the matireal things they need, why would the want to just add more "stuff". Giving money enables them to do what they wish in the beginning of their relationship....like go on a really nice honeymoon.....I think you are being way to judgemental and should not go at all.