My guy and I have been together 7+ years and we're thinking of getting married next year. Since weve already been together so long, we don't want a huge obnoxious wedding, just something fun and laid back for friends and family.
I thought 7/4/08 would be a good date because:
It's holiday most people have it off
It's a Friday so there'd be plenty of recovery time before most guests would have to be at work, and they wouldn't have to rush home right away.
It seems like a holiday people would like to get together on anyway.
My mom seems to think this is a terrible idea because:
Traffic will be busy
People might already have plans.
I understand people might do the same thing every year and make plans in advance for the 4th, but all I genuinely want is to treat my friends and family to a nice evening. If they can't make it, I'm not going to be upset. Of course I would love for everybody to be there.
So, if you were invited to a 7/4 wedding what would you think?
2007-06-24 06:38:09 · 24 answers · asked by Merbet 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It's going to be so hard to choose an answer, all of you are giving great feedback. I'm actually quite suprised most seems to be positive!
Thanks for taking the time to give me all these thoughtful comments!
2007-06-24 07:33:14 · update #1
I wish I could give everybody points, you all gave me some good things to think about!
I think I'll run the idea past my closest friends and family and see if the date/holiday would keep them from the celebration. Even though fireworks for our aniversary would be great, I'd rather have a chance to celebrate with the ones I love.
2007-06-26 19:06:56 · update #2
Several friends and friends of friends have thought the same thing. Their wedding was only well attended if it was a city that people wanted to visit anyway, New York or New Orleans or Atlanta for example. The bridal party was miserable because even though it is a holiday any rest they might have gotten was spent tending to someone in the last stages of wedding frenzy and if they were single and dating their partners were usually wondering why they weren't spending the long holiday with each other instead of traipsing off to a wedding. Holidays in general seem convenient but that's only true if guests are local, don't have standing plans or have enough funds and time to book everything they need. Travel is usually higher on most holiday weekends. I would only attend if I was local to the wedding and didn't have to travel because at least I could retain some part of the vacation weekend for myself--yep that sounds selfish but I like my vacation time.
2007-06-24 08:35:23 · answer #1 · answered by indydst8 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i may go, it isn't much notice. if i didn't have previous plans, it's a great idea.
The fireworks will be a great added attraction, and if you think this is the special day for you and he does too, go and do it.
It isn't much preparation time for your mom, and if she's included, make sure she doesn't get stuck with all the chores and clean=up. Ask friends to help, or pay a girl to come in and help serve and clean=up. There are advertisments for jobs wanted, and someone from these can help, at low cost.
Use Chinet, or something you can toss, something nice enough for friends, and no accidents. Go to the shop for those nice fancy glasses which can be used once.
I think the weather, your love, the holiday is influencing you. My anniversary is right following the fourth, and my birthday is close also, and it was very hard to not want to get married this day, although he chose a different day, and I waited. The fourth of July has special meaning for me, as it overlaps my birthday, and the fireworks I love as a personal birthday gift. I didn't think I would want so much to be married this day, although our wedding was soon after, and already planned, and I kept it to myself. He'd given me a poem which I read many times the evening of the fourth. Our bands were ordered, and inscribed with the day, so it was set. My son's due date was our wedding anniversary, although he came a few weeks late, at the end of July.
2007-06-24 09:50:46 · answer #2 · answered by Marissa Di 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see you already have a lot of answers, but I figured I'd throw my two cents in anyway. I personally would go to a July 4th wedding - I think it would be fun! And then (if it's legal in your state...or even if its not haha) you can have a few crazy drunken idiots light fireworks at your reception :P. I think it sounds like something I'd love to do...and it's a good idea because of all the reasons you mentioned, everyone being off and it being a Friday. It would be a good idea to try and incorporate a patriotic theme into the wedding as well - that could make it fun and festive, along with the idea of a wedding...festivity galore lol. Yeah, traffic will be busy...but traffic's busy for Christmas and people still travel for that don't they? Every year! This is once. Also, as for people having plans, again, it's not like you'll be getting married EVERY Fourth of July - and if you tell them soon, they'll have MORE than a year to plan your wedding instead of other activities. Plus a 4th of July wedding anniversary every year would be fun - you could go watch the fireworks on your anniversary every year hehe :) Good luck and congratulations!!
2007-06-24 07:51:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
That is a tough call. It's not a MAJOR family holiday for everyone, but for some families it is.
My birthday is the week after the 4th. I always found it difficult to have a successful birthday party because people were usually on vacations, family reunions, etc during that time.
BUT a wedding is a little different from a birthday for a kid.
My ex's parents were married on July 4th. When the family got together, it was usually all about the fireworks and 4th of July - it never seemed to be really about their anniversary... and they had 7 kids. I thought that was kinda sad. BUT they did get to watch fireworks on their anniverary every year.
2007-06-24 07:16:24 · answer #4 · answered by Proud Momma 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your mom is right, it's never a good idea to have your wedding coincide with a holiday, any holiday. I wouldn't go to a 4th of July wedding, especially if it's one of the few 4th of Julys that actually gets me a long weekend. It's a huge imposition to take away one of the long weekends that people get throughout the year. Just have your wedding on a normal weekend.
2007-06-24 09:47:01 · answer #5 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a fantastic idea! The 4th of July is not a family oriented holiday - it's not Christmas, Easter, Thanksgiving, or any other day where families are meant to be together (I did not reference every family oriented holiday, I know)
Make sure you send out Save the Date cards in mid-April, and invites should go out on June 1.
You should probably arrange to either entertain in the same way that they might anyway (can you get a location where you can see local fireworks, or set off your own?), if you are looking laid back, consider a reception site where you can do a large BBQ for dinner, and not make it very formal. Of course, your colours should be red, white and blue.
So, don't try to compete with the holiday - just use it to compliment the wedding.
2007-06-24 06:56:54 · answer #6 · answered by Jewelz_4_U 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋
I don't think it's a bad idea. I've heard about plenty of weddings that have taken place on New Year's Eve and New Year's Day. I don't think a July 4th wedding would be much different. Plus, if you're letting the people you want to come know a full year in advance that you are most likely going to get married on the 4th, I think there shouldn't be a problem with people already having plans. I mean, I don't plan my July 4th picnic a year in advance!
2007-06-24 06:49:43 · answer #7 · answered by BethS 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
sweetie i think that is a great idea, but remember to also incorporate some class into the the 7-4/wedding experience. No disrespect to mom, but she is not getting married. Yes most people already have their plans, but that because people usually stick to the same thing because it is more safe for them because they no what to expect. Make sure your guest receive their invites maybe outside of the normal window of sending invites out just so they can't make plans before hand. To help send out an hold the date invitation something less formal, but of course tasteful. Yes i would come!!! I love different things. Oh yeah still have your tier cake, but make sure you have something on it about 7/4 something fun. will this be outside or in?
2007-06-24 07:03:54 · answer #8 · answered by sumayyah 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Last week end we had my daughter's birthday party with the jungle gym, face painting and everything it was so much fun that my friends and I want to do that again for independence day but not too many parents wants to put out any cash and I am not going to do it ... I will just spend that money on the fireworks and have a BBQ.. if my plans to Canada fall though!!! (we just made it this morning) My sister lives in Niagara Falls!!!
2016-05-19 05:46:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would be a great idea! You could have it at night so when they say kiss the bride and you kiss fireworks can go of. It would be very fun. It would be a nice family and friend styled wedding. You can also do a firework show after your wedding. I think it would be a good outside wedding! I would want to go to it. I would like to see how they held it. I would be delighted to spend July 4 with my friends. Even if traffic was bad they could fly. Hope you have a great wedding. Congrats!
2007-06-24 06:48:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋