dealing with annoying relatives?

Question

i live beside my dad and two of my brothers live with him. they are constantly at my house, i can't een come in the house without them being right behind me. they are grown men who don't work for differnet reasons. one brother comes over 10 times a day. i work 40 hrs. a week and sometimes i don't feel like company. if i say anything whether it be in a nice way or not they would get very angry and then i feel really quilty. what to do? other than move, i can't afford it.

Answer 1

Don't let them in. Don't answer the door. Tell them that you were in the basement, bathroom, didn't hear the bell or their knocking. Do this enough times and they will get the message.

Answer 2

They spend time at you house to get away from Dad. Since they don't work or have a place of their own, your's is their next best thing to a place of their own.

You have to quit feeling guilty and put your foot down. It's ok to visit once in awhile, but not every day and, not more than twice. I haven't talked with my brother for over three years, after he mailed me a nasty letter. It was over his dog going after my dog in my home.

I don't really know what to say since you live next door to your dad, except good luck and hope you will find the right answer.

Answer 3

I would just try to explain to them that your tirered or just when they come in go straight to your room lock your door and tell them your tirered eventually they'll get the hint and you should suggest to them to get a JOB.

Answer 4

Tell them to get a damm job, they have too much time on their hands. So what if they get angry, you are telling them the truth and its not your fault if they can't be man enough to accept it.

Answer 5

Tell him to act his age, and get a job.. I know its your brother and you care for him but come on.....

Good Luck..

Bcn_mimosa