grandchild tells me about stepfather?

Question

my 6 year old grandchild told me her new stepfather yells at her all the time and he put her in time out and she said he was so close to her she couldnt breath he had her up against the wall and sat on her legs so she couldnt move. she said she said "help me mommy, help me" and she said her mommy sat there and didnt do anything. I am scared for her would you be and what would you do? thanks

this is my sons child. They have joint custody he gets child 3 days wk. He lives here so child and I are close.The mom got married to a marine last Nov. She didnt really know him and he sure didnt know the child. Had never really met the child,she married this guy so she could get a place to live,ect. She has had her problems to, and there has never been a problem with the child coming here and now all of the sudden she says shes cutting time. Also the gd tells me mom babysits another child that is 2 and she (gd) has to watch her while mommy sleeps. She got hurt the other day and said she fell on the steps and mommy didnt even know cause she was asleep and me and other child were going outside.She and I are close and she tells me things that I can no longer say "well maybe things will be better" to keep peace. There is so much more to this you cant imagine. Son is calling his lawyer tomorrow. Thank you all for responses

Answer 1

Talk to the child's Mom?

Answer 2

I would ask mommy why does the child feel that she did not help her when stepfather sat on her legs while she was in time out?
If I got no answer, I would ask stepfather why he felt that he had to sit on the child's legs while she was in time out.
If he did not answer I would ask a social worker if this behavior was appropriate.
I would try to keep the child with me as long as possible. Kids will say things out of context, but I would error on the side of the child, too many children are mistreated because no one would do anything.
I would make a fuss until I got some satisfactory answers.
Peace

Answer 3

omg this is terrible!!! i would call the authorities and tell them whats going on,this is child abuse,the childs mother is just as bad for letting this go on without doing anything to stop it,the mother should be protecting her child and not allowing the stepfather to do what hes doing.thepoor kid must be terrified!! i read a story in a newspaper (uk) of a woman who sat by and let her boyfriend beat and abuse her small child the child was eventually killed by the boyfriend,you must report this to someone,your grandchild needs protection from these two people.

Answer 4

It sounds as if it may be considered abuse. A 6yr old should not be 'babysitting'. You may have an abuse hot line in your state..
Please call them and tell them what your GD has told you. You can do this anonymously.
Abuse does NOT get better. It gets worse,
She is in danger. Help her. You do not want to see your family on the front page.
PS. The military do not look kindly on any type of family abuse. Perhaps they have a hot line to call at the base where he lives.

Answer 5

I'm not a grand mother but I am a mother who is divorced. My children have a step mum and a step dad as both me and my husband have re-married. I know if any of my 3 children spoke to my mum like this then I think she would first speak to me and then to my children's natural father. This is something you can't ignore. Imagine how you would feel if something terrible happened to your grand child and you had said nothing. Your GP would also give you really good advise as would the CAB. I hope you manage to sort this out. It must be a real worry for you

Answer 6

Omg! Honey that is terrible! A child that young wouldn't lie about something like that. I suggest talking to the child's real father and also contacting DCFS. That sort of abuse could lead to other things.

Answer 7

Ask your daughter if the story is true. You should know if your daughter is lying to you or covering something up. Tell her, if is true, that this is inappropriate behavior on his part (not the time out but everything else) and borders on abuse. Keep an eye on things, your granddaughter may need you.

Answer 8

you have to be careful what children say sometimes they make stuff up cause they know it will upset you and they sometimes thrive on it. its been done since the beginning of time. the grandparent could be mean and that the woman watching is afraid of him also who knows. you could call child protective services aqnd find out for sure but sometimes the kids are making up alot of it.

Answer 9

You should talk to the Mother... Maybe she is a relationship that is in trouble. If he treats her daughter that way he maybe treating her that way. My children have a step-father and that would not ever happen at my house. Is this your Daughter? You need to voice your concerns and get her story.
Good Luck

Answer 10

You need to talk to the mother of your grandchild and tell her that she needs to step up and defend for her daughter. Let her spend the night at your house she will feel safe there.